Hurt, Fear and Worry are History when Living and Focussing on the Moment

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If we embrace the basics of joys of living the moments, now, we can overcome past hurts and forget worries about the future.When the right attitude binds us together, it will lead to an inclusive society.

Acquired Hurts and Worries

We seem to be born without hurt and worry but slowly they take hold of our lives. We may have fear when we set foot on this planet staring into unknown faces trying to make sense of where and who we are. Thankfully we are welcomed with much love and delight. But we soon become aware that this life is far from a bed of roses. We are trapped in our body and goaded to start running. However, we are safer than other species as they have to take to their heels within minutes of birth to survive. We have come thus far thanks to the sacrifices of our forefathers but primordial instincts are still at play to get at each other’s throats for no reason. Selfishness and emotions rule to our dismay and put paid to the progress over the years.

Living in the Now

We have limited scope to control the external forces. Nature has given us heaven but our intentions prove less than honorable at least those of the minority who manage to dictate the terms. They carry the day whatever the political system. The majority is just a tool in their hands to be manipulated. Human lives are digits and dispensable! That way we have hardly progressed, sadly.

The ordinary person in the street carries on with accumulated hurts that refuse to fade away; injustices and even perceived ones galore. And then the endless worries that cast a pall of gloom on the horizon. The most important present, the moment that is soon past, is overlooked. Life becomes one day after another, mundane, without enjoying the joys of the living the moments. We all reach the destination but the pleasures of the ride are experienced only by few who have the right attitude.

Foundation to Survive

The best of education and wealth beyond needs cannot make us overcome with ease life’s vicissitudes. Many feel lost drifting like a leaf getting blown by the wind. But there are few who are on top of their lives and look forward to each day with enthusiasm and even passion. We can easily discern one trait that keeps them alive – living every moment. They have hardly time to rue the past disappointments or worry about the future. They truly live by the term, carpe diem – seize the day!

We have at finger tips the latest in science and technology and the younger generation is adept at using the latest gadgets as they grow with them. But how many are taught to live their lives with fulfillment as their goal, attaining balance to compensate for failures in their chosen fields? Is it not time that we focused also on what makes our lives glow by embracing nature and fellow travelers of every hue imaginable - seen, felt, or totally oblivious to us? There are those that can enrich our lives with a spirit of shared journey. Some are obvious but generally overlooked.

1. We are all same and from the same source. We may look different but the commonalities are more. We may have different beliefs but ultimately they are just that and they do not change the way we are made – flesh and blood that transcends all artificial borders.

2. Our dreams and goals are same – to lead a meaningful, worthy life benefiting family and society. This site is a classic example where no borders exist and all are welcomed with equal warmth.

3. There are mainly two groups everywhere. The majority who plays by the rule and a small minority that tries to divide others by every permutation and combination. For us to survive, the latter have to be put in place and that requires awareness from the majority to the machinations of the wily few out to take advantage – give them an inch they grab a yard!

4. All our efforts should lead to uplifting the majority deprived and meeting their basic needs. Without an inclusive society our progress rings hollow, stand on a thin foundation.

5. The seeds of disharmony should never be sown in the first place. Now even poorest of countries that cannot feed their citizens have accumulated nuclear arsenal. Even in good times their citizens are surviving on empty stomachs and the rhetoric of their leaders, and then what use these weapons? A stark case of misplaced priorities, and hubris. Their leaders beg, borrow or steal to finance the imports of weapons of mass destruction lining the pockets of those who thrive on the misery of poor souls whose only sin is they are gullible and ever trusting.

Onward, Forward towards Meaningful Future

To make an impact on society not only do we have to change our ways but also give due importance in educating future generation with the right attitude to take on the challenges of life. Hurt, fear and worry are part of human psyche but can be mitigated to a great extent with the right attitude. Great scientific minds have the ability to focus on the moment and also great achievers in sports and arts. Their passion to excel is obvious. Let us inculcate this vital element in the majority so that they also have the foundation for meaningful life. Let not wealth creation end up as the be-all and end-all; a society that gives equal importance to everyone and looks askance at greed that leaves only a trail of misery all around will survive and thrive in the end. Then the hurts, fears and worries will recede to the background. A new beginning is then on the anvil than taking the beaten path which leads us to the same old ills in society.

We have accumulated the needed ammunition for a meaningful ride into the future. Discard past hurts for which the present and future generation had no part to play. Look to the future as one inclusive society. Let us not be manipulated by a minority as has happened all through history. The present moment is the greatest moment that never repeats. We can embrace the future whatever it brings and when we are united, what is there to fear? After all life is a common journey of hope and towards a better future.


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author avatar Mariah
16th Jun 2013 (#)

My Dear Siva
I am emotionally overawed by your words, your strong spirit of togetherness shines like a beacon,as always, leading to the pathway of what is pure, simple and righteous.
I thank you from my heart for this much needed guidance to the restoration of unity.
Mariahx

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Mariah, I feel humbled by your kind words and appreciation. We have countries accumulating nuclear arsenal while their majority poor are on empty stomachs - a status symbol, recognition of having arrived at the elite club ! Their leaders line their pockets in making deals for weapons of mass destruction too. Then only the big powers listen to them and at their beck and call! This vicious circle has to be broken. The awareness of dangers in running nuclear power plants are more than in covert supply of nuclear weapons to the most vulnerable countries. And they have few who tell their gullible people that their God is waiting with 72 virgins for their eternal pleasure once they have accomplished their task of killing others of not their faith! siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Mark for your support and encouragement - appreciated - siva

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Your article makes great posts Siva, we must take into account everything and embrace our future. We cannot follow our leaders, either religious leaders, or country leaders, without thinking for ourselves too.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Mark. The majority should unite to put in place the minority divisive forces always looking for loopholes for their nefarious ends. We should analyse the rhetoric of leaders of all hues. And many thrive in putting down others than articulating what is for our common good - siva

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author avatar M G Singh
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Very true Siva. Well stated

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Madan for your kind words - siva

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author avatar Shirley Shuler
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Siva, if only the powers that be could see what you see...great post friend.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Shirley. It can be from bottoms up when the top is impervious to the basic needs and concerns of the majority. Let the wind that we sow turn out as a whirlwind for a mass movement to restore basic human dignity by choosing the right path - siva

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
16th Jun 2013 (#)

again you convey to us the responsibility we all have to each other..loving, caring and being thank you..

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Carolina for your support and encouragement. We are becoming more aware of what needs to be done, then let us take the next step - just do it! siva

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author avatar Delicia Powers
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Good morning Siva ...thank you my friend for your wisdom and beautifully inspiring pages...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Good morning Delicia, so happy to read your uplifting comments that are ever encouraging and leave a happy feeling of accomplishment. Thank you - siva

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author avatar Md Rezaul Karim
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Mariah wrote well and expressed beautifully on this article. I stand by her in this case. Long live Sivaji ........

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks Karim, I have to bow my head to you for your kind words. Lots of issues in this world and we have to live with detached attachment to find mental balance. I take day by day - do my duty but the end result is not in my hands. I accept it in all humility and move on - siva

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author avatar Terry Trainor
16th Jun 2013 (#)

I think we all trust too much at times my friend. Then realize our mistakes when it's far too late. Great write my wise friend.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Terry, my dear friend. Living in the moment, now, is the greatest solace anytime. Some can argue an idealist world is never on, but no harm in inching towards it. Trust is anytime preferable to cynicism, Majority is taken advantage of but they survive in better shape than the few who take pleasure by taking advantage of them - siva

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author avatar Connie McKinney
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Siva, very well said. Nice work.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Connie for your visit and kind words of support - siva

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author avatar Trillionaire
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you for your visit, Trillionaire - siva

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author avatar Carol
16th Jun 2013 (#)

Strong words and a very wise message here. Many thanks Siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
17th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Carol for your kind support - siva

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
16th Jun 2013 (#)

If we as individuals do our part dear Siva , to do our best for the common good , then we will reap that which we sow . People who have too much are not always content with what they have , anymore than those who have too little ..it is when we are willing to share what we have , however meagre it may be , that we find how truly rich we are and can sleep at night with a peaceful mind and heart.
May you be forever blessed .
Stella >I<

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
17th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Stella for your input. The majority is contented but the few greedy heap misery on them too. Yes, change what we can and accept those we can't will assure peace of mind and a good night's sleep - siva

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author avatar johnbee
17th Jun 2013 (#)

Good post> I always enjoy your write.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
17th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Johnbee, your kind words mean a lot to me - siva

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
17th Jun 2013 (#)

so very true your words of wisdom siva...again and again you bring them to us...thank you

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
17th Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks for your revisit and kind words of encouragement, dear Carolina - much appreciated - siva

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author avatar Chris Breva
17th Jun 2013 (#)

I agree with everybody else Siva. I believe you would make a good leader because you see things clearly and with unmuddled vision. You don't mince words and you don't take short cuts. Your posts make better sense than any leader religious, political, spiritual, or otherwise.

Chris

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
18th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Chris. I am thinking of your impending surgery and my prayers for quick recovery.

I am just an ordinary citizen of the world. I see no borders whatsoever just like Wikinut welcomes all. We sow evil and take it for granted that weapons that kill en masse can solve our issues. We have UN that is supposed to be impartial but it has less teeth than powerful countries. Leaders profess peace but divide and even egg on poorest countries to continue fighting as if they are on the payroll of arms merchants. If powerful countries joined together like UN was supposed to, then the issues of the world will be past. But they use hapless countries as vassal states. I think of countries like North Korea and Pakistan which are manipulated by others. Their poorest are fed dreams that can only remain as such. Time to forget living in the past, worrying about the future, without doing what needs to be done "now" - siva

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author avatar vellur
18th Jun 2013 (#)

Great write, you are so right - We all reach the destination but the pleasures of the ride are experienced only by few who have the right attitude.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
18th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Vellur. We all need to learn some of the basics of life when young than spending too much time in memorizing data that are available with few clicks. When we are taught to live in the "now" then that soothes our hearts leading to peace and harmony - siva

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author avatar LOVERME
18th Jun 2013 (#)

my Shiva the whole world praises u
MY LORD
Both u and terry r
STARRY
and how HAPPY I FEEL
that you both show light to me
to follow a shadow of yours

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
19th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Loverme, I am reminded of Starry, starry night song. Even with many stars I stumble while you walk blissfully under the shade and shadow! But everyone is a star in his own right - siva

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author avatar Chris Breva
18th Jun 2013 (#)

Loverme you silver-tongued Devil you.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
19th Jun 2013 (#)

Loverme adds the star glow to my posts. And does not spare Terry too! Take care Chris, my prayers - siva

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author avatar wonder
18th Jun 2013 (#)

Inspiring post and attitude.Your articles should be in text books for youngsters to make better citizens of them. It is not money and fame, but the basics about breaking borders.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
19th Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks for your encouragement, Wonder. Nowadays education means scoring grades better than others - I feel it is becoming a vicious cycle as children are put under tremendous pressure. They should be taught to live with temporary setbacks and learn from them. And to enjoy the moments as no life can be termed a failure when we strive for success. The misery few create through their greed casts a pall of gloom all over - siva

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author avatar Subra
19th Jun 2013 (#)

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” says Buddha. These words spoken many centuries ago are just as valid today as they were then.

Living fully in the present moment means that our awareness is completely centered on the here and now. We are not worrying about the future or thinking about the past. When we live in the present, we live where life is happening. The past and future are illusions, they don’t exist. As the saying goes “tomorrow never comes”.

Yet, living in the present seems to be very hard for many of us especially in this world today where so many things are changing constantly and trying to grab our attention. One of life's sharpest paradoxes is that our brightest future hinges on our ability to pay attention to the present. Living in the moment is all about living like there's no tomorrow. To do this, we must realize beauty in every moment, and in everyday activities. It’s a conscious act that requires participation, not just observation, but the reward is a richer, fuller life.

If only human beings could understand this simple logic and rational argument, it would be a happier world out there!

Dear Siva, once again, our heartiest congrats for yet another Star”. Well deserved.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
19th Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks dear Subra, you have summarized my post so well.I wish words of eternal wisdom like those of Buddha are taught in such a way to make an impression on tender minds. Past hurts are tough to forget but we can start by genuinely forgiving those who hurt us. Then we will remember the hurts for the right reasons! Let the perpetrators face their karma. Worries should also be isolated from taking precautions to weather future storms.

It is time our children are made aware that the world needs variety and not herd mentality of trying for higher academic grades. Now at a tender age some are painted as failures. I remember the words of a young mother saying she was disappointed and upset that her son's works were not displayed in the classroom like those of few of his peers. Let us start encouraging our children so that they feel valued members of society. Again, I will say the rich do not deserve so much wealth when the vast poor survive with little. It is time Asians started to embrace good qualities from those like Gates and Buffet - no need to squeeze the last drop of blood from others (read gullible, large-hearted) to keep for their progeny. Other species are surviving without hoarding beyond their daily needs! siva

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author avatar Kingwell
20th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Siva, Everyone needs to read this and understand its truth.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
21st Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Kingwell for reading and posting such touching comments - siva

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author avatar Miss Dance
24th Jun 2013 (#)

It's true, I always tend to worry about things, but it was never like that when I was a really young child! Thanks for a great post!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Miss Dance. Everyone worries about the future and past hurts replay in our minds but we should try to live the present more - make a conscious effort - siva

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author avatar Retired
27th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you for persistently sharing insight and sage wisdom, my friend. Namaste, rd

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
28th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Rama-ji - your visit and words are ever so encouraging. Namaste - siva

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author avatar M G Singh
29th Jun 2013 (#)

Just read your post today. Its beautidul

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Madan. Your words are so encouraging - siva

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author avatar Roja Meeran
13th Jul 2013 (#)

Great thoughts..to be preserved

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
14th Jul 2013 (#)

Thank you for your visit and comments, Roja - siva

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