Lessons that life has taught me

Memba Ben By Memba Ben, 8th Jan 2017 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/221ypdcm/
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A couple of lessons I learnt whilst attending the University of Hard Knocks. I urge younger people who have lived sheltered lives to take note.

It's the hard knock life, for us!

Having been schooling at the University of Hard Knocks for 24 gruelling years, Prof. Life has been a strict teacher towards me and billions of others.

This is what I’ve learned so far:

A job is a job

At some point in the future, there are not going to be enough jobs for everyone. You might have a doctorate or some other well respected qualification. However, chances are high that there will be other people who have that same qualification and no matter how great it is, companies can’t hire everyone.

If you happen to be unemployed, that qualification doesn’t give you any right to stick your nose in the air when a less than desirable job comes your way. Don’t be that person who believes that some type of job is beneath you just because of how expensive your education was. I have acquaintances that think this way and are sitting on the sidelines with their qualifications gaining dust. People of that nature don’t realize how common it is for people to end up in such positions due to things out of their control. Sometimes it’s a simple matter of luck (or lack thereof) to get people to the positions they are.

Despite how bad it may seem, it’s still a job. We all need to fill our pockets any way we can.

The world doesn’t work according to fairness

We’ve all seen in movies that people get their just desserts in the end and I know many people who like to think that things will pan out that way. We like to keep up the image of a world where bad people always get what they deserve, and that hard work always pays off, but unfortunately, it's not that easy.

My peers need to realize that we don't live in a world where rainbows and sunshine are the order of the day. Bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. We all aren't equal. We just want to be equal so everyone is happy but in the end of the day, someone will still be higher or lower than you.

Because life gives no fucks.

However, just because things don’t work out doesn’t mean you should take it lying down. Use that failure and turn it into a positive by learning and growing from it.

You aren’t as important as you think you are.

Let’s get this one out of the way; I have bad news for young people:

Please understand that most people are so wrapped up in the important things going on in their lives that they will not have the time to care about what you did.

You are not more important than anyone else. If (god forbid) you were to die tomorrow, people would be sad but life would go on. While there may be a chance that some of us will achieve noteworthy things (things on a level of the laws of thermodynamics), we are more likely to end up like the billions of forgotten dead people throughout history. I don’t mean to spoil your day, but it may get to a point where your bones won’t be around for future generations to find.

It will be as if you never existed at all.

However, don’t let that hinder you. Focus on what you can do and enjoy the time the Good Lord gives you.

Do you.

You won’t be everybody’s cup of tea

People are going to say and do things you will disagree with. Likewise, you will do and say things that won’t sit well with others. You can't appease everybody, there will always be people who either don't agree or disagree with your decisions.

Learn to handle criticism well and get a thick skin.

Learn to be less judgmental

I think I can speak for most people when I say that we are all way too judgmental. There are occasions where we look down on others and think “at least I’m better than him”. The fact that we take comfort in other peoples suffering is a problem. Another scenario could be you being way too hard on yourself. That shit will kill your soul

Sometimes, it’s best to forgive yourself.

Accept the faults in yourself and others.

It’s ok for people to not know everything (that’s why Google is around).

Nothing is forever

You could have everything in life that you dreamed of, and it could be taken from you in an instant. Anything can be taken from you at any time. Most of us never think it's going to happen until it does, and the sad truth of life is that it will, and then everything you thought about life changes.

And it will never be the same.

But I once read that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

Only you can choose to make the most of the situations you are put in.

No one knows what the hell they are doing

I’ve met older people that have seen the world and when I talk to them expecting some deep insight, they just ramble some fortune cookie rubbish. When you're young, it would seem like adults have all the answers. When you get older, you come to realize that people are mostly making things up as they go along. Most people will be good at turning life’s lemons into lemonade but for the most part:

Nobody knows what the hell is going on.

It’s a scary thing as most people are used to certainty but that doesn’t mean it should stop you from doing things.

As someone once told me; “there is no instruction manual to how life should be lived”.
Once you lower your expectations on how life should be, and begin to experience life for what it is (both the good and bad), you may find things that will pleasantly surprise you.


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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
11th Jan 2017 (#)

Good points.

I have learned not to take life too seriously but to enjoy and add meaning to the journey along the way.

Do what is right by listening to our inner voice and never try to please others at our expense but let our lives be a role model for others. We should choose our own path.

The best rewards are not from material possessions - siva

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author avatar Memba Ben
11th Jan 2017 (#)

Hi Siva.

I've seen what taking life too seriously does to people and it's not good. I have a friend/mentor who is 64 and is successful, but has no family or children because he spent his entire life making a success out of it. The guy laments that everyday.

Choosing our own paths is also important but I think its equally important to be pragmatic/ have realistic aims about it.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
11th Jan 2017 (#)

The path we take comes with a price and we reap what we sow.

Our time here is not for accumulating material possessions and hoarding. Some spend all their lives with single minded devotion, and at the expense of everything else, towards monetary gains and finally they see vultures circling above much before their time, and mostly they are those who were his sycophants while those with good intentions were shooed away earlier - siva

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author avatar LOVERME
31st Mar 2017 (#)

just use your own brains if you have one otherwise others will implant their silly brains on yours and you will simply twiddle your thumbsIf you succeed they will say see what I did for you and if you fail they will say idiot why did you not use your brains at that time. I had a very high
did not take a small job
as I held higher ones Then for three decades I am sitting daily at my window composing poetry,,,..
Who will read me and who will not is a random thought ,but I am now without a cuppa tea caught ,some friends have pity and say come over and when I ask when they say some day but just give a tinkle And to date no one has responded I twinkle So friends take care poetry is a good passtime but be aware no one helps anyone no hubby no wifey just use your brains ONLY if you have ONEAmen

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