The garbage in our minds.
If you are familiar with any of the 12 Step programs; AA, NA, ACOA, Al-Anon, and other programs, then you will understand this article. But it doesn’t just apply to people who have an addiction, or families that have an addicted person in them. I believe that everyone should take a look at themselves, and their behavior every so often, to see if there is any garbage there.
It isn’t pleasant to live with, and it clutters up our thinking and our lives. Sometimes we get lost in it, and forget who we are. Anyone that grew up in a dysfunctional home knows about the garbage; the negative messages and false truths that were given to us by our families. Soon we were so comfortable with garbage that we began to make our own. Then we instinctively shared it with our children, spouses, and friends. We carried our garbage everywhere we went, and collected more along the way.
Too Much Garbage.
Eventually, the garbage was too heavy to carry around,and we tried to give it all away. But we found that it was impossible to do alone. So we went to a support group, and met with other people who wanted to dump their garbage, and support us in our dumping process. We learned that we would have to work very hard on our thinking process to be garbage-less.
Recovery is like a huge dumpster where we can dispose of our garbage one piece at a time. It allows us to feel good about ourselves, so we can learn to make healthier choices, and choose our own adventure.
I believe that there is some type of dysfunction in almost every home. People develop different coping skills for survival, comfort, or escape. Then they may keep using those coping skills, even when they no longer need to use them. I think everyone should sort through the garbage in their life, once in a while, just to see what is there. It is good to know that there are always support groups, therapists, and friends, to help us sort through it.