Death of Hate

Phyl CampbellStarred Page By Phyl Campbell, 28th Mar 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/17knpytw/
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I'm a little late sharing my reaction to the death of cult leader Fred Phelps. I wish his family and even his most fervent followers peace. I hope his legacy of hate dies with him.

When in the Course of Human Events...

...one man works so hard to assert his dominance on earth that his own children live in fear of him and flee his domination, it is time for a new world order of peace and love. Of course, I'm writing about the passing of Fred Phelps.

I'm not sure what happened in his life to turn him into such a propagator of hate. Did he have hopes and dreams like other people do? Did something or someone crush those dreams and embitter him as a result?

I don't know.

However...

I Find Hope...

... because people he hurt are not and did not protest his funeral. While he was alive, loved ones of funerals where he led protests did not respond with violence against his person. (Against his automobiles, perhaps...) Phelps died of illness and old age, not by the hand of someone he hurt.

I find hope in his estranged family reaching out to family. I see efforts to bury the past and show more love and compassion than the same family members were ever shown. I see people responding to their messages of love, courage, and compassion.

Even with all this love, hope, caring, and compassion, however, I struggle.

I Struggle...

... to see how people can agree that Fred Phelps was an outrageous religious zealot bordering on terrorist -- yet demand that their interpretation of their Holy Books trump the basic human rights of others. Either Fred Phelps is right, or he isn't. Either people don't have basic human rights, including freedom of (and from) religion, or they do.

I think we do.

I've Faced Hardships...

...like so many before me, and more to come when I am gone. We may lose sight of individual struggles in sight of the Hardships of History, including:

Roman Candles
The Inquisition
Great Potato Famine
Salem Witch Trials
Slavery in the American South
Deplorable factory conditions in the American North
Jim Crowe Laws
Suffrage
Civil Rights Struggles
Immigration Struggles
Poverty

Hardships of History did not start with the United States, but when considering the history of religions asserting dominance or fleeing destruction, it is important to recognize many areas of struggle. While I still believe that the United States is a great nation, perhaps the best in the world, it pains me to see the extent to which people with freedom would go to keep others from enjoying the same rights and freedoms. Fred Phelps many have been a dictator, a terrorist, and a monster, but what are efforts by DOMA initiators, Hobby Lobby, Duck Dynasty, or Chick-Fil-A if not hate thinly veiled as Christian duty? When these people profess that all are brothers and sisters in Christ, they embody the very things they would say Phelps was wrong to stand for. They criticize his extreme, but not his message. I am not a brother or sister of these willingly. I don't understand their faith. Instead, my anger, my confusion, and my sadness all grow.

I am a fortunate woman -- a student of literature and history. I have read so many words, tales, accounts -- things seen and unseen, things that are, have been, and might never be -- and I know there is nothing new under the sun. We struggle on. Fred Phelps is dead and buried. I hope we can stand strong against other religious zealots and terrorists who would take his place -- until the day hate dies and rests in peace.

Meanwhile...

We grow. We change. We die. Love remains.

Love Remains

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Bigotry, Cult, Hatred, Love, Phelps, Religion, Sin, Wrongdoing

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author avatar Kingwell
28th Mar 2014 (#)

Very well said my friend. We must no condemn or judge this man because something happened at sometime in his life that filled him with hate. I too hope that the cult will die with him. Christianity, when based on unconditional love does much good.

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
28th Mar 2014 (#)

wonderful is this dear Phyl...thank you xox

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
7th Sep 2014 (#)

Hmmm... Looking over old stuff and making another datadabse. ;) Seems I neglected to offer my thanks below until your second posting. I'm so glad you shared this. I'm sharing it again 9/11 -- because I think the Death of Hate is something we should all work toward.
Thanks!

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
7th Sep 2014 (#)

Silly fingers -- database!!

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
28th Mar 2014 (#)

Hatred is more the amplified jealousy that exists within a person when they cannot accept and perform what someone else can do a lot better than them.
Its all about the inner being that brings about the change in body chemistry wherein it begins to reflect in your demeanour and persona causing the world to see the fact of who you really are from within.
The Soul is the reflection to Creation for the demeanour that you build in this lifetime but the truth of who and what you make of yourself is reflected in the way you behave and the actions and reactions that ultimately become your face value and outlook in life.
You are what you co-create and unfortunately, this very attitude is what causes many to be judged on the same wavelength as yourself where your personality becomes the reason why you judge the other person that way.
I hate no one including the ones who hurt me in my life here on Wikinut.

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author avatar Connie McKinney
28th Mar 2014 (#)

Well said, Phyl. I have always been puzzled by people who discriminate and hate others in the name of their religion. Jesus preached love, tolerance and compassion for all.
Also, you and I are Americans. We have the freedom to believe whatever we want or not to believe whatever we want. We should never force our beliefs on others.

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
28th Mar 2014 (#)

Thanks Kingwell, Lady A, and Connie.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
28th Mar 2014 (#)

Well said Phyl. I have found when one loves own religion to such an extent that it becomes an obsession then the thin line is crossed to hate others' beliefs. Maybe, another classic duality of creation whereby love and hate are well balanced and in accounting parlance - the Trial Balance, just balances! I try to understand all beliefs and there are the good and bad everywhere - siva

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
28th Mar 2014 (#)

Thanks, Siva!

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
28th Mar 2014 (#)

Good morning, Phyl, nicely presented from subject to your opinion, to your hope. Well done. Value in this from many perspectives. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
28th Mar 2014 (#)

Thanks, Marilyn!

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author avatar Funom Makama
28th Mar 2014 (#)

Well Said Phyl.. Hate and Love are directly opposite! If one claims to be spiritual and holds unto ideologies founded in love, then Hate has no place in their lives... Its such a lovely tribute and I wish his family divine comfort..

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
29th Mar 2014 (#)

No argument here. Thanks.

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
28th Mar 2014 (#)

Wonderful post Phyl!

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
29th Mar 2014 (#)

Thank you, Fern.

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author avatar joyalariwo
28th Mar 2014 (#)

what a life! to live in hate yet proclaim it as love.

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
29th Mar 2014 (#)

Yes. Yes. Thank you.

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
29th Mar 2014 (#)

am sharing this my friend...

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
30th Mar 2014 (#)

Thank you!

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