Expectations, Entitlement and Reality

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We need to bridge the gap between expectations and reality. For that we have to think global, find universal solutions and eschew parochial quick-fixes based on selfish interests of few.

Entitlement Mentality

We have expectations bordering on entitlement but it is a natural human trait. We want peace and our basic needs to be met. We need to earn a decent income with time to spare to pursue those that add meaning to our lives. We feel we have the right; are we not growing in economic indicators ever since they started counting? So our lifestyle should get better with each passing generation. However, our wants have increased and, sadly, the excesses. There is an entitlement mentality everywhere. Some are disturbing like - since others have been polluting for decades we also have every right to do so! But we have a reality factor that varies according to what we want to believe. Our climate system has been able to withstand the onslaughts of our excesses and that leads many to be complacent to the extent of closing their eyes to what we see and experience increasingly. We take it for granted that Mother Nature is kind, flexible and strong enough to put up with whatever lifestyles we hoist on her and will adapt her strategy to sustain us! But the tipping point could be nigh!

Blinded by Greed

In our individual lives too we are not different. We have expectations and entitlements without understanding the realities. Our political leaders lead us down the garden path, or they themselves are blissfully unaware of the depth of issues mostly man-made and greed based. When self- interests override national, reason and common sense go out the window. Expectation and promises do not cost us anything and one is easily led to an entitlement mentality. For few even hundreds of millions a year in earnings is not enough! When we reach one point, we look higher. The reality is there is everything to meet all our needs but the greed factor puts strain at the core of society and the balance needed for inclusive growth is lost. Even the trade imbalance, skewed in favor of few countries especially China, is taken as par for the course! It does not make news anymore. It is almost taken as beyond redemption. China can keep on exporting, working as the world’s factory to keep their huge population away from being idle. The US and Europe are signing IOU’s with gay abandon, kicking the can down the one-way street!

It is clear the gap is widening by the year between expectations and reality. The excesses of few are finally borne by the majority who struggle to eke out a living. The entitlement cries of the rich are getting more attention as the leaders everywhere are beholden to them! The poor citizen gets the last bite and taken for granted. Democracy or otherwise – when the rich get richer at the cost of the poor the system is suspect. But that is happening everywhere. The reality for the majority remains the same forever. Leaders give lip service to their needs forgetting that it was their votes that counted for them to get to power.

Inclusive, Global Solutions

How can we change the scenario? The system might not be broke but has failed to deliver. There is clear gap between the over-hyped expectations and the reality we face every day. I feel it is time we addressed this issue through our leaders working towards solutions with a bipartisan, cooperative, attitude. When the reality is assessed and action initiated, we will know where we stand.

1. Key issues that are settled at the elections should be implemented without further semantics.

2. World leaders should identify issues that directly affect the poorest and take inclusive action on a global basis. The poor cannot wait forever, generation after generations, for basic justice. There are issues that are a matter of life and death for the majority needing immediate attention.

3. There should be global agreement on war and terror. The sufferers are the poorest. If major powers agree on common action then others will fall in line. Now others are emboldened when the big powers disagree and even egg the smaller countries to step up the discord!

4. There are now more issues that require global efforts like climate change, clean energy and disarmament. There should be time bound agenda to tackle these than words of platitude that seem to drag on forever.

The main idea should be to remove road blocks on a global basis – think global. The game-playing should stop as it does not serve any purpose – only the poor everywhere suffers. They have no issues with one another as they have only one agenda – to keep body and soul together as long as possible! Who owns a piece of land or who is other’s God is not an issue for them. Of course when egged on they lose their moral compass!

Conscience Matters

We have to bridge the gap between expectations and reality, strive for peace and goodwill everywhere. Now there is too much of grey area that is man-made and used by wily politicians. When we know what the realities are we can cut our coat according to the cloth available. Let us ascertain the reality first and stop creating issues to cloud the vital ones dogging us; only then we can make some progress based on equality and fairness. Then the chasm between reality and expectation can be bridged to acceptable levels. We need to work towards achievable targets, create and chart avenues for a better future. We have many countries, leaders, but have only one planet to sustain us. When we work at cross purposes we are killing the hen that lays the golden eggs. By throttling life we are preventing others to fulfill their karma as they have every right to set foot on this beautiful place, waiting for their moments under our sun! They could prove the saviors, but we should give them the opportunity than foreclose the doors forever!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Peter for your moderation and encouragement - much appreciated - siva

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author avatar Steve Kinsman
1st Jun 2013 (#)

The myth of economic growth has been slowly, and now more rapidly, killing the planet. We can no longer continue to expect that we can go on exploiting Mother Earth for profit and convenience. That we are most assuredly not entitled to. Thank you Siva-ji for the great work you do in calling us to the better angels of our nature.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Steve for your comment. We encourage the wrong kind - those who create havoc on the environment. They leave a trail of disaster as they climb the rich list! It is time we got our priorities right based on inclusive society - siva

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
1st Jun 2013 (#)

As always Dear Siva , your words are full of wisdom ....but we need to implement them to affect any great change in the world .
Bless you
Stella ><

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Stella, the change is happening. The shift in focus is getting clearer. It is getting to no more being led the garden path. I am sure the young will step in as they have a different outlook and don't carry the negative baggage of our past - siva

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author avatar Mariah
1st Jun 2013 (#)

Siva my friend, your words of positive insight and wisdom are indeed the true path of the way forward, in what has to be done, and in how this could be implemented. Powerful in unity and determination, as one body of human beings.
An impressive analysis of what then could be achieved.
Mariah

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Mariah. I can feel the world has changed in many ways for the better. The cold war is history along with the iron curtain. I recollect many in Europe thought they would perish in a nuclear holocaust. China was a closed society. Now they are just different and in a positive way. We need to remove suspicion among countries and the only way is for the poor, the deprived, to unite without borders and then look down on greed and anything connected with such! Freedom does not have much meaning on empty stomachs! What use the nuclear stockpiles and weapons of mass destruction! siva

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
1st Jun 2013 (#)

I have to agree with everything you write here siva...thank you again and again...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Carolina for your support as always siva

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author avatar Trillionaire
1st Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you, a very interesting article.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks Trillionaire for reading and commenting - siva

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author avatar Chris Breva
1st Jun 2013 (#)

Siva I live a life where everything is given to me and I hate it. I'm on disability and trying to get off of it. It pays next to nothing. I barely survive on it,

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

I am sure Chris a brighter door will open soon for you to find meaning in life that you deserve. Life is not easy for many, including me, and I try to squeeze blood out of stone sometimes. I get encouragement from those who have nothing but feel blessed! siva

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author avatar Shirley Shuler
1st Jun 2013 (#)

There is much truth in what you say, siva. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

It is my pleasure Shirley and I feel honored that many find them worthy of their time - siva

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author avatar patzwiki
1st Jun 2013 (#)

That was an article borne of insightful thinking.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks for the encouragement, Patzwiki - siva

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author avatar Retired
1st Jun 2013 (#)

Insightful wisdom indeed. Conscience matters a ton!
Namaste, Sivaji, thanks for all your illuminating reflections...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Your comments mean a lot to me, dear Rama-ji. I look forward to your unique posts. Namaste - siva

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author avatar Writershirley
1st Jun 2013 (#)

I like this article it is very well put and meaningful information. Perhaps it will help some to wake up thanks

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Writershirley. Let us open a new page as nine out ten want to eschew the beaten path of negativity, going around in vicious circles. I do hope our leaders get their message soon - siva

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author avatar Nadia Zahar
1st Jun 2013 (#)

I've thought about entiltlement a lot and how it affects the behaviour of yound generations growing up in western cultures, it's amazing how this shift of attitude have stroke our youth.

Thanks for the thoughtful article.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Nadia. Entitlement is okay as long as we are realistic. The sad part is the rich bend the rules and compete to get richer at the cost of the poor. The needs of the poor should get attention and it does not matter where they live or what religion they profess. Now they are used as pawns by wily politicians for their selfish ends - siva

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author avatar C.D. Moore
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Enlightening post! thanks Shiva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you C D Moore for your support - siva

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author avatar M G Singh
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Nice post but somethings are inevitable.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Madan - but let us be aware of them and try our best to minimize their impact on the weakest links in our society - siva

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author avatar madugundurukmini
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

self- interests money greed, well moral

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks Rukmini for your comments - siva

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author avatar Carol
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

You have such wisdom in your posts Siva, so many negative things that need highlighting

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
2nd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Carol for reading mine despite the busy schedule of your book launch. You are an inspiration to me - siva

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author avatar Md Rezaul Karim
3rd Jun 2013 (#)

This is a tough nut to crack- the greed. Question is do the greedy people do really reckon that they are indulged in greed? Greed is just like watching the nose of oneself!
Great share Siva ji.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
3rd Jun 2013 (#)

You know Karim, there is no end when you start on the race of greed. It is like getting to the front at any cost - they forget own families as greed is equated with power. We need to break this nexus. And many are in politics only because of this factor - siva

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author avatar wonder
3rd Jun 2013 (#)

Unless you are greedy you cant catch up with the others today.
A great post to create a change siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
3rd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Wonder. Yes, greed is becoming the order of the day but it divides the society. We should be greedy for the right reasons but the word gives negative vibes - siva

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author avatar Delicia Powers
3rd Jun 2013 (#)

outstanding as always-"There are issues that are a matter of life and death for the majority needing immediate attention." thank you for always being that voice-Siva...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
3rd Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Delicia for your kind appreciation - these make my efforts worth the while - siva

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author avatar Funom Makama
3rd Jun 2013 (#)

Great share. Thanks

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
4th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Funom for your comments - siva

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author avatar pndrgn99
4th Jun 2013 (#)

Your points are valid I have had the dsame dream for years. I beliee you noted how hard it is to get time after survival, family etc. It is yet we muc=st, as you note stick together to save our collective lives. I'll be back to read more.
Alex
Alex

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
5th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Alex. Some get their lives complicated and struggle to disentangle from the knots later. Once a string is broken we can only mend it! siva

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author avatar LOVERME
5th Jun 2013 (#)

you must be
MASTER PH D

distinction my
LORD
SHIVA RAMA and KRISHNA.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
5th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Loverme. I share what I have experienced and observed in my life. If others find my posts meaningful I am rewarded - siva

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author avatar Subra
5th Jun 2013 (#)

Dear Siva
Our present generation has a sense of entitlement – mainly the fault of baby boomer parents who mollycoddled their children, constantly telling them how special they were and that anything they sought was possible, and rewarding them for every little thing, providing trophies and prizes simply for participating. These parents stunted their children's growth by proactively removing all obstacles and potentially negative experiences.

But the reality is that they must realize that their bosses are not going to be like their parents, and that part of growing up as an employee is learning from past mistakes and accepting constructive criticism.

Greed, laziness, poor work ethic, little respect for authority, self-centredness, individualistic behaviour, overinflated and unrealistic expectations, no commitment to work, no loyalty to employer, lacking in social skills etc are entitlements of the present generation, but the reality is quite different To improve one’s standing in society and become a good citizen these entitlements will not lead to good expectations.

Congrats Siva for yet another star in your horizon!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
5th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you dear Subra for your insightful take. I agree that the younger generation is soft, even called ice cream babies as they can melt under the sun! In Asia there were many children in one family and they had to survive by their wits - no mercy shown and they grew up fast. Now the children are the special ones in the family; their every whim is catered for. I feel they are led down the garden path to an unreal world created by the parents acting as the buffer, cannon fodder!

Employers are lamenting about the entitlement mentality of the younger generation. Every generation has to undergo the test of fire to survive.

Another issue that I highlight is we have to set right many wrongs in our society. The younger generation does not carry historical baggage and sees the whole world as one community. And they know that there can be only one Creator, if at all. It is time they stepped forward than stay on the sidelines expecting the sullied politicians to change. We need an overhaul from top to bottom in our attitude, outlook - siva

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
5th Jun 2013 (#)

support and caring are given to you Siva by so many of us because you are a great Crusader into what is right and loving...namaste

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you for such kind words of support, Carolina. If my two cents worth add some value to the whole I would feel rewarded. Let us have a general turn in conscience, thinking, and desist, cease, from doing harm to one another; not even think ill of others - siva

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author avatar johnbee
6th Jun 2013 (#)

Excellent.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Johnbee - your visit and comments are so encouraging - siva

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author avatar Terry Trainor
6th Jun 2013 (#)

Conscience is a great thing, pity some don't have one.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Terry. Some have selective amnesia to suit their needs, or shall I say greed! siva

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author avatar Terry Trainor
6th Jun 2013 (#)

Sorry. Great post my dear friend.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you. So happy to see you again - siva

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author avatar Subra
6th Jun 2013 (#)

Dear Siva

You mention that "we have to set right many wrongs in our society". The problem is who is going to bell the cat! The younger generation is more interested in self-gratification, leaving the politicians to have a free rein!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jun 2013 (#)

That is right, dear Subra. The complaining, whining, generation has to play their role. They are the Facebook generation - so I do not know why they are in the sidelines as they know what is wrong with society. They are also mostly color blind and have more common interests than differences. Why should they expect leaders who are octogenarians to sweep everything clean for them with their creaking bones when they feel their parents are too old at sixty plus? What are they waiting for - for things to get worse, maybe? siva

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author avatar Jacuquelyn Gardner
8th Jun 2013 (#)

Beautiful writes, thank you so much for stopping by and reading my poems.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Jacuquelyn for your comments. It is my pleasure - siva

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author avatar Jacuquelyn Gardner
8th Jun 2013 (#)

You are so welcome my friend poet.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jun 2013 (#)

I shall look forward to your further posts, Jacuquelyn - siva

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author avatar Johnny Knox
8th Jun 2013 (#)

Insightful thoughts and a well written article, Siva. Many thanks for sharing.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you for your visit and comments, Johnny - appreciated - siva

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author avatar Kingwell
12th Jun 2013 (#)

I have to agree my friend.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
13th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Kingwell for your support; appreciated - siva

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author avatar spgreaney
18th Jun 2013 (#)

This is a very thoughtful and insightful piece of work. If people and leaders work together as one, who knows what could happen. It might be a very different world.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
18th Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks Spqreaney. We are not even scratching the surface of our potential as we work at cross purposes. We elect our leaders but their self-interests trump all others! Sad that many are denied even the basics in life due to the acts of the few. As the awareness is present now, change should follow - siva

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