Decluttering Our Lives Is the Way Forward

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We declutter our homes to rid those that are of use no longer. But we tend to carry forward the negative issues from the past to get weighed down in our approach to the present. Our shared world will be a different place if we took initiatives than just going around in circles. Let us remember what Einstein said - Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Overcoming Injustices

Decluttering our homes is easier but our minds and lives are not that easy.We have long memories for the slights that simmer though we try to forgive and forget them to look forward and enjoy our ride to our destination. There are some who can live for the moment and they are really blessed though having arrived there with much discipline. For the rest it is a struggle as past experiences replay to keep us on guard. In fact, even the hurts that happened to our forefathers are replayed through history lessons and hearsay and we seek to take revenge on their account. It then becomes an endless process but it is best we bury the past with those who had suffered. Let them settle it in their way as our beliefs point out to ultimate justice being served. So why should we be burdened? Moreover, we are not fully aware of the circumstances that led to the events – not like now when even real wars are shown live!

Live and Let Live

In personal lives we have issues at home and workplace. We fail to appreciate where others come from, their emotions, and even we react differently according to our own state of mind. Words once out of our mouths cannot be put back but sincere efforts at damage control can save the situation. But then ego and pride come in the way and soon things are out of control. That points to the need to reassess our lives from time to time and declutter those that lead to our distress. We should ponder how we reacted, how others did to our words and actions, and modify our approach without losing our sincerity to the cause. After all, we are emotional and we should give enough leeway for others moods and idiosyncrasies even! When it leads to peaceful coexistence, does it matter in the end?

Cost of Distrust

I have seen colleagues at workplace harboring hurtful and ill feelings and the tension can be cut with a knife. Every word and action is analysed for hidden motives. Soon it becomes self-fulfilling as misery results again and again. Between relatives too there can be no love lost for no apparent reason other than distrust of others’ intentions. Relations among countries are not above these petty squabbles either as only few leaders are able to establish mutual trust with others. Mostly distrust of others intentions rule the roost leading to misery and wasteful expenditure on defense. Every year the defense budgets are on the increase and that is taken as par for the course but not on health and education!

Dig Deep to Fix Issues

Can we go hammer and tong to declutter our minds, thoughts and actions so that we make a new beginning? It is plain common sense but that is sadly not that common! It is easy for us to declutter our computers with latest tools and even discard and buy new ones but we have to live with our minds all our lives! But we have the best tools within us though we keep it mostly in slumber, dormant! Just like a new computer roars into action like an F1 racing car, we can look forward to renewed vigor once we put the negatives of past behind us but keeping the basics in the background not to repeat our mistakes!

Everyone Gains, Almost!

No one owes us a living. We can look around us right through history and learn the lessons that brought us misery. History repeats and we should be on guard. We should turn a new leaf once we know the pitfalls of a certain direction. But that is easily overlooked like in personal lives. I have experienced how gullible we all are. We think it will not happen to us though it has been happening to everyone around us! Are we so special and given a boon? Decluttering is needed and we should keep such an attitude all the time so that we progress and not be pinned down by repeating our follies. What works in personal lives, countries and mankind in general has to be discussed, thought over and put into practice. The price we pay for such an exercise is worth every dollar and hour. We are lugging around too much of trash, even powerful leaders when they meet with others. When the mind is cluttered no progress is possible. We have had the opposite of Black Swan events like the fall of Iron Curtain, Apartheid and China stepping onto the world stage. But we are still weighed down by clinging to outdated thinking that makes even powerful countries doubt each other. It is time our leaders thought about the collective karma of our species to declutter their minds as they tackle issues that have really no meaning when compared with our shared journey. A piece of land may be disputed as to who it belongs to but does it really matter to 99%? We leave with nothing like when we arrived and national boundaries and egos are in our minds only! We need to declutter lock, stock and barrel, leave no stone upturned!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you Mark for your quick moderation and star merit - appreciated - siva

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author avatar SS Kumar
7th Jun 2014 (#)

Very nice article indeed!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jun 2014 (#)

Thanks Kumar for your enduring support - siva

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
7th Jun 2014 (#)

this is filled with such wisdom Siva and so right on...many thanks...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jun 2014 (#)

Thanks Carolina - I am in the process of catching up with yours too - siva

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author avatar Helen Thomas
7th Jun 2014 (#)

Another great and wonderful article ~ Siva. THANKS. I agree with what you said: "We are lugging around too much of trash . . ." "When the mind is cluttered no progress is possible." May you receive the blessings God has for you by receiving His Son into your heart.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you Helen for your kind comments and wishing me well. We have to unload useless baggage as a matter of course, make it a habit. Sadly our leaders dig up trash, long buried, to suit their selfish needs! siva

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author avatar snerfu
7th Jun 2014 (#)

Good article Siva, hope you find it all right if I mention this that your article is bang on typical Siva mold. Inspires yet is sublime.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jun 2014 (#)

Thanks for your sublime encouragement, Snerfu. I feel fulfilled when my post strikes a chord with the readers - siva

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author avatar Randhir Bechoo
7th Jun 2014 (#)

Thought provoking share.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jun 2014 (#)

Thanks Randhir for your support - siva

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
7th Jun 2014 (#)

When we let go of the past and forgive all who hurt us dear Siva ...we find the pages of clutter in our souls are wiped clean ...like a beautiful soak ..when the last drop of water goes down the drain ...it cannot be recalled ..
Bliss ...
A free gift from a loving Saviour , my friend .
God bless you with His everlasting love and peace .
Stella ><

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you dear Stella - you are always full of love and support. We are with the majority to see that hatred never trumps love. Only few are able to forgive easily and it takes patience, practice and, most of all, empathy towards those who hurt us for reasons not clear to us; so let us not judge them. By carrying a grudge we are only punishing ourselves though some (majority?) mix forgiving with pride and ego. We are part of nature that renews every moment; why not take a leaf out of its book? Sadly, even countries are at loggerheads due to the failures and selfish attitudes of leaders who fail to see the big picture. Mandela did rather than going to straight to the jugular of those who stole his best years - siva

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author avatar WOGIAM
7th Jun 2014 (#)

Most of us know we need to let go of past issues which often hinder us from moving forward and growing positively but this is easier said than done. It is possible though, thanks for your article.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jun 2014 (#)

Thanks Wogiam. I have been, like some others, stabbed from the front and back couple of times. After recovering from the initial shocks, I picked up my pieces and took them as part of life. I am luckier than few who get wrongly accused and punished but still are able to get going. And there are also some unfortunate who lead a life of despair without knowing they are richly blessed much more than most. It boils down to attitude towards life. My father used to say when we miss our breakfast, we enjoy our lunch better! I readily forgive but avoid those who are up to no good, beyond repair - siva

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author avatar vellur
8th Jun 2014 (#)

Totally agree we need to declutter lock, stock and barrel. Great write and wise words.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you Vellur. That is the only way for our peace of mind and our leaders should turn a new leaf too than harping on the past to divide us - siva

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author avatar Delicia Powers
8th Jun 2014 (#)

Siva you are always a profound voice of reason....

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you Delicia for your encouragement - siva

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author avatar n.c.radomes
8th Jun 2014 (#)

Full of wisdom; guiding principles and philosophies on how to live life to the full correctly. Keep up!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
9th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you Radomes for your kind words of encouragement - siva

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author avatar spirited
8th Jun 2014 (#)

cluttering is related to lack of focus I guess, if we are really focussed we drop off the extraneous attachments.

That's an interesting link between cluttering our minds and our house's.

Good one siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
9th Jun 2014 (#)

Thanks Spirited. Not only at individual levels, among countries too we carry useless baggage that makes us look behind all the time. Past is well past and we cannot do much to repair the injustices except to learn from them - why not we breathe fresh air than get held back? It is like the argument with climate age; you have been polluting all these years, so we also have the right to do so! siva

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author avatar Ptrikha
9th Jun 2014 (#)

Hi Siva,
I think I have nothing more to say than to repeat what you have stated:

"We need to declutter lock, stock and barrel, leave no stone upturned! "
Yet this is no mean task if people, and leaders hold on to their egos. If ego and self-pride are kept aside, it is a cakewalk!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
9th Jun 2014 (#)

Yes Ptrikha. We certainly do not elect our leaders to start a fight against another country. Will they if their own lives are at stake? They should prove their mettle by taking on poverty and injustice. They should join force with others to fight criminals everywhere. And some religious zealots are egging their followers to kill others in the name of unseen Gods by promising heaven. No God will want lives to be lost or these bigots are hardly worth passing by heaven if it does exist. If it does, other creatures should get preference as they believe in live and let live and add value to creation in a more positive way - we end-up biting the hand that feeds us!

Some say ego and self-pride are needed for progress but certainly not those that lead us to butcher others. Read the headlines of everyday and one can see dozens slaughtered in the name of beliefs and the majority keeps quite if their own are involved. Then the minority decides the agenda for us as silence is construed as acceptance. Time for us speak out and say thus far and no more to a bigoted minority. Let there be true democracy and not what is ruling now - manipulated by a greedy few whoever is in power. Close all armament factories and cut off the supplies to "wrong hands" that still brings in "moolah" - siva

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author avatar Ptrikha
10th Jun 2014 (#)

Unfortunately, many of these leaders are themselves biggest protectors of big criminals, and themselves contributors to the rising crime, so first these people need to be replaced by better and more honest and clean people.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
10th Jun 2014 (#)

Yes Ptrikha, honest people should step forward than expect the present bunch to change. There is a breath of fresh air through technology that can cut barriers and make system transparent like Right to Information Act of India. There should also be avenues for active citizenry so that the majority have more say on a regular basis. We should keep fine-tuning the system so that we have inclusive society - not like now where nine work to enrich one - siva

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author avatar Mariah
9th Jun 2014 (#)

Ever the guide towards the right path in life and always with the perfect words to convey that message Siva,
thank you for continuing to be our source of inspiration my friend.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
9th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you Mariah for such kind words of encouragement. I do declutter as a matter of routine but I find some carrying needless loads that just weigh them down. Why be victims forever of willful hurts of others? For every one person who hurt us, put us down, aren't there nine holding our hands as a matter of human empathy and compassion? On a broader scale, our leaders should also step out their outdated ways to really lead us by ignoring the past after having learned the lessons like Mandela did recently - siva

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author avatar Connie McKinney
9th Jun 2014 (#)

Well said, as usual, Siva. We all need to declutter and to support others instead of putting them down.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
9th Jun 2014 (#)

Thanks Connie. Let us travel light but with only the right attitude - siva

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author avatar vandana7
9th Jun 2014 (#)

Excellent thinking. :) I like the Einstein quote. At times with variation though we can get a different result. Or perhaps change in the external conditions perhaps? There is a lot to discard in my life as well. Hope I will manage it in time. :)

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
10th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you Vandana. We all carry baggage needlessly that are of no consequence in the end. One big issue puts others into background! Then again, we keep thinking of those that are no more of relevance instead of looking ahead with enthusiasm.

Our leaders too carry agenda that will only prove bottlenecks for our inclusive future. The rich have no borders while the common citizens across borders face the same everyday plight! siva

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author avatar Subra
10th Jun 2014 (#)

Dear Siva, your point is well said. As human beings we all carry negative baggage but the point is how can we go about decluttering our minds, thoughts and actions even though the secret for doing so is within us! It's true that is the way forward but how are we going to achieve it? This a highly debatable topic without any ready solution, in my opinion.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
10th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you dear Subra for thinking aloud. Negative thoughts come more easily than the positive. As negativity goes to hold us down, we should make a conscious effort to rid them as they appear. They are like bad cholesterol clogging our arteries, sapping our energy. As for me, when I feel low on account of certain issues, I tell myself - this too will pass! siva

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author avatar C.D. Moore
10th Jun 2014 (#)

Yes house cleaning the mind is not as easy as the house, but it feels so good to throw out all that junk and get some space for something new. Well said as always Siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
11th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you C D Moore. We all carry useless baggage and some that repeatedly hurt us - for me, I take a view - lessons well learned, move on. I have seen few getting weighed by minor irritants that are just part and parcel of life - siva

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
11th Jun 2014 (#)

Well done. I feel you took a page from my book and improved it.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
11th Jun 2014 (#)

Thanks Phyl for your uplifting words of support - siva

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author avatar brendamarie
11th Jun 2014 (#)

This is a great page, you are very wise. Gla, to see it as a star page.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
11th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you Brendamarie. I love to share from what I experience in life and I believe our feelings are same whoever and wherever we are - siva

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author avatar johnbee
12th Jun 2014 (#)

Good share Siva. Have a great day!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
12th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you Johnbee for your support. Have a great day too and hope to read more of yours soon - siva

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author avatar Pace21
12th Jun 2014 (#)

Very interesting

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
13th Jun 2014 (#)

Thanks Pace - siva

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author avatar Kingwell
14th Jun 2014 (#)

Very wise thoughts my friend.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
14th Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you Kingwell. I value your support and comments - siva

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author avatar ciannamichelle
14th Jun 2014 (#)

Great write-up siva.declutter leads to stagnation in life,its just like being stuck in the mud.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
14th Jun 2014 (#)

Thanks Ciannamichelle. We need to move forward in life with less baggage and clutter - siva

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author avatar writestuff
14th Jun 2014 (#)

Sage advice. No one can successfully move forward while looking backwards.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you Writestuff. We all carry hurts but how we deal with them decides our state of mind. Let us just enjoy the moments and do our part as co-creators - siva

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author avatar Christine Crowley
23rd Jun 2014 (#)

How true - it is easier to declutter our homes than our minds. Wonderful article, Siva. Very thought provoking.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2014 (#)

Thank you Christine for your generous support as always, much appreciated - siva

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author avatar Bill Harbin Jr
30th Jun 2014 (#)

Great article and really good pictures in this star page!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jul 2014 (#)

Thanks Bill for your encouragement - siva

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author avatar pinks11
3rd Jul 2014 (#)

Golden advise indeed but its really difficult when one is going through these circumstances. Sir I really need your advice as I have also being targeted again and again and I don't understand how to deal with it.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
3rd Jul 2014 (#)

Thank you Pinks. There are two ways to deal with injustices. Either to confront them head on, or avoid coming into contact with the perpetrator. I try both depending on the circumstances. When we are strong in our resolve for justice anyone will get the message. When we are vulnerable, few try to take advantage especially of our emotions. One should get our thoughts organized. My aim is not to precipitate issues and lead my life by example. However, I am aware there are some who try to trip others and get their fill out of others' misery. Finally, it depends on the righteousness of our ways - siva

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author avatar Joyce Singha
15th Aug 2014 (#)

When confronting head on, be ready to have your head bruised as well :)

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
15th Aug 2014 (#)

Yes Joyce not only head, but also ego; yet one has to stand by our principles whatever it takes. However, one needs diplomacy to avoid open confrontation when emotions and noise trump reason - siva

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author avatar Etc.
4th Aug 2014 (#)

You've hit a nerve. So many comments on this article.

I have never been one to hold a grudge. That grudge-bone seems to be something you're born with. Of course real and perceived wrongs aren't the only negativities we carry forward in our lives. Often the very worse are those negative ideas we think about ourselves.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
5th Aug 2014 (#)

Thank you Etc. The main issue with our world is our tendency to go for revenge and it becomes ongoing forever. Gandhi said - an eye for eye will make the whole world blind. The past is truly past and we cannot appreciate fully the circumstances behind their actions. We can do so much good looking ahead but learning from our past mistakes.

As for me, I let go the hurts; otherwise, I punish myself by reliving them often - siva

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author avatar Joyce Singha
15th Aug 2014 (#)

Beautiful written Siva. My fingers hurt scrolling down the page to put in a comment. De-cluttering should be made a necessary component of living; gets rid of nonsense.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
15th Aug 2014 (#)

Sorry about that Joyce, but being the beneficiary of others' munificence I do enjoy this journey of scrolling down! How I wish our leaders too let go old issues that are irrelevant rather than raking it up to divide us and rule. Let the dead bury their dead; I mean in such a way the dead will get their justice in the end than for us to be on a perpetual revenge mode - siva

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author avatar Retired
28th Apr 2015 (#)

People who nurture the hatred inside their hearts and keep reminding themselves of the past enmities, lest they forget, never make progress in life. The thoughts of ill-will vitiate their minds and erode their advancements like obnoxious pests. God bless them!
Great post, Siva. You're the undisputed king of this site when it comes to intellectual literature. Keep up the good work! Your articles stir up my conscience every time i read them.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
28th Apr 2015 (#)

What words of encouragement Joyesh - I have a lot to live up to while reading such.

Not only individuals, even countries, carry hurts for too long. Nobody need be enemies - I have moved with people from around the world and even Wikinut proves our conscience is same despite few trying to sow seeds of discord.

I am astonished that in this age of border-less world many of the poorest countries, sadly India too, are wasting their precious resources for buying arms and spending more on them than for health and education. China has lavished Pakistan with cutting edge armaments rather than helping with with basics of day-to-day living.

Karma, the law of cause and effect, will decimate humanity sooner than we think if we prove to be up to no good, discarding the lessons from history - siva

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author avatar snerfu
29th Apr 2015 (#)

Very nice article. I have thrown away the refrigerator spanner, the electric typewriter polish can, the gem polishing machine,...where is the mud re-filler?? Just be with you Siva, like I said good article.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th Apr 2015 (#)

Thanks Snerfu that you still have the computer! Luckily, I did not delete the old articles as people still read them!

Let us follow nature in the way it does not waste anything including us. Nature manages to renew itself, retaining some for years while giving all enough time to enjoy its welcome including us both individually and also as a species. We have every reason to be grateful for every moment - siva

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