Accepting Reality Gives Greatest Reward

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Lack of cooperation and cohesion are preventing us from realizing our true potential. When we accept the reality that we sink or swim as one, we then inch towards the doors of heaven on earth.

Challenging Life

We are goaded to start running and worrying as soon as we possibly can! We are set targets by our parents and peers. We have to measure up to expectations or live with a feeling of being losers in the game of life. Most have to work to earn a living and there is hardly any respite. It starts with schooling with an eye on a rewarding career. We hop across many a hurdle along the way, live and reminisce to tell the tale. That sums up our life and in a way of other species, our fellow travelers that also see the light under our nurturing sun.

Attitude Decides

Few are born with the proverbial silver spoon in their mouths. They get a head start in terms of comforts coming their way. But others can earn it by the sweat of their brow and even get ahead. That is the beauty of life – everyone is blessed to get due rewards but with the right attitude. Attitude decides our altitude, not only in material terms, in the end. The reward and meaning we get from life is entirely up to us, within us. We can walk with a spring in our walk or at the other extreme wallow in self-pity. We choose to spread cheer or pall of gloom.

Ever Changing Realities

Those who accept the realities of the day are truly blessed. The whole creation, universe, even multi-verse, is in a state of flux. No moment repeats! That means reality changes in subtle ways and our lives too as they depend on it. Change is the only constant. We need to embrace the moments with humility and acceptance. That decides our state of mind. Even good old days can be replicated, made better, when we learn from our mistakes and adjust our outlook. My further thoughts:

1. Life a blessing: The reason for our birth here is mystery, more so as a human being. But we feel we are the most blessed though that is a moot point! But we have the ability to make our lives a blessing not only for us but also to others with the right attitude and approach.

2. Learn from mistakes: History is replete with wisdom – how to live and not live! We have enough of history to avoid every mistake. And then the new discoveries through technology that have broken barriers that divided us in the past. The biggest of them – making it clear everyone yearns for peace and coexistence. All have same feeling, especially the majority poor, though manipulators hold sway over our destiny.

3. One world: Though we live in many countries, cultures, our lifestyles are merging with the craving for similar lifestyles, gadgets.

4. Technology a window to better world: News and views from around the world are available to all. We get the latest news, views and interviews from everywhere. So technology has broken hitherto ironclad barriers.

5. Awareness of needed actions: Every right thinking person is able to analyse and come to own conclusion for needed actions that suit his needs, strengths and limitations. So everyone can take charge of own lives without being at the mercy of others.

6. True meaning of Freedom and Democracy: We have seen the functioning of freedom and democracy. Despite their failings they have given us a life that is far removed from the tyrannical ways of the past. We should cherish the path that our forefathers guided us to take, improve on the workings and fine-tune them to plug the loopholes.

Our lives are far from perfect but we have come a long way from a dark past where few rode rough-shod over the vast majority with impunity. The vestiges of the past are still seen when some take advantage of others’ kindness and generosity and pursue selfish goals. They are the few bad apples that we have to watch out for in our on-going battle to keep our heads above water and maintain our vigil to prevent us from sliding into an abyss.

The Way to Go

We know where we stand more than at any time in the past. Individually we are up to date with the latest and also collectively. Our interests are same – so what are we waiting for to avoid past mistakes, shed burdensome baggage? We know the reality and also what to do to take the next step. We have to step out of the comfort zone that makes us repeat the same mistakes. We need to make sacrifices and thereby enjoy the rewards too by getting out of the rut. Our freedom and democracy have led us to a state of affairs where efficient functioning of government machinery is at stake. Our leaders can promise much but we put spokes in the wheel through checks and balances that choke initiatives to get things done. We need to get things going than lose ourselves in semantics. When the agenda is clear before elections and they are decided at the polls, why should there be any barriers later?

Individually too, we have to assess the realities as an on-going process. The change is becoming faster to such an extent we lose our footing on the basics. We just drift along. A herd instinct makes us lose our way. We have seen individual initiatives touch our lives positively more than leaders can hope for. After all, politicians have selfish motives. The reality is democracy and freedom is still exploited by few to make them work to their advantage. As we tussle with this reality we have to still make them work as alternatives look hazy at best. The human mind and its workings prove too complex to benefit humanity as a whole. We have to grapple with the challenges, trust one another with a pinch of salt and get closer to understanding the ultimate reality that we swim or sink as one with each passing day. Cohesion and cooperation always prove a mirage – a reality that we have to accept unless a miracle is hiding around the corner. Then we are at the doors of the elusive heaven while still alive! That is what we have to aspire and work for – an abiding challenge and task for humanity to realize their full potential.


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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Mark for your support and encouragement - siva

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author avatar Retired
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Sage insights delivered with compassion, humility and wisdom, as usual, Sivaji. Nice pic of Mandela, too. Namaste, rd

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Rama-ji for your kind words. Mandela is a living legend and he is always in my mind especially when I think how the world could have been if we had few of such exalted souls in our midst. Namaste - siva

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author avatar Grumpybear
30th Jun 2013 (#)

This is so beautifully stated and I feel as you do. One World, One People for we are. :)

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Grumpybear. People treat us the same way we treat, approach them. Now that Iron Curtain and China's isolation are things of the past, we should move forward. And for that we should start with all out disarmament - siva

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
30th Jun 2013 (#)

marvellous piece this dear siva..wisdom from the soul indeed..thank you again for sharing this...blessings...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Carolina. Your words are touching, elevating - siva

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author avatar Delicia Powers
30th Jun 2013 (#)

this article really sings to me Siva...my Mom used the old adage "bloom where you are planted" and you have underscored reason that change is not always quick but each person matters in what they do and never give up trying ...thank you again siva...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Delicia for your input. Let the change that we want in this world start with us. We do not have any more great agents of change now, or rather we take all as equal. Then for change to happen we all have to do our part. And the days of miracles are also rare as we progress in science! siva

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author avatar Connie McKinney
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Great work, Siva. This one comes right from your heart. Well done.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks for leaving a loving and encouraging comment, Connie - siva

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author avatar Randhir Bechoo
30th Jun 2013 (#)

A good read.Amazingly the 21st century techologies on comunications,social networking has become cheaper and effective.Thumps up for freedom.I like to leave with quote I wrote..."Having a passion is important.But having a passion to see that man is not chain to ignorance but held high in knowledge no matter what army rules,no matter what odds are against him is a true freedom fighter,a sepoy,a Mangal Pandey."
-Randhir Bechoo

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Randhir for the comments and the meaningful quote. Technology has made it easier for people to escape from tyranny - hopefully, it will lead to genuine assertion of the interest of the majority who want to be left alone but still contribute meaningfully to the creative process - siva

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Indeed we need to see the truth and deal with it, not live in a fog of fake truths.
I like the idea that we can make a heaven on earth.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Mark for your take. We should find common ground than lose ourselves in divisive paths and outward appearances. We all can identify equally with great art, music, other achievements and none has a monopoly on ability. We have left heavy baggage behind us like the iron curtain and China seamlessly entering the world stage from the Mao era of isolation. In fact, they show us what discipline can achieve. But we have to tackle the arms merchants and other shenanigans who sow discord for monetary gain with human lives not having any value to them except, maybe, their own! We are in the cusp of higher consciousness despite much darkness - siva

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Well deserved star! Lots of info that is meaningful to life here.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jul 2013 (#)

Thank you Phyl for your support. When we analyze and stick close to reality we can accept the vicissitudes of life - siva

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author avatar Shirley Shuler
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you for this wise piece, siva....much can be achieved with compassion and humility.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jul 2013 (#)

Thank you Shirley for your comment. When we realize we are part of the whole creative process we become compassionate and accept what life offers us with humility - siva

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author avatar Mike Robbers
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Excellent read, siva and a I do like the positive attitude of the article. 'Cohesion and cooperation' humanity's keywords, indeed!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jul 2013 (#)

Thank you Mike. When we strive for social cohesion and cooperate for common good, we will see the difference. And for that we have to watch out for those who act for their selfish ends. Few sow discord and the society pays the price - siva

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author avatar M G Singh
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Accepting reality is very difficult, very few can face it. But if you can you are a winner. Good post Siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jul 2013 (#)

Thanks Madan. At a personal level, I analyze what I face and come to the conclusion everything happens for a purpose - for a ride here that prepares us for the future. Likewise, it is better for wise counsels to find solutions to the ills afflicting society like how to put an end to wars by accepting facts of life - we are not responsible for what happened in the past but can learn from them - siva

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author avatar Chris Breva
1st Jul 2013 (#)

"And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today", page 417 Big Book Alcoholics Anonymous.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jul 2013 (#)

Thank you Chris for your comments and the quote; so happy you are on the mend in every way! siva

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author avatar wonder
1st Jul 2013 (#)

We have to accept change and work for the better. For that we need eyes to see.Only then we can claim ourselves modern.
There is so much depth in the article.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jul 2013 (#)

Thank you Wonder for your comments. Many lament why me? little realizing all are in the same boat. We are part of creation and hence have to do our part as agents of change that we want to see - siva

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author avatar Carol
1st Jul 2013 (#)

Great insights from you Siva, thankyou for sharing your wisdom with us!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jul 2013 (#)

Thank you Carol for such kind words of encouragement - siva

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
1st Jul 2013 (#)

Reality is what you make your life to be as you are what you co-create wherein destiny listens to your innermost thoughts and feelings and creates it all around you and nothing can change that in this world but you. Its all about the ability to adapt to life as change alone is constant wherein Survival of the Fittest determines where life really stands.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jul 2013 (#)

Thanks Lady Aiyanna. What I had in mind was from two angles - individually and as humanity. When I hit an apparent roadblock, I try to analyze where I am and the reason for my predicament. If the door is well shut, well and good, there are other choices. Likewise, we have chosen democracy and freedom but the reality is - some are still more than equal! The only saving grace is there is no overt tyranny.So that is a reality that we have to tackle to make the system serve the majority who plays by the rule. We need to first understand reality and make it better as an ongoing process - siva

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author avatar Penny W-T
1st Jul 2013 (#)

Clear insight into shat can really make a difference. We have to ALL work for one aim and then the world can progress. A lovely piece.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jul 2013 (#)

Thank you Penny for your comments. The world is indeed in the cusp a new frontier. The younger generation has more in common than at anytime in the past - all lessons learned. It can get only better - if we set our minds to stay united forgetting past actions for which we are not responsible - siva

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author avatar Penny W-T
1st Jul 2013 (#)

Whoops, fingers still not recovered from hand op - should be WHAT !

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jul 2013 (#)

Take care my friend - siva

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author avatar Fahad Amjad
2nd Jul 2013 (#)

I like your opinion fadi

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
3rd Jul 2013 (#)

Thanks Fahad for your comments - siva

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author avatar LOVERME
3rd Jul 2013 (#)

it is beyond my station to comment...
on such knowledgeable one like you
but I know no one learns
from history
it's sheer waste of time
and money
all want to make money
then fall
they have made so much
for after the fall... most of all seven generations what will happen to 8th ask some...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
3rd Jul 2013 (#)

Thanks Loverme, agreed that is the way of the world. I have seen, like in a motor car race, once you are in the racing circuit of wealth accumulation, no turning back. We should know what we are getting into. Eike Batista of Brazil boasted in 2010 that he will have $100 billion to become the richest in the world. But he has much less after that interview. Let few follow such passions but for the majority the higher one rises in terms of wealth the harder is the fall - mostly in terms of peace of mind - siva

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author avatar Kingwell
3rd Jul 2013 (#)

Another great post my friend. We have an opportunity today that no other generation in recorded history has known. Let's hope that we use it to become more enlightened beings and not for destruction.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
4th Jul 2013 (#)

Thanks Kingwell. This generation could have the best of all worlds - memories of a past with time for each other, a present enjoying fruits of the past toils, and a promising future. But we are over-exploiting finite resources in unsustainable ways. We need to pause, catch our breath and ponder where we are headed for - siva

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author avatar Retired
4th Jul 2013 (#)

I like it "Those who accept the realities of the day are truly blessed."
human being in submission, we just live out what God has created

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
4th Jul 2013 (#)

Thanks Deden. My take is to change what we can for the better and accept those we cannot - siva

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author avatar LOVERME
5th Jul 2013 (#)

all things are bright and beautiful
the creator makes them all
and since ages, does continue to create
all big and small and also he does many overhauls
as HE as the creator
has to exist too after all...
thanks again

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
5th Jul 2013 (#)

Thanks Loverme. The Creator is a master of Creative destruction too - what cannot survive is soon discarded. We may think in our hubris that we are the Chosen One but He may have other plans! There maybe others waiting in line - impatiently! Maybe, He is also answerable to many! Limitless possibilities - siva

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author avatar Mariah
5th Jul 2013 (#)

Life can be harsh but could be beautiful if we should seek to learn from past times in the avoidance of repetition, welcome the benefits of change, and truly embrace the reality that we are one.
The most rewarding aspect of life is to be found in loving our fellow man, it costs us nothing and pays great dividends.
A most impressive and inspiring piece Siva.
Thank you my friend, and also for your thoughtful message of good wishes on my latter page.
Mariah

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
5th Jul 2013 (#)

Thanks Mariah, so happy to read you again after what looked ages! We should stay close to reality and that also changes over time! Past is over and our deeds are part of history, and as long as we rose to the occasion it is alright. We have to keep running to stay where we are and look ahead with hope and aspiration. Till our last moments we will have some role to play and let us make it in such a way to benefit the whole creative process before our recall - siva

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author avatar Subra
6th Jul 2013 (#)

Dear Siva, my view is that the Freudian analysis of reality envisages that no obstacle or evil is too great to be overcome with a "positive thinking" approach. The romantic vision of reality sees life as a series of quests with the seeker a movie cowboy hero type. The tragic vision entails the recognition of the dangers and defeats hovering in every situation. The ironic vision seeks out the contradictions, ambiguities, and paradoxes and overlaps the tragic vision somewhat. Whatever the vision, reality depends on each person’s worldview, depending on his experiences of life and how he views the world with his own lenses. Therefore reality differs from one person to another and so ideas like cooperation and cohesion are relative.

Once again a fine 'star' effort, Siva!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jul 2013 (#)

Thanks dear Subra for your input. My view is rather simple, more attuned and addressed to the life of vast majority who feel lost. By looking at the reality of life around, they can find solace. By choosing a lifestyle we should accept its just rewards. While some pursue wealth as the be-all and end-all, most prefer a sedate life that brings different rewards. Likewise, countries should evaluate their basic needs than pursue those that do not really matter to them, grandiose plans that put many others off. Let the whole world play a united part than few trying to flex their muscles. Let us move towards an inclusive society, world, however idealistic it may sound now - siva

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author avatar MMD
4th Aug 2013 (#)

I have learnt one thing from this article which is face the reality and learn from mistakes.

God bless you siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
4th Aug 2013 (#)

Thanks MMD, it is my pleasure to share what I have learned in life. The beauty of creation is we have common interests. And we all thirst for love - so be generous with it. I have lived all my time in Asia but I can easily connect with anyone, anywhere. Reality is transient so we have to change with the times - you too Brutus should never be forgotten! siva

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author avatar Songbird B
14th Mar 2014 (#)

I know you are a humble man dear Siva, but you have such an amazing clear-sighted view of situations. Your words speak volumes my friend, and whether you realise it or not, your wisdom is profound..\0/xxx

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
15th Mar 2014 (#)

Thank you Songbird for reading this post of nearly a year ago. I reflect on the life of vast majority who are used as foot solders and, in some countries, treated less than equal despite having a political system touting democracy and freedom. Few cast a pall of gloom pursuing their selfish interests forgetting that they are sowing seeds of destruction down their own generations. If only they reflected on the common journey destined for us they will not end up with egg, or even worse, on their faces after their tenure here! All their hoards will prove an albatross around their necks as per the Koran. Your words come from a kind and generous heart - siva

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