Attachment. We can only be attached to what we hang on to!

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Are you hanging onto anything too strongly?

This article looks at the way that we can become attached to our wants, and desires.

When you detach yourself from your ego's wants, and desires, this is really what true detachment is all about. When such wants, and desires all drop away, you will just love.

When you fully love like this, you will find then also that you are now totally free too.

An analysis of one of Buddha's quotes on attachment

"You can lose only what you cling on to."

It was Buddha who said this.

Buddha, (563 BC to 483 BC) was of course that great founder of Buddhism.

Who is the you that clings on though?

How do we cling like this?

Can we also lose something from not loving enough?

Buddha's statement at first reading might seem to be too extreme, and perhaps it sounds like it could be a bit of an over-exaggeration.

All such statements could be said to be extreme polarities of certain truths that are not catch all, unless love is involved.

Love does not cling onto anything, and so when you totally love, neither will you then cling onto anything then either.

If you do not love fully, you are clinging onto something else instead, and it is this that you must lose, and so we can see now that this great man was right in what he said after all.

Burning away all attachment

"Love without attachment is light."

The above quote is from the American philosopher and writer, Norman O. Brown, (1913 to 2002).

Fire, or light, is often compared mystically with love, because love has to be ignited, in the beginning within your heart, and then it will magnify to a blazing furnace, as it burns away the dross of your ego's attachments.

All such attachments must be burnt away, until you, "die while still living", as all attachment is consumed, by the fire of the love, now burning in your heart.

The fire empties you, and then forever after keeps you empty, of any other attacks from your ego, to try to reattach itself to you, and so to try to regain again, a control over your life.

Senryu: About attachment

Clinging onto life?
Detachment begins in you,
life clings onto you!

What is detachment really all about?

It might seem initially strange to you, but detachment and enlightenment are intimately related.

The only way to ever achieve enlightenment is when we have achieved complete detachment, and so this is when we are able to be completely detached from all things.

So what is detachment?

Perhaps the simplest explanation of detachment is to say that you no longer have any wants.

And what is it that is always doing this wanting?

Your ego.

So perhaps the real answer to finding and reaching enlightenment is to be detached from all of your own ego's wants.

We will finally realise that total freedom is only ever achieved by total detachment.

And when this happens, and we gain this awareness of our total freedom, but in a totally detached way, we are really then enlightened.

The explanation for this happening like this is that total freedom is simply total love.

God gives this love and freedom to each and every soul, but the soul can never appreciate and grasp fully, this gift of total freedom and total love, until it also can love fully itself, and so it too then finally approaches a real and total freedom also.

The freedom of detachment. The reconnection through love.

Enlightenment is no more that the complete illumination we receive when we allow total love to fill us with itself, and as a result this love will then expand us out to infinity, and so all of oneness is then connected to us then through and by us living from God's perfect love without any attachment to it, as does God.

This type of loving, without any attachment to any results, is what is known as unconditional loving.

Photo credits: All photos used in this article have been sourced from the free media site, Wikimedia Commons.


Attachment, Attachments, Desire, Desires, Detachment, Ego, Ego Wanting, Enlightenment, Unconditional Loving, Want, Wanting

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I have been interested in the spiritual fields for over thirty five years now. My writing is mostly in this area.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
27th Nov 2014 (#)

We should love creation by feeling part of it. Material possessions are fleeting and we should be ever aware what belongs to us today will pass on to others. True love and empathy for others without borders is what binds us as humanity. The untimely passing of Phil Hughes reverberated around the sports community sans borders. That shows human feeling and empathy score over material possessions. On a wider perspective, I feel we can still communicate with the dead who we knew closely and death need not separate us - we can relive the present moments with them as if they are with us. As we have a time frame, let us have the wisdom not to worry about who possesses what and share what we do not need now. Then the world will be a much better place. Thanks Spirited for this share - siva

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author avatar spirited
27th Nov 2014 (#)

Even the body itself is a physical possession too I guess. Yes, they turned off his life support.

I feel they might have to change the rules to disallow bouncers like that,

thanks for your most sensible comments again here siva

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author avatar Retired
27th Nov 2014 (#)

You make some very interesting points in this article, many of which I tend to agree with. Great work!

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author avatar spirited
27th Nov 2014 (#)

thanks carolford,

I appreciate your praise.

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
27th Nov 2014 (#)

Interesting post and awesome writing as well!

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author avatar spirited
27th Nov 2014 (#)

thanks Fern

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author avatar Retired
28th Nov 2014 (#)

A great subject...and good exploration of it. Compassion is the key to unity. Ditto also what Siva said. :)

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author avatar spirited
28th Nov 2014 (#)

Thanks, rama devi nina.

Yes, I think you are right, compassion also leads to connection.

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author avatar Utah Jay
29th Nov 2014 (#)

I always find myself in and out of agreement with you...Of course this makes me think and that hurts...Another great one spirited.

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author avatar spirited
29th Nov 2014 (#)

Thanks Utah Jay, I hope that by the time you have finished my article, some salve of some sort has been applied to your hurting head....LOL

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