Can You have too Much of a Good Thing?

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Have you ever felt trapped but also had that feeling that you can do nothing to get out of the situation? Are you too comfortable doing the wrong thing? Truth is too many people get comfortable doing the wrong thing - yet logic tells us we should be very uncomfortable.

Too much of a good thing

I once read a thought suggesting that you can have too much of a good thing and at times it seems as though there is an element of truth being spoken here, that thought explains why we allow ourselves to be trapped in a bad situation - we get trapped by the feeling of comfort and we are not conscious that it is happening. We know we can do better but we get comfortable where we are and furthermore we allow those feelings to ensnare us and worse we are perfectly happy to let it go on, at a time when we should be screaming to get out.

Looking back on it that is probably where I was before having my eye troubles - I was simply rolling along day after day doing the same thing, staying well within my comfort zone. Of course I had done better things in the past but I had trapped myself in the present - if you can understand that. Trouble was the "good thing" was not actually "good" at all, but it felt comfortable. Indeed the only place where I was breaking any boundaries was with my writing and this was because I was educating myself, because I was breaking boundaries - yet in truth that was not earning me a great deal of money and that was where part of the problem lay.

The good really is not good at all and it needed something to break!

Little things please little minds

It seems so easy to get trapped in the trivial, yet we vowed to ourselves that we were here for something better. Of course we are, but we do so easily get lost - and there are numerous people that assist us in building a trap, they do it with the best of intentions, they think they are being your friend - yet are they?

It is here we spend the evenings sitting like a zombie watching television, instead of spending time improving ourselves. I will put my hand up and admit that I have been there and of course in the first days of my eyesight challenge there was little else I could do than listen to the radio or TV - it wound through the day, but it also got me thinking how trapped I had become and I realised that indeed I had been trapped for quite some time, despite the little projects I had been involved in that were supposed to break the mould.

That is when I started to think about my situation.

Let the spider run alive

Here is a silly saying:

    "If you want to live and thrive, let the spider run alive - Anon"

Not being sure what the moral here is but a thought does come to mind that we must become the spider and run alive, either that or we live vicariously through the spider. Either way running seems more important than simply plodding along. Of course the association with the spider is largely because they always seem to have a plan in mind - especially when building their web. They may seem to be scurrying hither and thither, but they do everything according to a plan and that plan is all important, which leads to asking the question:

    What is your plan?

Truth is that most of us, most of the time, are not running to a plan - and this is true for even those that have written down their plan and think they are executing it, but are they? I know that I was not and worse still I probably pretended I was.

Running after Two Hares

There is a saying that if you run after two hares you will catch neither. Thinking of this it is possible to recall an important story that is also very relevant:

    A team of road builders were hacking their way through a forest, cutting trees, laying out the new road surface, they had gotten into a great rhythm that it seemed they would soon get through their gigantic task.

    One day their foreman decided to climb a tree and scope out the lay of the land and check their progress against the plan, which he felt certain would confirm to everyone that they had made great progress. At the tree top he soon had a puzzled frown cross his face, then he rotated the map and his plans a few times before coming to the realisation of something crucial.

    As he climbed back down the workers gathered around waiting to hear the great news and seeing the anxious looks said "You have made great progress - trouble is we have been cutting through the wrong forest!"

Of course running after one hare is difficult enough, running after two is impossible. But what happens when you realise that you have been making great progress, but it is towards the wrong goal? It is at that point you realise your efforts were wasted. Gaining the realisation of the misdirection is crucial because it is only then you can change direction.

Learning to walk all over again

There is a saying that we must learn to walk before we can run and personally I would always prefer to run before I could walk - that has always been my approach to life. Yet when you have to start all over again then perhaps it is best to learn to walk first, which is why I have been talking about learning to walk a mile in a blind man's shoes.

When I first started to regain some sight in my right eye everything was extremely painful and I had to have a lot of assistance by others around me. But over time I found that I could see better and better in my right eye and having much time to kill during the day I decided that I had to achieve something even if it was only in small steps - truth was I was now learning to walk and doing it slowly. Things that took no time or thought had to be done slowly and with a great deal of thought.

It was painful but a necessary re-education process.

Civility costs nothing

At some point I realised that I had to reach out to others and trust that they could assist you.

One thing we must all realise is that most people are basically good, they have a desire to help - where they can, but it is important to know that you should not push their limits and never ask them to do things they are uncomfortable doing. Of course because people are basically good of course you have to thank them for all of their assistance.

I remember going to many places for the first time when I could see nothing but light and it felt like the rooms were really small and all the corridors were tight spaces, it gave me the creeps - and reminded me of a dream I once had of being trapped in a tunnel. I felt so trapped everything was so dark, especially the hospital that I was in and if you know just one thing about hospitals it is that they are places where the lights ar on all day and all night.

Once I was able to see something again I was able to put faces to voices, including some of the voices that I had been hearing in mysterious unknown places. When all you know is the voice you do not get the full picture of how people are and it gives a peculiar sensation so as well as learning to walk all over again I was learning to understand people all over again. and here it is important to remember that a little gratitude and civility costs nothing, but it goes such a long way.

Image Credits

All images used here (except the blind man's shoe) are from a collection of royalty free images by Green Street that were purchased by the writer and are titled:

  • I'm staying here
  • Little things please little minds
  • The spiders web
  • Droopy eared hare
  • The way it is

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author avatar Chip Greene
1st Oct 2014 (#)

Very insightful Peter. "I see said the blind man to his deaf son."

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author avatar Retired
1st Oct 2014 (#)

Nice article, Peter. Food for thought.

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author avatar M G Singh
2nd Oct 2014 (#)

Yes, good you have highlighted this.

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author avatar snerfu
2nd Oct 2014 (#)

Great article Mr Giblett, very inspirational like always.

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author avatar Retired
2nd Oct 2014 (#)

I suppose that, by definition, if something is "too much" it has ceased to be good for you, although it may still be good for someone who has yet to reach the limit!

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author avatar Peter B. Giblett
2nd Oct 2014 (#)

That is of course true John. One of the curious things about the human condition is that we tend to each suffer in a different way and sometimes something will be good for one person when it is not for another. We can only judge for ourselves.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Oct 2014 (#)

We become born again in the sense we see things differently and mostly in the right perspective. We tend to become too comfortable within the comfort zones especially the rich within their circle and have nothing else to think and talk than making money at any cost. To remain humble is bliss and to be contented. Thanks Peter for the share - we should learn even when we fall down; in fact we learn more during those times. The world would be much better place if the super rich went through poverty for a while after they made their billions or our arms merchants found themselves at ground zero to realize what war is about! siva

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author avatar Peter B. Giblett
2nd Oct 2014 (#)

Actually Siva there are many people that seem to continue to fall down and learn nothing from the process. I guess they are not yet ready and perhaps never will be.

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author avatar Retired
2nd Oct 2014 (#)

I think before we can decide if we can have too much of a good thing, we have to decide what a good thing is and how it is good. What the body likes, the mind might not, and what the mind likes, the soul might not, and what the soul requires, usually the mind and body do not like.
This article reminds me of the little ditty that goes, 'did you ever get the feeling that you wanted to go ... but then, you got the feeling that you wanted to stay ...?

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author avatar Peter B. Giblett
2nd Oct 2014 (#)

That little ditty certainly came to mind when writing a part of it.

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
2nd Oct 2014 (#)

why Peter? we can be sad in the midst of happy, cry in the midst of joy snd so on...
great page for sure

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author avatar Peter B. Giblett
3rd Oct 2014 (#)

Quite a conundrum Carolina.

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
3rd Oct 2014 (#)

Ha. Definitely something I have been relating to!!

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author avatar Peter B. Giblett
3rd Oct 2014 (#)

Phyl - many of us fool ourselves that everything is OK, but we fail to look deep down and that is where the truth lays.

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author avatar colouringstars♥
23rd Dec 2014 (#)

really good, ♥

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