A Real Man

Harris Mungai By Harris Mungai, 20th Feb 2015 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/3ys13117/
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Masculinity isn't really defined by culture or demonstrated by muscle. Nor is it gained through the number of women sexually conquered or by athleticism,military,financial or political victories. I believe a real man is defined simply as a male who lives responsibly.

A Real Man Lives Responsibly

A real man takes responsibility and is responsible to those around him. To be born male is God's gift,to become a man is a choice of responsibility.
Man was given rules for good life. He had the freedom of choice,but choice and responsiblility go together. Adam was created by God and placed in a space of happiness. He had all he needed to do life to it's fullness. But life cannot be a do-what-you-want sort of thing. There are guidelines to good living. For Adam,it was simple and crystal clear-no grey areas. Eat all you want, but eat not from a certain tree. Easy,right? Not really.
Was the forbidden fruit attractive? Yes,it was most inviting and promising. But it was not good for Adam. Responsibility calls for the ability to respond appropriately in different circumstances. Adam failed; he opted out of the security of obedience. He watched on as his woman was tempted and he joined in the fall. They disobeyed God. The results were ugly.

What Does It Mean?

To live responsibly is to realize that actions have consequences and that choices affect destiny. You have the freedom to choose,but every choice is a path in a certain direction. The world is awash with relativism. People do what they feel like or what works for them. Life can only yield chaos if it is lived that way. Traffic rules create order and promise security. Right and wrong does the same.
But who determines what is right from what is wrong? There has got to be standards that do not shift,lines drawn on a rock and not shifting sand. That is what God's word,the Bible offers. It has been around for years. It is the manufacturer's manual. It promises success if we walk it's tested paths. A man ought to allow God's word to reign in his life,walk in obedience to it and judge his life against it.
A man whose choices are guided by his moods or the person he is dealing with is inconsistent. God's word is the truth. God didn't dish out a rule from meanness. Divine law is found on love. God was protecting the man from himself and from trouble. Truth provides boundaries for our own good. A river without banks will flood the area and wreck havoc. Fun without the limits of right and wrong will ruin a man.
A real man makes a choice to live responsibly!


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I developed an interest in writing when I was in elementary school and since then this passion keeps on burning in me.Thank you Wikinut for this chance to express myself here.

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20th Feb 2015 (#)


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author avatar Carol Roach
21st Feb 2015 (#)

scientifically masculity and femininity is defined by the culture we live in. Both psychologists and sociologist agree , now that does not mean that someone can not break from these social and cultural norms.
For example equality of the sexes is a very important issue in Canada and the USA, whereas in other parts of the world it may not be so.

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author avatar Dawn143
22nd Feb 2015 (#)

I personally love this description that you've penned. Well said, there are so many things that society portrays as what is "manly" by offering illustrations of living by the man code, all I see are excuses for poor behavior and worldly shallow pursuits. Great thought.

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author avatar Harris Mungai
23rd Feb 2015 (#)

Thanks for the comments.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Feb 2015 (#)

Rights go with responsibilities. Freedom and democracy can be effective only of there is discipline. I cannot swing my arms freely unmindful of people around me. A real man should also prove to be a gentleman. Nice thoughts, Harris - siva

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author avatar Jenny Heart
23rd Feb 2015 (#)

Wise choices are best otherwise the repercussions as you said are ugly to say the least. This is my favorite of all your pieces. Full of words to ponder upon for the best chances for a better life. Exceptional!

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author avatar Harris Mungai
23rd Feb 2015 (#)

Yea,exactly Siva. Thanks for adding that.

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author avatar Harris Mungai
23rd Feb 2015 (#)

Wow,Jenny you're so kind. Thanks a lot for those encouraging words.

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