The garbage in our minds.
By ICANANSWER, 20th Jun 2012 | Follow this author
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If you are familiar with any of the 12 Step programs; AA, NA, ACOA, Al-Anon, and other programs, then you will understand this article. But it doesn’t just apply to people who have an addiction, or families that have an addicted person in them. I believe that everyone should take a look at themselves, and their behavior every so often, to see if there is any garbage there.
Garbage.
It isn’t pleasant to live with, and it clutters up our thinking and our lives. Sometimes we get lost in it, and forget who we are. Anyone that grew up in a dysfunctional home knows about the garbage; the negative messages and false truths that were given to us by our families. Soon we were so comfortable with garbage that we began to make our own. Then we instinctively shared it with our children, spouses, and friends. We carried our garbage everywhere we went, and collected more along the way.
Too Much Garbage.
Eventually, the garbage was too heavy to carry around,and we tried to give it all away. But we found that it was impossible to do alone. So we went to a support group, and met with other people who wanted to dump their garbage, and support us in our dumping process. We learned that we would have to work very hard on our thinking process to be garbage-less.
Recovery.
Recovery is like a huge dumpster where we can dispose of our garbage one piece at a time. It allows us to feel good about ourselves, so we can learn to make healthier choices, and choose our own adventure.
I believe that there is some type of dysfunction in almost every home. People develop different coping skills for survival, comfort, or escape. Then they may keep using those coping skills, even when they no longer need to use them. I think everyone should sort through the garbage in their life, once in a while, just to see what is there. It is good to know that there are always support groups, therapists, and friends, to help us sort through it.
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21st Jun 2012 (#)
I really understand and agree with what you are basically saying but, yes I have a but. LOL
If we see things as they (really) are as it comes, then we do not have to look inside ourselves to see our faults later on down the road. We should have already recognized this, at least by a flashing thought of it, after you dump in that trash can. I am so happy I never carried on the dysfunction I was raised with, with the ones I love, some do break the cycle. I do hear ya though, we are not perfect and we 'all' do need to take a check up, from the neck up at times. Is it dysfunction in every family (that has no physical or mental abuse involved) or is it just life. Nice one. Thank you for sharing.:)
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21st Jun 2012 (#)
I get your point. Getting rid of garbage either at home or in our brain needs considerable effort.
Well written.
May I suggest dumping the word 'that' in few sentences.
Soon we were comfortable with garbage we collected and made it our own.
I believe there is some type of... 'That' is also a kind of garbage. What do you say?
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28th Jun 2012 (#)
thank you for your comments.
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21st Jun 2012 (#)
Yes, we can easily get drowned in negativity and even thrive in it to make it a constant companion! Good thoughts - siva
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28th Jun 2012 (#)
thank you for your comments.
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22nd Jun 2012 (#)
An excellent page, ICANANSWER. So true and a worthwhile read. I am just catching up with reading your pages but have been unable to comment on each one. You certainly have written sinsightful pages. Well done!
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24th Jun 2012 (#)
We need to focus on the things that burden our minds down. They are on s threefold level. There is garbage in the body. garbage in the spirit and garbage in the mind. They should get a cleaning out every week. You should take a laxative for the body. Read the Bible for the mind and pray to God for the cleansing of your spirit.
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28th Jun 2012 (#)
thank you for your comment
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28th Jun 2012 (#)
Thank you so much for your kind words.
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29th Jun 2012 (#)
Excellent visual to this!
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