Bridging Gap between Reality and Expectations

Sivaramakrishnan A By Sivaramakrishnan A, 31st Dec 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/3izqfc8j/
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For sustainable and inclusive growth our goals should be tempered by the reality. The beginning of a new calendar and New Year should make us reevaluate our options and to become more grateful for the dawn of each day.

Adjusting to Reality

We can have our goals and expectations but reality can be deceptive and prove a stumbling block. So our goals and expectations have to be attuned to reality which is fluid as our world is ever changing. We also tend to shift the posts of our goals and expectations. Nothing is stationary in the process of creation and evolution. Those who are aware of the reality around them and adjust their expectations find peace and contentment. Change what we can for the better and accept those we cannot – is a practical way to find peace and stability in our lives.

We should be ever aware of the reality and where we fit in. We are part of society, and increasingly, what happens anywhere affects our lifestyle. Is not the world getting more inter-dependent, an inexorable trend, and the genie cannot be put back in the bottle! It is a process of evolution. What happens in the far corners of our world - the good and the bad – leave their mark on us and our outlook. The world is increasingly becoming entwined despite us living in different locations and countries.

Lifestyle and Expectations

Our expectations and lifestyles are increasingly converging in spite of diverse cultural backgrounds and beliefs. We may feel different but we are made of the same matter. It takes us little time to adjust to different surroundings and hopefully that will prove of value later in an altogether different setting when artificial boundaries and physical disparities disappear altogether! Being flexible and adaptable – that attitude should serve us well anytime, anywhere!

How aware are we of the reality decides our lifestyle and the rewards in our lives. But we tend to drift to a dream world of our own. We have to be aware that some realities are cast in stone and better to leave them as it is. At the appropriate time change takes place without much effort from our side. In a way like teenage angst that is a phase and part of growing up!

Fresh Perspective Needed

The world is not only in the cusp of change but also breathing a sense of relief after the end of the Mayan Calendar. Every end is also a new beginning! So are we prepared to make a change in our basic outlook? Scientifically we are surely progressing but our lifestyle choices suck mostly! Our expectations and lifestyles are out of sync with reality. We are impatient to get ahead at any cost without taking reality into account. Sustainable development is much touted but ignored at all levels; none heeds the call for moderation. You do your part first, start the ball rolling - is the stumbling block and we end up with none heeding the call for moderation!

We are inundated by economic data but that means little to us at the end of the day and individually. They are taken as an Olympic medal tally even boosted by performance enhancing drugs! That comes to mind when a major country cooks up the numbers at various levels. But do they matter individually when the rich get richer everywhere and the poor, poorer? Where is inclusive growth within countries and internationally? Is not the whole system becoming more cutthroat?

We need to look at reality in totality. Sustainable growth is the only way forward with cooperative effort between countries with a sense of sacrifice. A life of moderation will benefit all even if some do not believe in climate change. Degradation of nature is too stark in a lifestyle of excesses and each can do our part to fit in the overall process. There is nothing to be gained by over exploitation of finite resources. When this reality is kept in view, it is easy for all to temper our demands on them and even lower our expectations of all out growth.

Sustainability through Moderation

At every level, we need to be aware of the reality and make mutual sacrifices keeping in mind the needs of not only ours but also of generations to come. The figures are becoming more current, evident, relevant and readily available and so it requires only an attitudinal change from us. We are powerless to change certain realities but we can make the rest sustainable; then we have alternatives to power on but within limitations. An all-out assault on nature will prove disastrous to all.

Like in individual lives where the wise stick close to reality, countries too should abide by certain norms. That will surely reduce the stress levels all around, raise the awareness for inclusive growth and sustainability. The gap between reality and our expectations will close, thereby, leading to peace and sustainable growth. Our present style of each for self will prove self-destructive without making needed fine-tuning. The cracks are becoming too visible within societies increasingly and let us make a seamless change for the better. The beginning of a new Calendar and a New Year should usher in better appreciation of reality through curbing of irrational exuberance and expectations! We need to be more grateful for each day of our lives – don’t we get an inner prompt for that?


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author avatar Steve Kinsman
1st Jan 2013 (#)

I long for the day when, as you write here, "artificial boundaries and physical disparities disappear altogether." Great post Siva. Thank you.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you, Steve. Though we are bringing down some barriers, we refuse to let go others that divide us. Maybe the end of Mayan Calendar should give us better sense of proportion and help us find real progress through mutual cooperation and better awareness of sustainable growth - siva

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author avatar Retired
1st Jan 2013 (#)

Thank for share Very intereresting.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you Caesar for your comments - siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jan 2013 (#)

Thanks for visiting and hope to see you again soon - siva

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author avatar Md Rezaul Karim
1st Jan 2013 (#)

Looking back and re-evaluation of our deeds and missing ones should always be there, in order to have a better time ahead. Quite timely written. Thank you Siva ji.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you dear Karim, you are one one pillars of support for me - siva

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author avatar Buzz
1st Jan 2013 (#)

Timely advice indeed, siva-ji. Have a great year, my friend.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you dear Buzz. May the New Year bring you Happiness and Peace-siva

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author avatar Retired
1st Jan 2013 (#)

Ditto what Steve said. Another post replete with wisdom for the new year... NAmaste, rd

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jan 2013 (#)

Thanks again Rama-ji for your uplifting comments. Let us not treat our new innings as a foregone event! Let us shift gears and set it at cruise control for sustainable development. May the New Year bring us wisdom to follow the true path - siva

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author avatar DuitByJames
1st Jan 2013 (#)

I cheer your song. A great smile is on my face this New Years Day as I wish you all that is good my friend.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you James for your support and encouragement. May the New Year bring you Happiness & Peace - siva

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author avatar M G Singh
2nd Jan 2013 (#)

Nice post siva, what is apparent is never real

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jan 2013 (#)

This was inspired by what is happening in India; the gap between people's expectations and the ground reality - who will bell the cat and the price to be paid. Democracy without rule of law is plain anarchy! Thanks Madan for your take - siva

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author avatar Delicia Powers
2nd Jan 2013 (#)

thank you siva...very well said...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jan 2013 (#)

Thanks for your visit and comments, Delicia - siva

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author avatar n kapoor
4th Jan 2013 (#)

Sustainable development need small lifestyle changes in every individual life. Presently, global warming and environmental degradation is actually the result of exploitation of natural resources by human population beyond their replenishment and that is why air is un-breathable, water is un-drinkable and our land has lost its capability to produce according to its capacity. We need to move towards vegetarianism, live on least resources and live peacefully and sustain-ably so as to conserve natural resources for future generations to come.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
4th Jan 2013 (#)

When we try to understand the reality that is closely related to sustainability, everything will fall in place. Now we are blindly aping others ahead of us but they are in the wrong queue! Let the end of the Mayan Calendar give us wisdom too but we should be prepared to receive it and reality plays a big part for that too. Thanks Kapoor for your comments - siva

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author avatar LOVERME
4th Jan 2013 (#)

having scanned all above
I now see
how writing as a means of communication
is far better than poeticising as I do

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
4th Jan 2013 (#)

I cannot be a poet, free verse or any verse! You are blessed to have this talent, Loverme - siva

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author avatar Judy Ellen
6th Jan 2013 (#)

You are so right on this Siva! We have to change and stop expecting so much in a material sense. Our expectations over shadow reality! We need to go back to basics and stop all this nonsense of buying too many new gadgets!!! We need to bridge that gap and see the reality of what is really important in our lives!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jan 2013 (#)

I agree with you, Judy. The media feeds us with lifestyles of those that are hardly worth emulating. The more we have, the more we want. Our real heroes - the stoic common citizens - hardly get a mention but they are our backbone and keep us going - siva

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author avatar Judy Ellen
6th Jan 2013 (#)

This article really speaks to me because I will be moving to my 93 year old home in the spring and giving up this country home that my children love but we cannot afford to keep. It is time for me to show my children that an older home in the city can be just as rewarding as this country home. Perhaps I am setting an example for them to follow!! I must face reality and bridge that gap! Also, I lost my beloved pet yesterday. He was with me through thick and thin but age caught up with him. My mind knows that he is a dog but my heart feel this loss like he was one of my children. When my husband would tell him to go to mommie he would know to come to me. He was the most intelligent dog I ever knew and very easy to train voice commands. I pray that God will help me get over this loss and keep me from loosing my mind with this heavy grief!! I am sick with grief and cry all the time.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jan 2013 (#)

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your pet, Judy. The main reason I never had a pet was I cannot get over their passing. I believe they too have souls and a role to play in our endless journey that does not end or begin here. I pray for you to get over this loss and to let go for the benefit of the departed soul for it to find peace. We have to let go some to reach out to others.

I have seen those who stick close to reality find peace and happiness in their lives. Of course, reality changes over time. I also hope that you find more happiness eventually when you settle in the new, but old home, in the city! We can easily adapt to places and people. My best wishes are always with you and family dear Judy - siva

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author avatar writestuff
16th Jan 2013 (#)

Good post. I still look forward to your writings and shared knowledge.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
17th Jan 2013 (#)

Thanks Writestuff for your support and encouragement - siva

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author avatar LOVERME
3rd Jun 2013 (#)

I SEE U GET A STAR FOE ALL UR LOVELY WORKS WHY THE MOERATORS FORGOT THIS ONE PLEASE DO QUESTIONN THEM

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