Attitude Decides Our Life, Fate

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Though Mayan calendar has ended with relief, we have reached crossroad in our history. Time to take a deep breath. Business as usual is no more a viable option as further divisions and hatred will doom us in an increasingly inter-connected world. Repeating our follies will lead us beyond redemption.

It is Up to Us, Within Us

We can get the best of education and even be born with a silver spoon in mouth but if our attitude sucks our life is going to face many a storm of our own making. We know few who are talented, hardworking but find themselves always stressed and hitting a wall. They even put others in misery for no obvious reason. Wealth and education prove ineffective when basics that we tend to overlook decide our life and fate and our family members also fall innocent victims. It is wise to take stock of our achievable goals and evaluate them. Top in the list for me is contentment and happiness; the rest are expendable! Don’t forget too attitude can be contagious!

How many are really blessed to change the direction of mankind in positive ways? As for myself, my aim is not to add to the problem. Spreading some cheer around, be it at home or at the workplace, will do. Of course, do my bit right here too! Going off on a tangent is not worth it – just stick to the basics but understand and even appreciate those with different talents and views – after all, variety is the spice of life!

Living in different countries and within varied cultures has proved rewarding for me. It makes me appreciate we are same. And online writing has enlightened me more that we are from the same source. Our beliefs may vary but creation is same – made of the same matter and our feelings that spring forth from within ditto though we may have our culture and beliefs to provide outer cover! Scratch the surface – all are same especially when pushed to the wall!

Our Saviour – Positive Attitude

I would like to list positive attitudes that have stood me well over the years:

Be grateful: We hardly know what is awaiting us at the next corner, next moment in our lives. We do not know who we are going to meet too – a well-wisher or one who is out to harm us. Both can leave lasting impressions! Is it luck that decides our course in life and I don’t forget few who were at the wrong place at the wrong time that changed their lives forever. What they go through in life makes me wonder what gives them and their family strength to endure life. But they plod on stoically like true warriors without rancor - great attitude against heavy odds! So we all need to be grateful and change what we can for the better.

Contentment: Staying content is the best course for many though few advocate the opposite. For me, we need to look after ourselves first as charity begins at home! There is no need to make greed the motivating factor as I have seen many consumed by it to lead lives of grief as the days roll by. They readily forget what they have already achieved to lead a life of misery and, worse, make others unhappy too! Life is too precious to be wasted by single minded pursuits – even Alexander the Great had enlightened us over two thousand years ago during his final moments of his short sojourn here.

Change what we can: Each can do but little but if each does that little, all will be done. Imagine if all start doing little by little for our better! We know what needs to be done – that prompt is within each of us – an agenda clearly inborn, within. We do not come here to fight others; we are part of society to live within society, so why fight? We have achieved freedom and democracy but we refuse to bury our hatchets. What use elections when the victor and vanquished have to engage in daily fights and skirmishes? When the push comes to shove they shake hands, or at least a semblance of it, like when the house is enveloped by fire! But back to square one soon after!

Lessons from History: History is the best teacher but we feel it cannot repeat! From time immemorial, we are made of the same stuff and hate tends to trump all positives – it soon descends to blind fury! And when we have more potent weapons of destruction, history repeats with a vengeance in their destructive powers! But we let ourselves be led the garden path only to find ourselves beyond a point of no return! Then the lessons are relearned; one World War veteran reminisced - what use a piece of paper of peace in the end for those who are dead!

Basics never change

Our circumstances and attitudes have not changed though we might walk with a spring in our walks armed with gadgets to know the cost of everything, everywhere, but the value of nothing especially that of love and life! We can soon be isolated from the mainstream despite the wealth and pomp that we have spent all our lives accumulating! Let us have the wisdom to discern who our real well-wishers are before it is too late as there are many fair weather friends to lead us blindly singing the wrong tunes that we take as the gospel truth. I have seen many rich failing to see what attracts the few around them – it is not them but their wealth!

Heed the Signals

One need not be rich to lose our way. When we lose track of the basics and our attitudes change through circumstances we refuse to beat a hasty retreat and that leads us a blind alley and soon enough we face the dead end in our lives. Refusing to accept and change course at the right moments proves disastrous for us, society and countries. We are seeing many clear symptoms that have proved deadly many times in history but we beat the trodden path hoping that we get to a different destination. Let us not forget the wise words of one of the great scientists with also the ability to philosophize, Albert Einstein – insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results. Let us not forget too soon the end of Mayan calendar and celebrate it as our triumph – the crack lines are becoming clearer with each passing day. It is up to us to extend our lease day by day! Why should anyone owe us a living?

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Links to my recent posts:

Bridging Gap between Reality and Expectations

Death is the Ultimate Leveler

Earn Money, Spend Money

December 21 – Let The Change Come From Within

Luck Gives Us the Breakthroughs in Life


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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you Steve for your encouragement. Much appreciated - siva

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
6th Jan 2013 (#)

lovely piece again Siva...thank you...full of wisdom it is

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Thanks Carolina for your encouragement - siva

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author avatar Md Rezaul Karim
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Signature article from Siva ji. Thanks again for enlightening me. History repeats, we should not be oblivious of the past and learning is a never ending process. Yet, we do wrong, and facing the consequences as well.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Thanks dear Karim. How apt I read your comment just after posting mine on Steve Kinsman's latest on Palestine/Israel conflict and the much needed peace efforts! siva

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author avatar Terry Trainor
6th Jan 2013 (#)

a blind alley and soon enough we face the dead end in our lives.

True wisdom my dear friend

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you Terry. I have seen many rich losing their way more than the poor! All their lives they pursued a path that proved futile when their end was nigh! They knew the party would start without them being part of it! siva

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author avatar mistyleaf
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Very nice article, Siva. I enjoyed reading it! Thank you for the share.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you mistyleaf. I look forward to and appreciate your comments - siva

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author avatar Buzz
6th Jan 2013 (#)

You're truly a vast reservoir of wisdom, siva-ji. I wish I had a mind like yours.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you dear Buzz for such appreciation. I have experienced life in few countries and have mingled with people of different cultures and beliefs. Scratch the surface we are the same though some like to see themselves as different! siva

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author avatar LOVERME
6th Jan 2013 (#)

you do impart wisdom siva unlike me who has some emotion only

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jan 2013 (#)

You are a poet, Loverme, and doing very well indeed. I am emotional too like most others are, but have become practical in life after taking few hard knocks! siva

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author avatar M G Singh
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Its a nice post and well highlighted points.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you Madan for reading and the appreciation - siva

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author avatar Carol
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Always wise words siva. I think we should treat others in the way we expect to be treated back. Sometimes that works.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jan 2013 (#)

Thanks Carol. I feel that is the right way and assures sound sleep too - siva

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author avatar Steve Kinsman
6th Jan 2013 (#)

You are of course completely correct - attitude is everything. You have wisdom for the ages Siva. Thank you.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you Steve for such words I have observed few you seem to have everything but peace and happiness. They realize the wrong path they have taken too late in their lives - siva

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author avatar Judy Ellen
6th Jan 2013 (#)

I agree Siva! You have so much wisdom and we are very blessed to be given the opportunity to benefit by it. Thank you for another great essay!!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you Judy. It is my pleasure to provide some cheer and share from my life experiences - siva

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author avatar Judy Ellen
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Siva! I want to post this on my facebook page! It is absolutely remarkable!!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jan 2013 (#)

Thanks Judy. I am really honored by your kind gesture - siva

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author avatar GV Rama Rao
7th Jan 2013 (#)

A fine collection of thoughts.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jan 2013 (#)

Thanks GVR. Glad to see you again - I can only empathize with you on your deep loss - siva

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author avatar Retired
7th Jan 2013 (#)

As ever, sage and timely wisdom from your heart and pen, my friend, Namaste Sivaji. Warmly, rd

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you Rama-ji. Your appreciation goes a long way and is indeed an inspiration. Namaste - siva

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author avatar Delicia Powers
7th Jan 2013 (#)

such wise and welcomed advice,...beautifully written, thank you Siva...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jan 2013 (#)

Nice to see you active again Delicia. Thanks for the kind words - siva

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author avatar Christine Crowley
7th Jan 2013 (#)

We should know the difference of what we can change and what we cannot. And the wisdom to do what is right. Thank you, Siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jan 2013 (#)

Thanks Christine - that is what is needed in our world and from each of us. Though we are born with wisdom, we shun the obvious choice and stay at ground level. We should have soared quite high by now and lived on another plane! But we allow hate to dominate our daily lives - siva

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author avatar writestuff
15th Jan 2013 (#)

Siva,
Thanks for another star page full of good thoughts. An old saying came to mind as I read your article: "One's altitude is determined by one's attitude."

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you Writestuff. We learn all the time but the right attitude has to be cultivated assiduously to give us proper reward to last our lifetime and even beyond - siva

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
4th Feb 2013 (#)

It would seem Siva that the word 'attitude ' gets banded about as a modern day cliche , rather than a way of life, and an outward effect of an inner behavour pattern. Teens love to have an ' Attitude ' as is goes with the modern way of living , and is therefore seen as cool rather than disrespectful and ofttimes vulgur or downright rude . If I behaved as they sometimes do , I would have been justly punished , but to have an attitude today , it is almost seen as worthy of praise rather than discipline . It is hard to know where the guide lines touch anymore , especially where peoples ' rights' are concerned . What is accepted today as norm , would have been classed as disrespectful and unacceptable when I was a child . I know which I prefer .
Bless you for another excellent and interesting post .
Stella

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
5th Feb 2013 (#)

Thanks Stella. I too am getting lost; the world has changed a lot and changing faster with each passing day. Earlier times, parents took responsibility for the behavior of their children, but no more. Obviously, the daily issues are multiplying. The young have to be made aware that their rights go with duties and responsibilities. But when both parents are busier with work-life, some basics are swept under the carpet with a hope that money will prove a substitute! One thing is clear - the future will be quite different and increasingly robotic with less human feelings and empathy. There is little time for them as we race from point A to B in a hurry. Thanks for looking up my earlier posts too - siva

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
7th Feb 2013 (#)

It takes less time to reach the end of the page Siva :-) But your posts are so interesting that it is a pleasure to read them ,and hopefully, make some good comment to encourage you . I believe that to encourage others is to have a good attitude that needs to be cultivated more nowadays , especially when it is justly due .Bless you . I have to sign off now as I must take care of my elderly group which I lead this afternoon . Have a blessed day.
God bless you
Stella

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Feb 2013 (#)

Thanks Stella your visit, and your comments are always a pleasure that I look forward to. I am sure you get real fulfillment and blessings n looking after those in need as I always remember, we leave everything behind except few memories and let them be that we did our best for others and not for us only. I have seen the rich worry more as the day approaches that what they toiled for all their life will go to those not intended by them - siva

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author avatar Trillionaire
20th May 2013 (#)

An excellent an interesting article. Thanks for commenting on my poem. Have a nice week.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
20th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Trillionaire. It is my pleasure. I will be looking out for your posts - siva

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author avatar Ptrikha
13th Feb 2014 (#)

Truly inspiring. I like the courage and straight forward thinking that you bring in your articles.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
13th Feb 2014 (#)

Thank you Ptrikha for commenting on an earlier article and the kind words of support. Few say we are made in the way we have been behaving and we can do nothing about it. But I believe we should learn from past mistakes and opt for inclusive growth. The majority should not be made to pay for the greed of a minority We should fight greed and selfishness at every level - siva

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