Faces of the hidden soul

Prienderen Moodley By Prienderen Moodley, 13th Apr 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/2m__yxld/
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Takes a look at how we portray ourselves to different kinds of people and the reasons behind these kinds of portrayal. These splits are slightly more pronounced depending on the situation and what we are tring to achieve.

Masking reality

Do we really portray our true selves to anyone? Does anyone portrat their true selves to anyone? Does anyone really know what their true selves are like?
The answer to the first two questions is definitely a no. How we show ourselves depends on who we are dealing with. If we are conversing with someone quiet or serious it wouldn't make sense to introduce too much of humour or to be talkative.

The situation would be different if we were dealing with someone more sociable with more of a sense of humour and more flexible. To deal with this kind of person we would have to socialise a bit more and be much more humourous in order to keep this person interested. Another reason for not exposing our full selves to people is for fear of being judged. Take a case of a group of friends being outgoing or social and let's say a group member is quiet and more of an indoor person. In this case the "indoor" person will pretend to be outgoing in order to prevent being outcast or judged as being boring or uncool.

Sometimes prejudices spill over into other aspects of life. In the school world, a student might choose to skip his or her homework to go out with friends in order to prevent his or herself from being regarded as a nerd. Another way in which a person might wear a mask is in a family predicament in which the person concerned is trying to avoid being judged as a family embarassment. He or she might choose to take over the family business and abandon his or her personal hopes and dreams because of a feeling of obligation to parents.

Other reasons include an avoidance if being regarded as "wild". An example of this would be a nightclub going person holding back due to the fear of being judged. Whatever the reason for all this "acting" it is clearly not worth it. The only person that suffers is the person doing the acting. Sometimes there is so much world class acting going on that the actor starts very quickly to forget that it's just acting and forgets who he or she is. Maybe the actor starts to believe that the acting is actually who he or she is. Hidden inside all of us is who we really are - fully and without any masks or pretences. A word of advice - be yourself under any circumstances, and make no apologies for it.

Here are some of my other articles that you may be interested in:-

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author avatar Prienderen Moodley
Writing is about the heart, I want to touch peoples' hearts about something important like love. If something touches the heart, it makes it thought provoking.

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author avatar constance
14th Apr 2012 (#)

thank you so much. That is true and a lot of people are pretenders and fakes. I hate when people are one way and then they friends show up and they start showing out and really showing their true selves. They are afraid what people might say about them I really have enjoyed your article and thanks for the information. stay encouraged.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
15th Apr 2012 (#)

Being oneself is the most comfortable choice; true to self. I follow this for years. Once we do not have to prove to others, we are comfortable within our own skin. Nice take, Prienderan - siva

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