Signs that you are neglecting your man

RaydaJ By RaydaJ, 11th Mar 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/2yigyr81/
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How to transform a lackluster marriage into a great relationship

Taking things for granted

Have you become so comfortable in your marriage that you do not take the same care now with your appearance that you did when you first met? Is your husband still careful with his grooming and diet and exercise regime and always looking good? This is telling evidence that you are falling off the scoreboard and allowing the marriage to go stale. A marriage that is dull and without luster will not last long if the couple puts no work into it. Here are some telling signs that you are taking your man and your marriage for granted.

Taking stock of the situation

• You do not take the same care with your appearance and go to bed wearing socks.
• You do not shower every day before coming to bed.
• There are no longer any roses or chocolates or little surprise gifts.
• You don’t brush your teeth in the mornings and don’t have the same regime with hygiene you first had.
• You are becoming Ma and Pa Kettle and slowly sinking into a boring lifestyle.
• You pass gas in bed and let out machine gun farts, laughing.
• You don’t surprise him at the front door with those little outfits you first wore and play doctor and nurse.

Bad breath a deal breaker


Surprisingly, these are the small things which eventually build up which you cannot pinpoint when someone asks you what went wrong. There are insidious and nagging thoughts in your head that you are not doing enough, but still you do nothing about it. Did you think when you got married that you could just lie back and not develop marital friendship and intimacy? Or that you would find a woman or a man and fall instantly IN love and live on a high forever? The bottom line with every kind of relationship is that partners grow bored with one another just like you cannot eat the same food every day. Well, you cannot change partners, but you can spice things up.

A big sign that you are neglecting your man is that you no longer do the small things which you enjoyed when you first started dating. Are you still playing Scrabble at the club where you played once a week, got the opportunity to play with your partner in a competition, or got involved in things which used to interest both of you? Are you still meeting your friends for scones and tea on Saturday afternoons? Are you still seeing your friends? Are things still hot in the bedroom? Think of the best kind of relationship you would want; a companion that cares for you, and is there for you, one you can tell anything to and never betrays you, one who has your best interest at heart. And happily, very happily, one you still want to be close to and intimate with.

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Boring, Couple, Dull, Marriage, Relationships, Spice Up Marriage

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author avatar RaydaJ
Published novelist of ten books, dozens of short stories, and hundreds of articles. Will focus on health which has many areas, and on parenting.

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author avatar Tranquilpen
11th Mar 2012 (#)

Brilliant observation. I rest my case. Still, there's always next time?

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author avatar Buzz
11th Mar 2012 (#)

Raydaj, I notice you're always on the receiving end of followers and comments and you not even once reciprocated.

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author avatar RaydaJ
11th Mar 2012 (#)

Fair enough. If you tell me what to do I will do it but explain how to do it. I thought by commenting on people's letters that it was good. Isn't it? I would like to reciprocate. I have to learn about backlinks

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author avatar Buzz
11th Mar 2012 (#)

Don't be surprised if those who follow you will unfollow if you'll just publish solely for views from them.

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author avatar RaydaJ
11th Mar 2012 (#)

To continue, what does one do? I deal with all the comments addressed to me.

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author avatar Funom Makama
11th Mar 2012 (#)

Nice work RaydaJ and if what Buzz is saying is true, then i guess you need to read and comment on the articles of others.... If you really want to be told what to do, then go to the link below

http://www.wikinut.com/music-therapy%3a-the-soul-nourishment-and-healer-1000-songs-case-samples/2ptirvrk/2gvzxj6x/

Its my most recent article (not to sound demanding)... But I think wikinut is more of been a family than just an article directory...
Once again, nice work!

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author avatar Denise O
12th Mar 2012 (#)

Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar Tranquilpen
13th Mar 2012 (#)

Hello Raydaj, you do write splendidly but what Buzz is saying rings true my friend. The easiest way to get started is to simply complete your comments on a page, and then starting at the top, double click on the image of the person commenting. you are then taken to their personal page. Read their bio's to get to now them a bit. Then, If you wish, click the green link at the top of the writer's page, a drop down screen will appear stating that you are now following the person. Next go down their list of written articles and simply click on the blue titles and read the article plus comment and then page back after reading and click on the next writer's photo. This is pretty much what we do. Also get into the habit of clicking and opening those social pages at the bottom of your or any other writer's article Delicious, Digg Stumble upon, Redditt, Twitter, Google+ and Facebook. From your own page, click on them one by one and sign up. Always promote your own page then if you like a particular article from another author, do the same for them, the default link will ensure that the author will get the credit. My advice is sound and I will not mislead you in any way, having written over a hundred article since 2010, most of which have star awards. I will be available at any time via a click on the envelope on my personal page. kindly reject this information if it offends you in any way. Best wishes Andre'

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