Givers & Takers - Fact of Life

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Even those who think nothing of giving everything they have as the right thing to do become aware their efforts are being taken advantage by few who are out to exploit their kindness causing a pall of gloom. The giving and taking highlights our attitude to life and it may well be givers have less than takers!

May Givers Tribe Increase

Some are born to give while others keep taking without any compunction. Though giving without expecting any returns is altruistic and many just give as the right thing to do, they may well end up spoiling few who get used to their largesse. The world is certainly enriched by few who keep alive what humanity is about – sharing resources without borders. They have a view no one will take without being in need and one does not lose anything by giving despite the few who count every cent. Everyone would like to give but sometimes we feel - will there be anyone to help us in times of need? According to me that thought has no place as there are people at every level to share with us and from my personal experience many live outside the vicious cycle of greed and prejudice. They look out for any opportunity to be of help and that is when we feel the presence of our Creator within us, his spark is ever our guide.

Intolerance

Mankind is capable of extreme cruelty and also kindness; in fact, they exist within each of us too. But the vast majority makes the wise choice. However, as progress cuts both ways we may be edging towards Armageddon as destruction will prove devastating while construction will be slow and steady. Why people are out to prove their point through destruction is mainly due to emotions trumping reason. Some take the easy way out to prove their points by lashing out, there is no time to reason out their stand; they may feel the world is not willing to listen and they are sort of judged whatever they do! They don’t feel the reason to take a moral stand. Their action can even be taking a unilateral step against reason. They are in a way like exploiters of the goodness that exists due to the efforts of others. They want immediate results or else they just go against what the majority stands for. My way or the high way for them!

Attitude Decides

Within families and societies the trait of giving and taking is common – the sad irony is it can become lopsided with the givers giving in to those who should be the givers in the first place. We all know few who strut about with a take others owe them a living. Once they take this as part of their lifestyle their judgement are clouded. They make endless demands without realizing how they are a burden to others. I have felt the magnanimity in the attitude of givers that allow others benefit at their cost! But it does not really matter for both, taken as par for the course!

I feel we should create a general awareness within society that no one should be taken advantage of – it should be from each according to ability and to each as per need. This will make a stand towards society’s all round well-being. The freeloaders are everywhere; their conscience should be nudged towards reason, balance and equity. If some who are undeserving keep taking even without realizing the unjustness of their actions, then the society can unravel. The bonding within society is kept strong by few who go very much out of the way – the more the demand becomes the more they stretch for others. Human species has inbuilt cushioning factors and this could well be true for others too. But I get a feeling we are more prone to take advantage – give an inch, at least a feet is grabbed!

Fight for Justice & Fair play

Giving soothes our overall well being and leads to real fulfillment but as the resources are limited both in terms of time and possessions, let us see that our efforts reach those in need. We should reach out than get constrained and consumed by few who make endless demands due to habit and entitlement mentality. Sadly, we have practically no one with the needed moral standing to drive home plain home truths for us to lead upright lives. Our leaders are more into distracting us to have their way and our beliefs are also under strain losing their shine among the vast majority. They are used for selfish interests as I find their agendas that in no way benefit the majority. Some are out even to subjugate them by dividing and sowing discord. The vast majority with a giving mentality lose out big time here due to their trusting nature while few grab whatever they can without a thought for justice and fair play. Let not our goodness be taken advantage of forever – keep the light of awareness shining ever brighter! We all have a part to play despite the dark and intractable clouds. Our inner voice says we can overcome by not giving up the good fight.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
20th Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you Steve for the moderation and star merit, appreciated - siva

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author avatar vandana7
20th Jun 2015 (#)

Wow...great article, and I agree with it hundred percent. Actually, whatever we give, we get something in return, without our realizing it. For example, I donate to orphanages. I don't expect anything. But think about it. When the kids have employment and grow up as good citizens, they are not becoming robbers, thieves, terrorists, or other criminals who will some day kill me. Similarly, they are not becoming carriers of diseases that will find its way to me. I completely agree with the idea of giving, as long as I am not being cheated in the name of giving. :)

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
21st Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you Vandana for your comment and sharing your personal experience. Giving becomes a habit and, sadly, taking too.

Whenever I feel shortchanged by others, I think of the do-gooders who have helped me even without my realizing their kindness. I always feel touched when people, who hardly have enough for themselves, share from their heart.

In a way, there are the needy among us to show our compassion and to keep the human spirit shine bright - siva

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author avatar Nancy Czerwinski
20th Jun 2015 (#)

Siva, excellent article and great thoughts to ponder upon. I prefer to be a giver and I've always faired well by living my life this way. Congratulations on the shiny gold star. Blessings to you.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
21st Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you Nancy, it is like - once a giver, always one. Our world is such a lovely place blessed by nature in unbelievable ways; we should never forget those who go so much out of the way so that others may have a better life - siva

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
20th Jun 2015 (#)

I say amen to both above comments dear Siva.
No matter whether others are just takers ...they have to answer for their actions one day ...but it is always a good thing to give to good causes especially as the world grows more imbalanced and unjust and the needs grow more and more every day..
If we do what we can , whenever we can ..then I have so often proved that the good Lord makes sure our needs are also met , whatever they may be .
Jesus said ' It is better to give than to receive ' and that truth still holds firm today .
God richly bless you dear friend .
Stella ><

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
21st Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you dear Stella, your comments are the icing on the cake.

I do hope there is ultimate justice as I see around me some who keep taking while they should be giving in the first place!

I take care not to cross the grey area where greed takes over from our needs. Nature provides everything for free but few do not take the cue and try to deny others what is rightfully theirs! siva

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author avatar brendamarie
21st Jun 2015 (#)

amazing article, I totally agree with you

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
21st Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you Brendamarie for your continuing support, appreciated - siva

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author avatar Abdul Batin Bey
21st Jun 2015 (#)

well written piece, you outline our society perfectly and how to heal this division is a work we must all take onto ourselves.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
21st Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you Abdul for your motivation. We are our own worst enemies in the end. The rich can get richer, but should not be at the cost of the poor who are generous of heart and free from greed.

Let us keep the flag of justice and fair play fly ever higher - siva

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author avatar Shamarie
21st Jun 2015 (#)

This is an excellent post, Siva! It really made my morning. Congratulations on the star page, my friend! God bless you!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
21st Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you Shamarie for your encouragement as always, appreciated - siva

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author avatar SS Kumar
21st Jun 2015 (#)

very nice read!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
21st Jun 2015 (#)

Thanks Kumar, good to see you again after a while - siva

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author avatar Carol
21st Jun 2015 (#)

Very thought provoking Siva, I hope I give more than I take.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
22nd Jun 2015 (#)

I am sure you do so, Carol; in fact, most of us are likewise with our inner awareness to guide us - siva

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author avatar Retired
21st Jun 2015 (#)

The "Give & take" law completes a cycle- a cycle of distribution, which when broken leads to imbalance.

Well-written piece Siva. Thanks for the share.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
22nd Jun 2015 (#)

Thanks Joyesh. taking can become a habit and I include short-changing others in various permutations and combination.

It is in a way like borrowing - once we start the ball rolling, some treat it as an easy way out, become thick-skinned too! siva

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author avatar Retired
21st Jun 2015 (#)

Terrific piece! Well deserved gold star!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
22nd Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you Jessica, appreciate your support - siva

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author avatar Kingwell
22nd Jun 2015 (#)

Another good article Siva and I agree with your assessment. Blessings.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you Kingwell, Givers and takers are everywhere - siva

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author avatar snerfu
23rd Jun 2015 (#)

Well it is true we lean on others for a while...some for a long while. But I never see parents complain -- they really are too good to do something so demeaning.
When we begin pointing fingers, there are other fingers pointing at us.

I am not saying your article is tilted towards the base side of humanity, I am merely pointing out how thought provoking it is.
And maybe Siva, the other fingers are right too.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Jun 2015 (#)

Thanks Snerfu. In western societies parents do cut off the purse strings so that children become independent and grow up. Earlier days in Asia, parents did not have much choice as they had many children.

Times have changed with parents willing to support the whims and fancies of children to pursue their passion, dreams, even indulgences.

My point was givers (of every type) may be poorer than the receivers - it should be the other way sometimes! Yes, we can point fingers at the givers too! siva

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author avatar spirited
24th Jun 2015 (#)

Meanwhile the number of homeless people even in so-called affluent societies increases.

The givers have to give more and more, when the takers take more and more too.

And so the rich get richer, the poor get poorer.

It's hard to see a way out of this spiralling downwards, when like you said the Governments only ever just try to distract us with their lies.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th Jun 2015 (#)

Thanks Spirited. We should find fulfillment in giving and spread the word around. Now greed is even taken as a virtue with the result some get into this game that creates misery all around leaving behind destruction and a divided world.

No harm if some get richer but should not be at the cost of the poor who are ever giving and forgiving!

However, we need to find balance within society and the awareness of the spirit of sacrifice for overall well-being - siva

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author avatar gowritells
24th Jun 2015 (#)

"The evil you do remains with you. The good you do, comes back to you!"
Read more at http://www.motivateus.com/stories/good-and-evil.htm#VMgrVt0ymuFHfGtw.99

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th Jun 2015 (#)

Thanks Gowritells - let us step up the awareness for a better world - siva

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author avatar Helen Thomas
25th Jun 2015 (#)

This is a very interesting and thought-provoking article ~ Siva ~ about giving and receiving.

Genesis 8:22 says that “While the earth remains, Seedtime and harvest, Cold and heat,
Winter and summer, And day and night Shall not cease.” The understanding I take from that is that giving is our seedtime, and receiving should be our harvest.

It seems incomprehensible on first glance in Acts 20:35 that Jesus would say:

"It is more blessed to give than to receive."

Also interestingly enough, there is another New Testament Scripture in Luke 6:38 that I believe adds credence to the points you make here:

Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.”

Thanks ~ again ~ Siva for sharing your wisdom and insight.

Blessings!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you Helen for your valuable input to add meaning and relevance to my post.

Every religion implores us to give and even non-believers know that giving gives them more satisfaction than taking.

I have observed the very rich in Asia where few treat even giving as business to make money. Their hypocrisy is written all over their actions and when they give to gain publicity they make it an investment for higher returns. I am sorry for being brutally frank, but I have observed this trait. One wealthy man told me his business is always good as his wealth keeps rising!

I can say with conviction the poor mostly give without expecting any returns except for health and well-being.

I do wish the flow is from the rich, the able to the poor, to the disadvantaged - siva

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author avatar Retired
25th Jun 2015 (#)

Do you think the takers are outnumbering the givers?
Do you think social policies favor the takers?
Do you think the takers take advantage of the givers?
How long do you think the givers can continue to give to the takers until the giving gives out?

When I see "the poor" with smartphones, HDTV, high-tech athletic shoes, and plentiful dollars for their habits, I think of the poor who have no electricity, no modern sanitation, no shoes, and little food.

One of these groups is disadvantaged, the other is not, yet we lump them all together and call them "the poor" while governments require the people who earned their food, shoes, and electricity by their own efforts to share their earnings with the people who are anything but poor.

Do you think that's fair to the givers?

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you LeRain for your take. The poor I refer to are those who barely survive on a daily basis.

The Geni Coefficient which measures the income disparity is increasing in almost all countries and that shows the rich is getting richer at the cost of the poor.

The rich have ways to manipulate policies to their advantage and that is reflected in what is a fact - whoever is in power, the boss remains the same. In many countries, the natural resources are cornered by few whereas that should belong to the countries.

America has the clout to arm- twist big financial institutions to impose fines for any infringements like helping to avoid taxes, currency manipulation etc while others have to grin and bear it. The reason is without a base in America no financial institution can survive. The same financial institutions just refuse to disclose even basic data pertaining to others leave alone take any action against them. This has resulted in them paying billions of dollars to America - who is footing the bill?

My take was the vast majority lose out in most poor countries as they fight to keep their heads above water.

The poor that I refer to have no smartphones, HDTV, etc. It is just a fight for survival for them on a daily basis. And they also have a generous heart. In proportion to what they have they definitely give more, but I agree opinions can differ - siva

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author avatar Subra
29th Jun 2015 (#)

Dear Siva, 'The art of receiving is in the giving', so the saying goes. Giving unselfishly without any thought of expectation of receiving anything in return is a noble thing that many rich people cannot understand as you have correctly pointed out. Such behaviour is prevalent in most societies and unless such rich people begin to value compassion and humanitarian considerations they will remain greedy, inconsiderate and selfish.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you dear Subra, as usual you have hit the nail bang on its head.

This thought was heart-felt as I observe sort of reverse direction in giving and taking; the rich becoming richer at the cost of the poor.

I have personally seen the poor ready to part with what little they have for charity, while at least few of the rich look the other way.

I take care not to cross the gray area between need and greed as then it will be one inexorable ride to selfishness.

I thank the receiver for giving me the opportunity not only to open my wallet but also my heart so that I retain my humanity. When the need arises, give till it really hurts as another opportunity may not come our way; in fact, I have regretted walking away few times - siva

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author avatar Anuprita
5th Jul 2015 (#)

Nice article and very new approch towards human behavior.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
5th Jul 2015 (#)

Thank you Anuprita, I have seen both everywhere but wanted to highlight a fact - the givers cannot be takers and vice versa.

Look closer and one realizes the roles should be reversed as the rich keep taking from the poor in many ways - taking advantage of the latter - siva

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author avatar vandana7
7th Jul 2015 (#)

The other day I heard Javed Akhtar's channel. He referred to an old saying by some Hindu wise man. Give only to those who need. Otherwise they get habituated to taking. It is, therefore, in our hands not to be exploited, or to create a society that is lazy and exploits.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jul 2015 (#)

Thanks Vandana. Agreed we have to be choosy and careful.

Sometimes, people come with heart-break stories asking for sums that can even bankrupt us! Then we try to accommodate them and then the shoe is on the other foot - we become the chasers as they forget their promises conveniently.

Also, we know few who are always taken advantage of by family and friends who just take - instead the latter should be the givers! siva

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author avatar Randhir Bechoo
12th Jul 2015 (#)

Good share. Interesting Siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
12th Jul 2015 (#)

Thank you Randhir, I really appreciate your support for my efforts - siva

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author avatar peachpurple
27th Jul 2015 (#)

we should learn to give and take, a better place to live in

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
27th Jul 2015 (#)

Yes Peachpurple. I find some make it a habit to take even from those who they are supposed to give, meaning it becomes a habit for them and for the givers too!

In a way, like the rich become richer at the cost of the poor -siva

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author avatar WOGIAM
20th Aug 2015 (#)

Congratulations on being write rof today, Sava.
I wish i was more of a taker, i give all and do not know how to ask or even take when offered sometimes to my own detriment.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
20th Aug 2015 (#)

Thanks Wogiam, the majority are givers like you, but few take endlessly and make it a habit. That leaves a pall of gloom on society - siva

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