Ayah-The baby sitter

Shona.UN By Shona.UN, 17th Apr 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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A small story showing the real concern of a baby sitter who refuses to take the role of mom.

Ayah-The baby sitter

I and my husband went for work in one of the fast growing city. We both were from lower middle class. We could only dream about multiplexes and malls. After we started earning, we traveled quite a bit to see new places and enjoy. We wanted to settle down in life with a good furnished home and facilities before raising a family. But fate was against us.

After we got our new small villa with a garden for a hefty housing loan, I conceived and we were confused as what to do. I was 25 years old and it was risky to abort the first child. So we decided to go for it.

10 months passed swiftly with little happy moments and tired moments and a beautiful son Akash was in our hands. We put him on the decorative cradle bought for him. I took six months of maternity leave which I could extend for 2 more months. Akash was too young for crèche. My or his mom offered to come here, but we knew they had their own problems. So a baby sitter came home after lot of scrutiny and research. This woman was a poor widow. She was new to this job but had a kid of ten years who went to school. So it was settled. Initially I felt very uneasy to leave Akash in unknown hands but soon got over it. I would be joyous every evening when my son ran into my arms when I returned from work. I made sure I spent real quality time with him.

Days flew and a month passed off soon.

I could see that our baby sitter was good at taking care of Akash but she always behaved like a servant maid. She was cautious. She was not close to my kid.

I spoke to her when I was free one day. “Do you have any problem working with us?” She was bewildered a bit at my concern. Then she said “No.” “Why are you very cautious when you move with Akash?” She looked at me questioningly. “ You always show yourself as a maid.” “ I am a maid right?” She asked in soft voice. “Yes, but you don’t move closely with him. He will miss me, you have to behave like another mom to him.” She looked at me keenly and said, “I shall not behave like that. I don’t like to.” It was my turn to blink now and think if she was really a good choice.

“You are his mother and you have commitments to do. I take care of him in your absence. But I shouldn’t behave like you. I am just an ayah(servant) and always be one. Akash should know it clearly. He should miss you and cuddle to you as mom. I will make sure he is safe and well fed. But I will keep my distance and will not come between a mother and son. It is always better this way”, She said in a calm and firm voice and looked at me for answer while I stood speechless at her clear state of mind.

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Baby, Baby Care, Baby Love, Babysitter, Care, Caress, Mom, Mommy, Moms, Moms Heart, Story

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author avatar Shona.UN
I am an MBA and have worked as manager in banking operations. I have a great interest in creative writing, poems especially.

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
17th Apr 2014 (#)

It is the mother's job to be the mother, not the babysitters job. She is right, a hard lesson for you to learn I suppose. Perhaps one day you can work less and be there for your child more.

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
17th Apr 2014 (#)

Sorry, that perhaps sounded harsh, but was not meant in a bad way, just in a hopeful way.

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author avatar NBL Books
21st Apr 2014 (#)

Oh I know how you feel being a mother myself. When my children were in other people's care, especially another woman, I wanted her to do as I do. If my children were sick I wanted her to cuddle them and show them the love I would show. That is a hard one, Mark, to feel what she is feeling, because you are not a mom. However, on the other hand, I did not like it when my children showed much love to the babysitter, sometimes more love than to me. This is a hard one! Just love your child unconditionally like I did for mine and when they are older they will definitely know who there mom is. LOL! I would have to opt for the babysitter that treats my child like a mom would, then I know for sure he or she is getting loved while I am away.

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author avatar Shona.UN
21st Apr 2014 (#)

Thanks for your comments..that was just a story..not real incident..but happy to hear your views...

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
28th May 2014 (#)

I am glad NBL books wrote what she did. I was gearing up to write something similar, despite my enormous respect for MGB... Ayah -- I know that word from Secret Garden. Mary Lennox had one in India. Oh, and the nanny/ayah/au pair role is hard. When I nanny, I am much like a parent to the under 5 crowd and very stand-offish to the school-aged ones for the reasons your fictitious Ayah mentioned. No way is the best. It depends on what is best for each child, and each child is as different as each star in the sky, falling snowflake, or sand upon the beach. Thanks for a compelling share.

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