Hating the Waiting Game? Join the Club

Phyl CampbellStarred Page By Phyl Campbell, 17th Sep 2013 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/2njdptn3/
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When one door closes, a window (or another door) will open. But while you are waiting for that perfect window or door of opportunity, you may be overlooking some unexpected wonder. I wonder if I am.

Waiting -- the Perfect Recipe for Self-Destruction

No one is perfect; least of all me. If you think I am or you are, go back and read that first sentence again. But in spite of my imperfections, I consider myself a little better than well-rounded in a lot of areas.

I'm a good mom.
I'm a good teacher.
I'm a good writer.
I'm a good wife.
I'm a good friend.


For any of these, I could say that I'm "great," but I don't want to be accused of bragging. Besides, whether I'm good or even great isn't even the point.

My Point Is...

There are a lot of occupations with which I could occupy my time with the qualifications I listed above. My son is at school for a large part of the work-week; I should similarly occupy myself. Staring at a computer all day leads me to wasting time on Facebook. I want a set schedule with some built-in flexibility.

Flexibility is essential, because I am a good mom and money is an important validating factor for ME. However, whether I work or not, my spouse's paycheck keeps the bills paid and food on the table. Being grateful for him and for what he provides does not preclude my feelings of inadequacy when I am not contributing financially -- even though I know I contribute in other ways. When money was a necessity, I've been at jobs where I had to sit and wait for a phone that didn't ring while my son was babysat and neither of us felt I was a very good mom. I don't have to do that anymore.

Since I don't have to do that anymore, I want to be there when or if my son gets sick, has a field trip, or something like that. I want his teacher to recognize me. I want the lines of communication open. At the same time, I don't want to hover. The older my son gets, the harder it is to know where to draw that line.

Opportunities Abound, but Waiting causes Indecision

I applied for a job very close to my son's school. I've temped there in the past. They know me and seem to like the work I've done. From a flexibility standpoint, it would be almost perfect. They seemed eager to get someone hired, but now it's been over a month and I haven't yet gotten that call to say that I'm hired. They haven't hired anyone else, but they may decide not to hire anyone at all -- or to hire someone (maybe me) tomorrow. Is it worth waiting for?

I also applied to be a substitute teacher. This is a job I could do part time, only working certain days as I wanted. But it took a few weeks to get my background check cleared, and at the first of the (school) year, there are a lot of other people vying for the same jobs. And as I wait to see if a job will come available, I worry: what if my son gets sick, and they have to call me? Once I'm at a school on assignment, I'm expected to stay there. Right now it doesn't matter. There are no jobs posted.

Waiting also causes me to rethink the opportunity. I know the schools are cracking down: no jeans in the dress code, no cell phone use -- even during breaks (though I know this rule is often broken), heightened security, subs must show up earlier and stay later than the students, which could make getting my son to school more of a difficulty than it currently is. Other moms and dads do it. I've done it before. I know I could do it again. But every day we ensconce ourselves in this routine is a day that will make it harder to adjust to a new routine. What if it's not worth it?

Working from Home is Great for Some

When I joined Wikinut, I was hoping to start life as a blogger, get well paid for the quality articles I would write, and in that way add to my family's income. Five months later, I know that making money at sites like this IS possible, but not at the rate I was originally expecting. And since most of my writing occurs at night, I can still do that and work during the day. Working during the day, encountering different people and situations, would add to my idea list and provide content for articles.

I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket, or count my chickens before they're hatched. With five months of one writing website under my belt, I thought I'd try my hand at a few others while I waited to hear from one of the other jobs. However, the registrations, waiting periods, endless tutorials, and qualifying tasks seem endless. Perhaps that is purposefully done so that only the dedicated get in. After all, they do claim to pay more, and even pay up front, not just PPV/PPC. On the other hand, maybe they won't amount to anything. Given the amount of time it has taken one site to amount to anything, I could have gotten a job at McDonald's, been paid for my time, and had a lot more fodder on which to create Wikinut articles. And McDonald's has WiFi now.

Questions Need Answers

I hope you weren't expecting a "how-to." This isn't one. This is just my personal experience with waiting. How I don't like it, but I seem to have to do at least my fair share.

MarilynDavisatTIERS wrote a lovely informative article about fears which inspired this article. Thank you.

If you are waiting, you aren't alone. Sometimes you are waiting out of fear, like Marilyn discusses. Sometimes the waiting is practical or unavoidable. And sometimes (for me, most times) there's a combination of unavoidable waiting and fear. Am I stuck in the traffic jam of my own making? Is the train to perfection leaving me behind while I wait for mediocrity? And how will I know if I've missed it?

Credit for the photos goes to MorgueFile. Write for Wikinut -- join us (put aside your FEAR) -- and click here.

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Indecision, Moms, Returning To Work, Waiting, Working From Home, Working Mom, Working Online

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
I am "Author, Mother, Dreamer." I am also teacher, friend, Dr. Pepper addict, night-owl. Visit my website -- phylcampbell.com -- or the "Phyl Campbell Author Page" on Facebook.

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
18th Sep 2013 (#)

Thank you very much for the link. I genuinely appreciate it.

I like your "traffic jam of my own making." I had a smile on my face after reading that. I've been stuck in a few myself.

Nevertheless, we plug away, evaluating choices, deciding to stay at home or work outside of the house, and yet, through it all, we write, we create content that others can relate to but could not articulate, and ultimately, we are paid.

Patience, Phyl.....I know you say you do not have much, but as a wise man told me, "You will never get anymore patience, Marilyn, until you use up what you have, so start using it." Good article. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
18th Sep 2013 (#)

Thanks, Ms. Marilyn, for the comment and the article that inspired mine. ;)

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
18th Sep 2013 (#)

And thanks, Steve, for the quick publish and the STAR!!

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author avatar Connie McKinney
18th Sep 2013 (#)

Phyl, they say patience is a virtue. It sounds like you're dong all the right things. Keep up the good work.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
18th Sep 2013 (#)

We do what we like, but to make a living out of it is a different matter. Maybe for that we have to do what we don't like! But persistence can make a change in the end. Best of luck, Phyl - siva

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author avatar Jerry Walch
18th Sep 2013 (#)

Wikinut may be a friendly place to write but there are better paying sites to write for and Demand Media Studios is one of them. They will pay you $25 for a 400 to 500 word article and they pay twice a week. Not everyone can write for Demand Media Studios. You have to go through a formal application process but with your background, I don't see that being a problem. Besides the decent pay, there are other benefits as well. Why not check them out?

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
18th Sep 2013 (#)

Jerry, that's great advice. I think I will. Thank you.

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
18th Sep 2013 (#)

Siva & Connie -- thanks for the encouragement. Much obliged!

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author avatar Delicia Powers
20th Sep 2013 (#)

Very insightfu-l and all too true!...wait too long and one day way down the road... your 63 like me-oh know can't be... LOL...thanks Phyl - well said!

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
20th Sep 2013 (#)

Thanks, Delicia!

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