Domestic Abuse, the NFL, the Law and Personal Experience

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An essay focusing on the relationship of domestic abuse and the NFL, domestic abuse laws and some personal experiencs with domestic abuse.

Caught on camera

In February of 2014, Baltimore Ravens football player Ray Rice assaulted his then girlfriend Janay Palmer. He knocked her out with one punch. Then, he unceremoniously dragged her unconscious body out of the elevator where the assault had taken place. It was all caught on the elevator's video camera at a New Jersey casino.

The Commissioner rules

Initially, Rice was suspended for two games by NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell. Goodell came under sharp criticism for the light punishment. He subsequently increased Rice's suspension to one year. He has also modified the NFL's Personal Conduct Policy. The old policy, outlined in 2012, left disciplinary action up to the discretion of the league.

The old and new NFL policies

The old policy stated, "Discipline may take the form of fines, suspension or banishment from the league and may include a probationary period and conditions that must be satisfied prior to or following reinstatement. The specifics of the disciplinary response will be based on the nature of the incident, the actual or threatened risk to the participant and others, any prior or additional misconduct, (whether or not criminal charges were filed), and other related factors." This punishment for domestic abuse/violence couldn't be more vague.
The new enhanced policies would result in a six-game suspension for a first offense related to domestic violence or sexual assault and an indefinite ban for a second offense committed by any NFL personnel.

No charges ever filed

In this case the victim, Janay, never filed any charges against Rice. She had a child by him, a daughter named Raven, who is now two years old. Janay is now Rice's spouse. She has spoken out about the incident defending her new husband. I've seen this through personal experience many times before. Psychologists and anti-abuse advocates have many of their own theories on the subject.

Domestic violence laws

In the past this behavior was largely ignored and even approved of. That attitude has greatly changed today. However, some people still live by the old standards. Sharia law, a Muslim doctrine, approves of a husband's or father's right to discipline a spouse or child in this fashion. It even goes as far as allowing the killing of a spouse or child who offends.
Domestic abuse laws vary from state to state and worldwide. Where I was a law enforcement officer in the 80's the law said that a police officer may arrest with probable cause if physical abuse has taken place. The law changed to read must. It also changed so that the victim only had to be placed in fear by the antagonist. The law only applied to spouses back then. That too changed. It was expanded to include any partner, relative, and even unrelated people living under the same roof.
This type of disturbance call is one of the most dangerous for a police officer to answer. The officer, in performing his duty, often finds himself under assault by one or both parties involved. Such a case usually resulted in the husband being asked to leave while the wife was advised to seek remedy in court the next day.She was advised to obtain a restraining order and was given a copy of the law. Reverse the sexes and the same applies. Predictably, nothing usually ever became of it.
I once saw an example of how widely the law differs from state to state. Doing a ride- a-long with the Mesa, Arizona Police Department my escorting officer answered a domestic violence complaint. A boyfriend had slapped his girlfriend, who had made the complaint. The boyfriend was issued a ticket which had a fine attached to it. I was flabbergasted!

The lighter side

On the lighter side… I was a City of Mesa Park Ranger when one Sunday afternoon I noticed a crowd gathering in the parking lot of Pioneer Park. Approaching them I saw a middle-aged Hispanic woman chasing a middle-aged Hispanic man around a car. She was wielding a large frying pan. A younger woman was sitting in the car. The police arrived and dispersed the crowd. The middle-aged woman left also. The man drove away with the younger woman. Never having heard a word of English uttered during the entire event I asked an Hispanic officer on the scene what was going on. He told me that the middle-aged man and woman were spouses. The younger woman in the car was the man's girlfriend. It just happened be Mother's Day.

The remedy

The problem continues today and will never go away. The immediate remedy is arrest and/or imprisonment. Long-term counseling for both the victim and the protagonist is the real answer.

Credits

2012 NFL Personal Conduct Policy
http://images.nflplayers.com/mediaResources/files/2012%20Personal%20Conduct%20Policy.pdf

NFL toughens it's stance on domestic violence
Tom Peliggero, USA Today Sports

Photo credits

Ray Rice Baltimore Ravens
Getty images

NFL commissioner
ethicsalarms.com

Ray Rice, Janay Palmer, and two year old daughter
Mailonline

No domestic violence
familylawms.com

Roy Rice and one year old Rayven
AP

Stop domestic violence
cricklewood.town talk.co.uk

Domestic violence hurts everyone
bpdokcblogspot.com

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Abuse Laws, Domestic Abuse, Janay Palmer, Nfl, Ray Rice

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author avatar Chip Greene
I am a retired police officer, baseball enthusiast, political junkie, and published writer.
My articles will focus on crime, politics, and baseball.

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author avatar Steve Kinsman
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Great article Chip. Thank you for raising this issue.

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author avatar Chip Greene
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Thanks Steve. Because of what I've seen I thought it necessary.

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author avatar Retired
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Well done, Chip.

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author avatar Joyce Singha
12th Sep 2014 (#)

This seems a very complicated story with a lot going on or went on. Seems you had more than domestic violence. I too have seen a lot of it, at close quarters.

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author avatar Joyce Singha
12th Sep 2014 (#)

The above comment was meant for Lady Aiyanna.

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
12th Sep 2014 (#)

yes very well done indeed...

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
12th Sep 2014 (#)

Have you been a victim of Domestic Violence???

I have, it takes more than 7 attempts for a person to finally stand up and say enough and most of the times during those attempts to get away and run you end up with guilt and you always return back to them.
Sadly, I remain married to the person and didn't put the man in prison although I have remained married to him. I got to the bottom of why he was violent with me and the story lay in his mother who hated the guts of me because of religion and used to poison his mind against me. Also because of the fact he never wanted responsibility as a father and because he was a victim of domestic violence and bullying during childhood itself.
The truth is that his excessive anger drove him crazy and finally landed him in the mental asylum in 2012 and not through my hand as he had abandoned the family in 2010 at police behest to change and remediate himself or face jail. His concubine put him in the mental asylum and and guess what, I now have the mad man back as a husband but he is more loving and in tune with his mother who told me he was out of shape in his body. Instantly deciphered she always wanted him back with her and said fine, you keep your son, I'll keep mine but we remain married and I walked out.
That is the truth of life in mine.

None the less, many go hatred when they say Domestic violence but forget it is not just physical violence it is psychological intimidation, emotional violence, monetary dependency and lot more. All these can be triggered off by girlfriends, mothers, brothers cheating etc. Try eliminating the stimulus and it usually brings back love into life. Mine was more psychological/emotional intimidation with physical violence that was sporadic until he came with the intent to kill the child and me and hamper the child's well-being into a psychological wreck. That became the reason why I walked out, for my child's future and betterment so that he didn't have to suffer and break for the rest of his being.

The world only sees the physical side, its more than just physical is has other factors and those are more damaging than ever. I know I refuse to mix with people and cannot talk relationships with people because I view them ALL the same, although I would love them endlessly by all means but I can never enter relationships because it kills me psychologically and emotionally.

Wish I had never married although, if I hadn't I wouldn't have had my child....

I had all the material wealth but no emotional/psychological happiness.... And for the love of his life, I remain married to him from a distance....

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author avatar Chip Greene
12th Sep 2014 (#)

My dear Lady,
You have outlined most of the classical symptoms of the cause and reaction by the victim of domestic violence. The psychological aspect is not often discussed because it is not evident to those on the outside of the problem. Sometimes even the victim does not realize he/she is being abused. To them it has to be pointed out by someone else.
You don't mention counseling though I submit that by writing here you have counseled yourself.
I'm happy that you survived! As did I.

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
12th Sep 2014 (#)

Am married nearly 13 years and counting and 15 years in the relationship....

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author avatar Retired
12th Sep 2014 (#)

If you're addressing me and asking if I've been a "victim" of domestic violence ... yes, I have. I have no intention of going into the details, but I did write an article here, alluding to why I left my marriage. Not all of us choose to stay. My daughters and I are alive today because of my leaving. I wish you the best.

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author avatar Chip Greene
12th Sep 2014 (#)

What is the title of your article Susan? I'd like to read it.

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author avatar Retired
12th Sep 2014 (#)

This comment was intended for Lady A, who seemed to be asking if I was ever a victim of domestic violence, prior to all the other comments coming in .. to clear up any confusion (or perhaps add to it).

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author avatar Retired
12th Sep 2014 (#)

Chip ~ It's the article about Survivors of Suicide. Thanks.

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author avatar Chip Greene
12th Sep 2014 (#)

Powerful article! You're very lucky.

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author avatar Retired
13th Sep 2014 (#)

I am indeed, Chip. Thank you.

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author avatar Utah Jay
12th Sep 2014 (#)

I liked the article Chip, but I worry over all the media attention to this young family. Being a recovering addict it is something I have watched a thousand times over it seems. Not from or to me mind you, but with my friends (my old friends) and my family. I know what alcohol can do to us humans, I watched with my two son-in-laws...They are all happy and fine now, getting the treatment they needed, the abuse, along with the juice long in the past now, but I do not think they would of made it through all of this if they would of lost their jobs, my daughters and grandchildren's only source of income. I think this is wrong for his wife and daughter's sake.

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author avatar Chip Greene
12th Sep 2014 (#)

I agree. I too have been down that booze road with a relative or two.

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