Dear irresponsible father

Benter AdedeStarred Page By Benter Adede, 2nd Jul 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Moving on with motherhood after disappearance of the baby's father.

You are no longer needed

I thought it would be fine to let you know that I have fully adjusted to your absence. It took me a while I must confess but I have finally made it. Am still sorry, I can never say "you no longer needed". I sincerely hope you are doing fine wherever you are. I keep wondering though, how can you forget us? I may never know. I may never understand. Someday, I hope I will understand.

Our Wonderful Baby

Your son is growing up. Hope you come looking for him soon before he starts asking about you. I do not think I have the strength to tell him you don't care. He is such a cool, calm and collected boy. He is adorable and handsome. You should see him. He is my exact replica. He has your hands and I think he is going to be intelligent just as you are. I pray daily that I may be a good mother to him even in your absence.

Assuming parental responsibilities

I shall fulfil my parental duties to bring him up just as God has entrusted me to. I continue to pray that I get over the situation completely and more importantly, to forget you altogether. I hurt deeply every time I think my baby will not have the opportunity of having a father yet you are there. I hurt deeply. Sometimes when I lack, I wish you were here so we could provide for our son together. Anyway, I have learnt to depend on God and God alone. All in all, I shall also settle down someday and on that day, I will have moved on!
Still me,
Min Zeph!

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A stay home mother venturing into writing.
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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
2nd Jul 2012 (#)

Although this man did wrong to leave, you need to let go of your hate to him because he is still, and will always be, your child's father and your child will always feel your hate towards what really is part of him.

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author avatar Benter Adede
3rd Jul 2012 (#)

You are absolutely right Gordon, My son has the right to know his father. Unfortunately, since his conception to date, his father has not acknowledged him. Funnily, his family members (brothers and sisters) always ask about him(my son). He is only 9months old now. I hope and pray that by the time he is old enough to realise a family is made up of father, mother and children, his father will have showed up! I no longer have hate, am just confused.

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author avatar Ivyevelyn, R.S.A.
3rd Jul 2012 (#)

Mark Gordon has stated the way I feel. The child deserves to know his father and form his own opinion. You are giving only one half of the story. My mother tried to teach us to disrespect my father, but as we grew up, we formed our own opinion, and we loved him.

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author avatar Benter Adede
3rd Jul 2012 (#)

hey Ivyevelyn! I can never teach my child to hate. It so wrong. I just don't how to tell him his father wants nothing to do with us. It is so hurting. I hope that in time, sooner rather than later, his father will acknowledge that he indeed has a son and accept him; even if he does not want to spend his life with me. He may at least accept his son to be part of his life. I only hope and pray.

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author avatar Ivyevelyn, R.S.A.
3rd Jul 2012 (#)

That is good news, Benter. I am so pleased that you will try to include your child's father in his life.

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author avatar Benter Adede
13th Aug 2012 (#)

I have the best news ever Ivyevelyn, R.S.A.! Father and Son met on Saturday 11th August 2012!

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author avatar Kevin Brown
26th Aug 2012 (#)

This page breaks me apart! Thanks be to GOD that you met!!!!

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author avatar Benter Adede
2nd Sep 2012 (#)

Hey Kevin Brown, I can only thank God that all is going on well now. This page however will serve as part of our history. We have come a long way. This will remind us where we are from. We shall one day look back and Smile.

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author avatar Ivyevelyn, R.S.A.
26th Aug 2012 (#)

Wonderful news, Benter. However you might see your baby's father, you son will see him as his Daddy. I hope you will always remember to allow you son to take pride in his father, he is the only Daddy he will ever have. By the way, I am proud of you. Love, Ivyevelyn.

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author avatar Benter Adede
2nd Sep 2012 (#)

Thanks Ivyevelyn. Tahnk you for continually encouraging me. I allow my son the freedom to be with his father, his Daddy! His role model! I am happy the two are in each other's life. Now my problems have flown away!

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