Being There When It Matters

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Our world changes when we make a conscious effort to be there for others when it matters. Competition is then replaced with cooperation and we rise to a higher realm of existence and bliss.

Make Time for Others

Lifestyles may change but the basics should never be forgotten. Some are the very essence that gives meaning and purpose to our lives. It is natural to get carried away by glitter and beauty but they prove in the end to be transient. Those that are enduring may not shine but one cannot trifle with them. Once we detach ourselves from them we start to drift in life. The greatest contribution we can make to others is being present when in need. The rest, including wealth, come a distant second to helping others to tide over their misfortunes. And for that, one essential factor is time that is becoming a rare commodity. That also lends credence to the fact that those who find time for others leave their indelible mark and a lasting legacy.

Lifestyle guided by Herd Instinct

Our lives are getting rushed from childhood to working life with increasing responsibilities and we are on a catch-up mode all the time. Technology is changing faster by the day so we keep running to keep abreast of the latest especially those who are working for a living; lagging behind means our livelihood is in peril. There are so many things to do, achieve, that those dependent on others can find themselves neglected and left behind. Others simply have to time for them. So it is becoming a selfish world due to relentless pursuit of what the world demands from us.

But the basic thirst within us has to be quenched or we react like robots without feelings. Robotic lifestyles will divide our society and we can see symptoms of it in busy city lives. Everyone is in a hurry to reach the destination – sort of a herd mentality. But our lives prove hollow in the end and nothing worthwhile to reminisce on at the end of the day.

Scratch a little deeper and one can find unquenched yearnings within us – a feeling of emptiness despite living on the fast lane. Most live with a feeling of not being really there for others when it matters. Life is a rush from point A to B. To live with a guilty feeling proves a heavy burden and casts a pall of gloom in our outlook. There is a feeling of purposelessness and lack of fulfillment. It is like trying to forget our mistakes by various means that only make them reappear with a vengeance.

Break Barriers

How not to lose passion in making a living but still stay meaningful members of society? My thoughts:

1. Never miss an opportunity to help those in need as it may not reappear again. Everyone can recollect instances where we did not rise to the occasion.

2. Look out for those in need and offer help before it is too late. Many are lost and neglected by society. Lend them an ear and find time for them. The world will immediately look better not only for them but to us too. We regain the spring in our walks.

3. Touch those near us and when others do the same we can touch the whole world. Many have lost their way suddenly despite flying high. We should empathize with them and lend our hands meaningfully.

4. Speak to a stranger every day, be they rich or poor. It is so soothing to connect with a stranger even if they ignore us – at least we have done our part to make this world a better place.

5. Understand others than judge them by physical appearance. Look at the real person hiding behind the outer covering. That proves more durable than the decaying physical stature.

6. Switch off our preoccupations whenever we can by thinking of our blessings. We tend to drown in disappointments, but reflect deeper to understand our blessings.

7. Pride and greed go before a fall. Wealth does not add meaning to our lives. Every asset comes with a liability which may not be apparent.

8. Stay rooted to ground level of realities as the rich need the poor more than the other way around. We can follow our passion for achieving by fair means. But never kick the ladder used to climb high. Never forget those who held it firm while we made the climb.

Extend Olive Branch

We should understand where others come from who may look and act quite differently from us. Then we will realize we also will behave the same way in similar circumstances. Look at the world through the eyes of others to appreciate the variety of emotions. When we see the world not through selfish eyes but in myriad ways then our lifestyle is enriched manifold and we understand the true meaning in our moments. We are then able to take the ups and downs and even look forward to them. When we look out for others they do the same; we are observed and studied more than we realize. The beauty in creation is we attract those of the same thinking who want an enriching life and wealth plays little part in the whole scheme of things. Then we truly find we have time for others and also others reciprocate more than we think they would. Such enriching mutual feeling has a multiplier effect on society.

Just acknowledging others presence and having a pleasing demeanor is a good way to start with. Then we can feel the change in no time. When we ignore others they also subconsciously become aware of our feelings and reciprocate such negative thoughts. When we mingle with others positively the inner motivation gives us the passion to perform to benefit others. We learn more by sharing what we know and not by bottling up what we have learned!

Better World within Our Cusp

Finally, we transcend to a level where we are there when others need us most. The fulfillment we get with such an approach to life is pure bliss. Let us look away from building paper assets that attract only those who do us harm by trying to get possession of them by hook or crook. The real richness in life is the ability to help others overcome their challenges starting with a listening ear. The rest will follow. Then the fear factor is replaced with cooperative effort for common good that will lead to an inclusive society and by extension a world where harmony reigns. Whatever step we take towards such a goal is better than present ways of outwitting others and treating them with suspicion. When we view others as enemies they repay us with the same token. The world is increasingly aware of what is needed except for few naysayers who think weapons will bring peace – it will only polarize and destroy us. When everyone tries to be there for others we rise to another realm where coexistence becomes our foundation. More of awareness and a shift in consciousness is all that is needed to take the next meaningful step to reach a goal that we all yearn in our hearts every day.


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author avatar Mariah
22nd Jun 2013 (#)

I can never thank you enough for all you have taught me Siva, I can only further extend my deepest respect and gratitude for the person that you are, and to say I am proud and honored that you acknowledge me as your friend.
Thank you for being you.
Mariahx

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Dear Mariah, I am honored by your kind words and reciprocate your feelings. It is my pleasure and honor to come to know so many lovely people that only reinforces my long cherished view that we are all same and from the same source. We may look different but only when seen through our eyes. Inside, not only the grey matter but also the spark that guides us, is part of the One and only One! We merge at some time that is decided by how we enhance the value of the whole creation - siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Mark for your support and encouragement - siva

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

another great piece siva...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Carolina for you never failing support - siva

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author avatar johnbee
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Very good Siva. Good post.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Johnbee for reading and commenting. Appreciated - siva

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author avatar Trillionaire
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

So, true. Great article.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks Trillionaire for reading and uplifting words - siva

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Great post Siva, yes I think our lives are guided and moving faster than ever before, for some people the "rush" feels good, but really we need to slow down and enjoy life.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks again Mark. Few need the adrenalin rush but for many they are just swept away against their will and inner voice that implores them to take it easy. My lifestyle strives for balance and to accept the outcome of my decisions with humility. Modern lifestyle reflects the decision taken by many. When offered peace of mind without money or millions without peace of mind, many seem to accept the latter option - just give the millions and get lost! - siva

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author avatar Retired
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Wonderful wisdom, as ever, dear Sivaji...saeg advice and insights. Namaste, rd

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Rama-ji for your kind words. So happy to see you again. Namaste - siva

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author avatar Terry Trainor
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Great post my very wise friend. Everyone seems to be in a rush these days. People have always got to be somewhere. Also just walking around shops there are phones glued to ears for nearly the whole trip. I.m often with my children half way through a conversation and their mobile buzzes, the conversation stops dead and have to stand waiting for ages for them to finish. Then the conversation carries on and the mobile goes again. When we have visitors they say 'can't stop must hurry' and whizz off somewhere. I'm glad you posted this post, I thought everyone is trying to get away from me. I think I will rebuild my walls with lead to stop any signals.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks Terry for your supportive comments and inputs. Though we cannot expect generations down the line to be like us certain ways are of concern to any right thinking person. I was brought up in a culture where age automatically meant respect, but no more increasingly in Asia. The young think they are different and make no apologies for it. I remember a cartoon - children demand i-Pad, i-Phone, i-Pod but the parent protests when faced with i-Pay! Basic courtesy is out the window when some are immersed in gadgets. Now we have the older generation to pick up the pieces but for how long? And what about frequent upgrades even when the older version is working just fine - I would term it "criminal waste" - siva

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author avatar Delicia Powers
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Time and self, both generously and so very wisely given by you Siva- is very much appreciated Thank you my dear friend...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Delicia. Our life cannot retain any meaning when we have no time for each other. The end should always be family welfare and wasting time on intangibles will doom us - siva

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author avatar Ellen
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you, went so well with the sermon I heard this morning on TV. I believe I am being given a message.
Ellen

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks Ellen for your kind words. I have been practicing these in my life and I know the bliss that many miss when they embrace wealth creation as the be all and end all of their lives - siva

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
23rd Jun 2013 (#)

Good evening dear Siva , and thank you for your wisdom here . I recall an advert that showed a proud father of a little girl , and as she grew she wanted everything , and carelessly discarded the previous item ,and then she grew up and had children of her own , and the cycle went round again .I don't recall what the ad was about , but I remember thinking that each generation was greedier and more selfish than the last . A sad demise , when in truth to be a giver of a kind word or a smile to a stranger or to meet a need of any kind that lifts the heart of another is priceless for giver and receiver alike .
God bless you my friend
Stella ><

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Stella for driving home the point. The marketing blitz of electronic gadgets make them so tempting especially for the children and the products addictive. But nobody is in a position to bell the cat by calling for moderation. We are being led against what is right - siva

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author avatar wonder
24th Jun 2013 (#)

Being there for others is the most difficult thing to do in today"s world. It was not like that before,
lets practise this in earnest, it gives fulfillment, makes our lives meaningful.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Wonder for your comments. We all know of instances we overlooked this simple gesture that is prompted from within. We should all do better than find excuses - siva

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author avatar Connie McKinney
24th Jun 2013 (#)

Siva, thanks so much for sharing this advice which we all need to hear. Great advice and well written, as usual.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Jun 2013 (#)

So happy to see read your comments, Connie. I am grateful for your visit and comments - siva

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author avatar Carol
24th Jun 2013 (#)

Everything you write Siva is full of wisdom and common sense. Thank you so much

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks Carol. I feel my efforts are worth the while reading comments like yours - siva

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author avatar Kingwell
24th Jun 2013 (#)

Never miss an opportunity to help another - I wish that we all saw the truth and the wisdom in this one statement. A great article my friend. You never cease to amaze me.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you for such soothing words Kingwell. I remember instances where I failed to rise to the occasion. They replay in my mind that I failed to do what should come naturally. When we make the needed effort our world becomes better not only to those we extended our hands but also to the giver! siva

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author avatar Shirley Shuler
24th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you so much siva for sharing your wisdom with us.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Shirley, it is entirely my pleasure and I am so happy that many find it worth their time to read my posts - siva

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author avatar Mike Robbers
25th Jun 2013 (#)

A very interesting read, Siva and some important messages shared as well.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks Mike, my thoughts to help re-calibrate our ways so as not to lose focus on basics - siva

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author avatar Md Rezaul Karim
26th Jun 2013 (#)

With the passage of time and technology, we are going to be more and more self-centered and selfish human being. Whereas in the childhood we used to learn that human being is a social being, and we live together for one another! All seems changing!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Jun 2013 (#)

Yes Karim I see this happening everywhere.When people rise to another level they forget even those who held the ladder for them including their own parents! siva

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author avatar Christine Crowley
26th Jun 2013 (#)

You are so right - we must help others when they need it. The opportunity might not come again. Right now my husband is driving a neighbor to the hospital for his chemo treatments - a small thing but much appreciated.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Jun 2013 (#)

Meaningful act of neighborliness and compassion, Christine, God bless your family. Even simple acts will do including prayers like when someone is undergoing stress; our Chris Beva shared his anxious moments before his surgery. I too chip in and my wife more so! The bliss we get is indescribable especially when we treat others better than we treat ourselves. This world is meant to be heaven but we need a little more of empathy and compassion. Nothing can compensate for them - siva

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author avatar Carol
26th Jun 2013 (#)

Being there at the right time is so true, when we are needed. Thank you for such wisdom Siva, your work is always inspiring.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
27th Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks Carol for your re-visit and encouragement - siva

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author avatar M G Singh
27th Jun 2013 (#)

wonderful post

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
27th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Madan for your kind words - siva

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author avatar Subra
28th Jun 2013 (#)

Dear Siva
Well said - yes nobody seems to find the time to stop, reflect and think about the others around him. He is taken up with his own self-interest - the price we pay for so-called modernity and consumer culture that pervades our life with increasing ferocity! I don't know how we can relive the simple life of the good old days when we had time for the others!

Well done with another usual star, Siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
28th Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks dear Subra for your support. We tend to overdo selfish pursuits especially when mundane activities are made less manual and less time consuming. Life should not lose basic community and family bonding - siva

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author avatar vpaulose
28th Jun 2013 (#)

Inspiring insight very necessary in these days of I-relation. Thank you dear Siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank dear VP. Appreciate your kind words of encouragement - siva

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author avatar Chris Breva
28th Jun 2013 (#)

Siva I believe you would be the type of man whom would be there for s friend no matter what

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th Jun 2013 (#)

So happy to see you again, dear Chris, soon after your surgery that made us feel anxious and our prayers were with you all the time. I stand by my friends and those in need and that gives such bliss and peace of mind. Take care dear friend - siva

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author avatar vellur
29th Jun 2013 (#)

A great write on making this world a better place to be in by being there when it matters. An excellent article.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Vellur. Let us think of others even when we pursue our lives with passion. None can thrive in isolation. An inclusive society will give fulfillment to all, make our lives worthwhile - siva

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author avatar M G Singh
29th Jun 2013 (#)

Nice sentiments Siva. Your articles are excellent

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Madan for your kind words of support. Appreciated - siva

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author avatar AnnH
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Nice post, very interesting, thanks for sharing.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Gemstar for your comments - it is my pleasure - siva

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author avatar Roja Meeran
17th Jul 2013 (#)

Breaking and extending...Exceptional Siva sir....and the images you choose..takes me to some other world

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
27th Jul 2013 (#)

Thank you Souvikji for your help. I will check it out soon - siva

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author avatar Retired
17th Aug 2013 (#)

Beautiful article, such positivity in your words, if everyone of us start doing even half the things you mentioned the world would become a much better place.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
17th Aug 2013 (#)

Thanks Maryam. I try my best to do what needs be done and what a blessed feel I get thereby - and, likewise, when I miss an opportunity to help I feel wretched - siva

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author avatar Peppernina63
26th Aug 2013 (#)

What an awesome collection of great wisdom and knowledge. Thank you for sharing with us.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you for your kind words, Peppernina. We can lift ourselves from self-created misery with a shift in attitude and approach to daily problems. We are all in it together in life - siva

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author avatar johnbee
26th Aug 2013 (#)

Good post Siva. Keep on with your positive approach in your articles filled with wisdom!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Johnbee - your encouragement is so much appreciated - siva

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author avatar Rick Workman
15th Sep 2013 (#)

Enjoyed reading this. Gives me a lot to ponder.....

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Sep 2013 (#)

Thank you Rick for your support. Why waste another day when all we want is peace and coexistence? Let the minority who create havoc get a clear message. Now we are led to believe the more destructive the weapons the closer we are to peace! siva

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