Age of Accountability

aking1614 By aking1614, 2nd Aug 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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This is a wake up call to all grown-ups. GROW UP! Your choices and actions are your responsibiltiy.

I'm Fired Up!

I have reached the point where my patience has run quite thin. I am sick to death of listening to adults blame their actions on the actions and behaviors of others. Isn’t there a time in every person’s life where they become responsible for what they choose to do? Can we not, as adults, choose to do the right thing regardless of whether others choose to do the wrong thing?

At What age Do We Become Accountable For Our Actions?

I was searching for a scripture to insert here, but there is nothing specific given in the bible with regard to the age of accountability. We know that Christ was around 12 years of age when he began teaching in the temple. Those of the Jewish faith believe a child becomes an adult at 13, celebrating this grand occasion with a Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah. Here in the USA, the legal age of consent is 18. At that point we are legally responsible for our actions and are considered adults with all the rights and responsibilities attached to that status.

Peter Pan Syndrome Perhaps?

So what can we say about those who have well exceeded these ages but still use excuses like “I hit Johnny because he hit me first?” I’m being a bit facetious here, but this is a serious concern. Can we continue to do evil because others do evil? Can we mistreat our children because our parents mistreated us? Can we be unfaithful to our spouses because dad cheated on mom? At what point do we say enough is enough? Who will be the one to break the cycle of excuses and stand for what is right?

Stop Placing the Blame Elsewhere

It’s time out for the blame game. Each rational and mentally stable adult is responsible for the choices he or she makes. There is ALWAYS a choice. We can choose to do what is right even in the face of everyone around us doing wrong. At some point in our lives, we should no longer need someone to hold our hand and lead us down the right path. We are adults and, therefore, free to make our own decisions.

Get Over It Already!

At some point (even if it requires counseling) we should be able to work through our past hurts and not use them as an excuse to hurt others. What mom and dad did to you 40 years ago should no longer be a millstone around your neck. What your ex-wife/ex-husband did should not carry over into a new relationship. I am sure that since then, there have been some positive people in your life that could have (if you allowed them to) helped mold you into a better person.

Having My Say

So I say to those of you in your 30’s 40’s and even 50’s, you are well past any acknowledged age of accountability. GROW UP! Everything you do or don’t do, as well as the resulting consequence, falls squarely on your shoulders. It is YOUR FAULT and YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.


©2011 – Andrea J. Shannon

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Accountability, Adults, Blame, Childish, Choices, Decisions, Excuses, Past Memories, Responsibilility

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I am an engineer by trade, but a poet and songstress at heart. I started writing occasional articles online about five years ago, but poetry is still my first love.

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
3rd Aug 2011 (#)

This is a good reality check for many people.

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author avatar aking1614
3rd Aug 2011 (#)

Thanks Mark. Hopefully the right people read it. :-)

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author avatar Neha Dwivedi
3rd Aug 2011 (#)

thoughtful article ashan....

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author avatar Set Free
3rd Aug 2011 (#)

Most assuredly! A great article! We all need to be called out at some point. Your so right. At what point and when will gown-ups let go of the past. Let go and live! I like what you said. Positive people have entered the lives of those past the age of accountability. They should have gratitude for new, healthier relationships. Instead the choose to crush others. Great, truly great write-up!

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author avatar Set Free
3rd Aug 2011 (#)

they choose..

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author avatar Steve Kinsman
4th Aug 2011 (#)

Amen! Great article ashan1614. Thank you.

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author avatar Songbird B
5th Aug 2011 (#)

What a great article, Ashan..Powerful, and truthful...A really good reality check..

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author avatar Jack Vorster
27th Oct 2011 (#)

That's really socking it to them, ashan. As long as there are movie and soap opera fans there will be irresponsible people trying to emulate what those actors depict on the screen, namely jealousy, anger, revenge, envy, hatred etc etc.

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author avatar Md Rezaul Karim
15th Mar 2012 (#)

Good piece of sharing, which we forget like we were never in that before. Good to get ourselves refreshed and take care of others too. The article is good to understand psychology too. Thanks for sharing.

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