Manhood Defined

Harris Mungai By Harris Mungai, 18th Feb 2015 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/3sz_991j/
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Men so often define themselves by what they do,who they know,or what they own.And when they do so,they unwittingly set themselves up for great confusion and failure in their personal lives.

What Defines A Man?

Every boy grows up with questions in his heart. Am I man enough? What does it mean to be a man? Do i have what it takes? Every teenage boy seeks to prove that he is now grown up into a man. As young men,we venture into some seemingly manly attempts. We take our first beer,experiment with sex,pump our biceps, do some fist fights,defy our mum or teachers,or do some odd actions that makes our peers nod in approval. We long for some sort of initiation.
Every culture seeks in some way to define what masculinity is. But few cultures initiate men into a clearly defined picture of masculinity. What defines the man that every woman wants for a husband, every child for a dad,every employer for a worker,every country for a citizen.

A Real Man

Let us refer to the manual,the Book of life,to help in this exercise. Come with me as we craft a five-point definition of masculinity that cuts across culture and time. In the first few chapters of Genesis,we see the Creator's design for man. You don't have to be a Christian to agree with the following discussion. This is not a religious discussion:it's an attempt to discover masculinity from the source. Adam,according to the Bible, was the first man. We can learn from his responsibilities, successes and failures in our attempt to re-define manhood.
In my reading of the text,and years of studying and working with men from different cultures. I have come to this considered definition of manhood:

A real man is a male who.....

Takes Initiative

The dictionary defines initiative as;readiness to engage in daring or difficult activity. Synonyms include action,aggressiveness, ambition,go,drive, hustle. Antonyms include inertia,passivity,faintheartedness,timidity, hesitation, reluctance,indolence,laziness, lethargy. To initiate is to be responsible for the creation or early operation or use of. It is to begin,constitute,establish, innovate,introduce, launch,pioneer,plant meet up and start.
A man has got to take initiative. In war,when you lose the initiative you are at a great disadvantage because you basically react to what comes to you. The number one complaint in the mouth of many women is that their men wouldn't take initiative. That they are passive-tentative,indecisive,soft,without resolve,laid back and ,more on the receiving end.

Man Came First

God placed Adam in his territory in the garden of Eden. He was asked to take care of the place. Later,God saw that he was lonely. So He knocked him off,pulled out a piece of his flesh and made a wonderful creature,a mystery that a woman is! Man was to take care of his woman. A little later,the enemy to their progress showed up in the form of a 'talking' serpent. The cunning creature struck a conversation with Adam's woman. In not too many words,the serpent convinced Eve to break a given rule and eat the forbidden fruit. She liked it, so she shared the fruit with her man. Adam happily received it,Genesis 2 and 3 has the story.
Wait a minute,who had received the instruction not to eat from that tree? Adam. Before the woman was. Who was to ensure that God's word was followed! Adam. Who should have defended Eve from the intruder? Adam. So why does he say nothing and do nothing when the status quo is threatened? Why does he go passive when the peace they knew and had come to love hangs in the balance?

Passivity In Many Men

Adam stood by and did nothing to help the situation. He refused to lead. He should have confronted the snake and cautioned his wife against desobeying God. But he went soft. What man would let a deadly serpent trick his woman? A man should defend his womam and the family's stability, right? This man lost initiative,and passivity has dented masculinity since.
Passivity had a grip on me. I struggled with indecisiveness,lack of energy to confront,inability to consistently lead my young wife,and my hesitancy to take up my place and admit responsibility. Sounds familiar? For a man to take initiative, he must overcome passivity. Man was created to take action-to do something about the situation. To speak up when he should. To initiate!

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author avatar Harris Mungai
I developed an interest in writing when I was in elementary school and since then this passion keeps on burning in me.Thank you Wikinut for this chance to express myself here.

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author avatar Retired
18th Feb 2015 (#)

Awesome post! This deserves a star page to me.

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author avatar Harris Mungai
18th Feb 2015 (#)

Thanks again Carmen.

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author avatar SaigonDeManila
18th Feb 2015 (#)

Nice essay my friend! Keep crackin' keep writing!

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author avatar Shamarie
18th Feb 2015 (#)

This is a very good post, Harris! I enjoyed reading this a lot. Thanks for sharing! Awesome work!!!

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author avatar Carol Roach
18th Feb 2015 (#)

yes but not to dominate women, that is not the role of man. God created us as equals, He did not take from Adams feet to make a woman so that she would be beneath him. He did not take from Adams head so she would be above him, he took from his rib so that she would be equal. The rib protects the heart

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author avatar Harris Mungai
19th Feb 2015 (#)

Thank you very much Shamarie for those kind words.

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author avatar Harris Mungai
19th Feb 2015 (#)

Well said Carol. It is true.

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author avatar Harris Mungai
19th Feb 2015 (#)

Thanks again Saidon.

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