Many a Slip between the Cup and Lip of Thoughts, Words and Actions

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Most societies allow free play of thoughts, words and actions. But are they leading us to a dead end, more like the tale of Emperor’s New Clothes with none willing to bell the cat? Democracy and freedom should not become a Tower of Babel with endless chatter devoid of actions to meet our goals, if we have any! Others with passion are setting the pace.

Is Operation Successful?

We are human and hence fallible. Our thoughts are taken as noble and we try to match them with words but actions fail us umpteen times. Individually, some do keep a high standard of integrity, but collectively it often descends into free for all; we cannot even agree to disagree! The grey areas appear too wide to bridge the gap. When our thoughts benefit others, society, then half the battle is won. However, we fail often in translating thoughts into words and then action. Great leaders of the past managed to bridge the gap; in fact, the gap was hardly visible; so deep was the trust they generated with their standing and charisma. Are such halcyon days over, bitten the dust, in a more and more cynical world where underhand dealings make us dysfunctional? Sadly, this state of affairs has been our bane in countries with irrational exuberance for democracy and freedom. This leads to general impasse where there is no agreement on any topic; it is a gridlock, logjam, may be true democracy in action! But are there not limits but who can release, relieve us? Are we happy with a situation where the operation is termed successful but patient on the verge of death, in a state of comatose?

Thoughts & Words

We know that we belong to society and without it our life is meaningless. So we have inclusiveness inbuilt in our thought process; after all, are we not part and parcel of families? With social networking taking over us in every way our reach is sans boundaries and instantaneous, but there is still the stubborn trust deficit hampering our unity. Deception has taken its toll and still makes us look at others with trepidation. Even our leaders tell us day-in-day out not to trust others! It is one step forward and at least one back, if not more! It is endless bombarding of information, in fact, more of misinformation, which drives us to a point of sheer exhaustion. These make the ordinary citizens cynical of the whole political set up. Within families too gadgets come handy to mind own business with a take leave me alone! Words can easily be misunderstood so it becomes - less is more or rather better! We have lost our way, or rather is it more of acceptance that each is entitled to own view, so no point in much discussion? Can we have a better overall situation so that we have agreement on the basics like enjoying a shared journey based on some basics? This view is based on too much of strife all around us at every level, from individual to international.

Actions

The old adage - actions speak louder than words - is always relevant. It is “I don’t believe what you say, I believe what you do”. Sadly, actions stray much from words, it could well be, we shoot our mouths off without due consideration of reality. Talk is cheap - comes to my mind when I hear people at all levels indulge in verbal diarrhea! As for myself, I try to deliver more than I promise and that gives me fulfillment apart from adding to my integrity. I wish people think before they talk but then again those who promise can well run away with the spoils. I know those who are willing to step forward are held back with the words – it is not an ideal world; no one can change us etc., etc.

Overcoming Impasse

So we are into an impasse – with thoughts, words and actions in disarray! How can we break free from it? It is no more one leader who can, but according to me the collective wisdom and yearnings of the vast majority that always know what is the right way should lead the change – stick to basics and what it is none needs tell us! Some are adamant they are always right even if they are proved wrong and their stand is against any compromise that leads to disruption within families, societies and countries. Look at political systems and how they deliver; democracy and freedom are set in stone, but do they deliver in terms of a better life for the common man? Yes, they are given many a toy and freedom along with capitalism, but do they really benefit? I know of countries which have been enjoying unlimited freedom in the sense anything goes but a minority flout laws with impunity; they are just above law! Where to draw the line so that thoughts are translated into effective words and actions without the elements of injustice and hypocrisy?

Proof of the Pudding

The age old adage – proof of the pudding in the eating - is always relevant. It is time for every democratic country to reassess their position in terms of effective and fair government; at least to fix the issues that throw up. Whatever be the negative side to China, their success in crucial areas are far too striking. Many thumb their noses at them – at what price? But they have the transformation to show for the sacrifices. Their massive reserves of $4 trillion is amazing as well as threatening unless others do not think of honoring their commitments for one reason or another! They take a view none can compete with them because countries are ineffective in the way they practice democracy to the extent of descending to anarchy! It is time for all to take stock than keep marching to a destination that we do not want to reach. We have good thoughts but they fall flat when we cannot match them with words and actions. Let us try to find where we are headed for!

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author avatar Retired
22nd May 2015 (#)

Very worthy of the 'star' rating, Siva.

But having raised the questions, I feel that you haven't really answered them. Using China as a shining example is like saying that a prison is better than the great outdoors, because in it you are safer.

There is only one solution and that is that everyone must care about everyone else as they would themselves (the Golden Rule). Until then, we're just not going to succeed in really living the best we can be.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd May 2015 (#)

Thank you Peter for the moderation and encouragement through awarding star merit, appreciated - siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd May 2015 (#)

Thanks Christopher for your take and encouragement. I brought in China to drive home the point that democracy and freedom is failing the common citizens, at least the vast majority. They prove a mirage to the disadvantaged as money power rules in a vulture culture! It is more of "who you know than what you know" in the justice system. Many cannot even think of going to court to get justice as cost and time prove beyond them.

I lived in a place where communists came to power and there was complete gridlock. Many were forced to leave for hostile shores to keep body and soul together. Everything, any activity, was termed exploitation. So I know what can work.

China is still one party rule, but they have changed much for the better quite unlike during Mao's time. Common people enjoy freedom - of course, they have to obey laws like others in democracies - only very few are above law like in democracies too! There are privileged in the society, called princelings, but they do exist in democracies too! Chinese see only chaos in democracies and general decline that is perceptible to everyone.

I highlighted their $4 trillion reserves as it should be more than enough to buy the family jewels of others - how long can they resist them anyway? I read about Chinese bosses taking many thousands of employees for overseas holidays at one go - that is a trend catching up. France is not complaining! In fact, they want to turn into a flood - English may be no-go, but Mandarin worth the time!

My wish is for a meaningful democracy and freedom that is real for all. Not just going through a facade of voting and then finding the leaders we elect are equally bad as the previous or even worse!

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" is a good basic to start with, but that golden rule remains just a rule in the books! siva

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author avatar Retired
22nd May 2015 (#)

Excellent share.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd May 2015 (#)

Thanks CM for your unwavering support - siva

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author avatar spirited
22nd May 2015 (#)

lack of trust in others, insecurity, lack of respect for others, lack of caring or in other words not loving others, and selfishly putting self first,
unfortunately this is where democracy seems to have pushed people too.

Greed, in one way or another this must be overcome on a global basis before we can move forwards past this massive impasse again.

You have raised a lot of questions here siva, the answers are not so easy to spot, most people, such as the politicians, just want more of the same, and that has been proven over and over, not to work at all.

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author avatar Kingwell
23rd May 2015 (#)

I agree with Christopher here, the only answer is the golden rule. Maybe someday mankind will understand that. Blessings.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd May 2015 (#)

Thank you Kingwell. We revert to basics often and I recall Einstein's words - "Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results". We need to read the writing on the wall and take action too - siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd May 2015 (#)

Thanks Spirited, I was thinking aloud that the lot of most remains unchanged - living from hand to mouth. Our political system and leaders should have the feel of the pulse of the common citizens than go through the same rituals - blaming others for not implementing the agenda based on which they were elected.

In many countries, democracy or not, few remain above law, able to get away without paying taxes, while the vast majority play by the rules. There should be a general awakening to such injustices.

I am always bemused to read America fines big banks and they pay pronto, without question, but the poor countries have no such recourse! Is it not hypocrisy, plain and simple?

The political landscape is descending into a theater of the absurd at the cost of the vast majority. In fact, it is only a few pieces puzzle, but the will is lacking - siva

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author avatar Carol Roach
23rd May 2015 (#)

it is an extremely complex situation and no one person has the answer.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd May 2015 (#)

Thanks Carol - I was was keen to throw down the gauntlet again to elicit response - siva

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
23rd May 2015 (#)

I have to agree with Carol here dear Siva..
If we all did what we know to be right , and not just talk the talk ...we would all be in heaven .
Alas we are caught at present in this sinful world , but I am grateful that God's Holy Spirit is in this world with us, helping us to do what the best we can , and teaching us that our Yes should be yes , and our No should be no.
Thankfully the majority are not set to kill and harm their fellow man with words and deeds , but sadly we all get caught at times in the crossfire of events that , were it not for God's grace , we might not endure the trials .
God bless you with His peace my friend .
Stella ><

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd May 2015 (#)

Thank you dear Stella, you are out of blocks real fast this time!

We have to press on till we achieve our dreams. The majority cannot be played out till the end of time. The fall of Berlin Wall, the end of apartheid regime, Cold War, entry of the fire spitting dragon, China, into the world arena, all looked just dreams in the none too distant past. I remember many in Europe thought they were doomed to perish in nuclear holocaust during the height of the Cold War, but now we are out of the woods (touch wood!).

The best is yet to be - provided we want to march ahead as one leaving a recalcitrant minority behind licking their wounds! I am sure it will end up like an Indian film - lots of romance and the handsome hero bashing up the bad guys with his love of his life in his arms to live ever after! siva

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author avatar IkeNwosu
23rd May 2015 (#)

This really thought provoking. Great work Siva.

Words do not speak where there is action. It is left for us to make our thoughts our words and our words our action. What is the use of 'thinking' if we cannot 'do'?

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author avatar Retired
23rd May 2015 (#)

Just to rejoin the discussion, as many have contributed here, I should like to point of what may be obvious to some but not to all: as the saying goes, 'the darkest hour is just before the dawn.' Relatively speaking, this is the darkest hour. But something new and greater will dawn soon. So, in the meantime, keep your head about you, and don't panic!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd May 2015 (#)

Thank you again Christopher for spreading the cheer, shining the light, to see us through the tough times. Everyone needs reassurance from time to time.

I can feel the undercurrents of change, feel the positive tremor under my feet. Let us also do our might to make the vital difference and not keep quiet to embolden the few to stack more to prove the adage
"the straw that breaks the camel's back". I recall these words too "God helps those who help themselves" - siva

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author avatar Ptrikha
25th May 2015 (#)

But we cannot keep our fingers crossed and think that the "Dawn" will come automatically, like the reboot of a computer system! We all have to act, and act fast!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th May 2015 (#)

Yes Ptrikha, it can happen but we have to do our part like when countries got their freedom; how the Berlin Wall collapsed, how Mandela inspired the end of apartheid system. Can you imagine how things would have been if they had continued including Maoism and Cold War?

We have to fine tune the political system. The urge should come from within - thoughts into words into action - siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd May 2015 (#)

Thank you for your words of support IkeNwosu. We are born to fight injustice, overcome all odds, than give up half way. We have no enemies other than our own and I feel it is our bounden duty to get out of the rut by our own efforts. Our forefathers sacrificed much to bring us thus far and taught us with their lives, so let us accept the baton and charge ahead towards the right path.

Our thoughts are from the right source, we should convert them into words and action for the final push. That is the right way to show our gratitude to our Creator - siva

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author avatar vandana7
23rd May 2015 (#)

Profound thoughts. I also read the comment above, and I might like to add that "we are born to fight injustice" is not always true. I often feel sorry for my maid. She too deserves better life. But would I give her? Nope. I care for me more, and so she gets slightly more than others give her, but not enough..we are born to be selfish. That would be more appropriate. :)

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th May 2015 (#)

Thank you Vandana, and I appreciate your frank opinion. I agree we are different and react differently too from time to time. That is human nature.

We know what is right and our thought process starts with that. Then we might take a view the world is not just, so we try to justify our words and actions.

I share an incident that happened last week. We have part time help and we pay market rate and even more as our appreciation and regard for her efforts. One of our friends fell into tough financial situation due to medical issues of her family. It so happens the same helper works for them too. We extended some financial help to the family and then saw how our Creator had helped them too. The helper not only works for them for free now, but also extended her own money for them to tide over their financial situation! God appears in times of need through our own elevating our thoughts, words and deeds. The helper said to our friend "I take you as my mother", and I may add religion did not stand in the way!

The days of exploitation are getting over everywhere due to general awareness. As long as we treat others well, and we know what it is, I feel we will have a guilt free ride - siva

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author avatar vandana7
24th May 2015 (#)

That is very touching. I too have plans for her, but all in due course. I won't reveal because then she might become complacent. May be god does that with us as well. lol

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th May 2015 (#)

We do not know who is having the heart to help, but God will find someone in times of our need. God has appeared in different forms in my life, and above religious differentiation too.

I was speaking to my friend whose boss is an imposing figure in physical stature but my friend lamented - but his heart is not in proportion to his figure!

Generosity of heart is what matters in the end. May you be blessed by your thoughts and deeds, Vandana - siva

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author avatar Randhir Bechoo
23rd May 2015 (#)

Interesting article.Thanks for the share.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th May 2015 (#)

Thank you Randhir for your support - siva

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author avatar Sherri Granato
23rd May 2015 (#)

Action is one of the most relevant things, especially when it supersedes that verbal diarrhea you speak of. Amazing work!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th May 2015 (#)

Thank you Sherri, when we ponder for few minutes a day, it makes all the difference not only in us but also to all we are part of.

We need to start with each one of us, but I may add most do so - only few rotten apples spoil the lot! siva

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author avatar Ptrikha
25th May 2015 (#)

Outstanding article. It makes me think deeply about things where I plan to do many things, but action does not truly reflects the thoughts. Democracy is good so far as the "To-be-doomed" and irrelevant ideas are not pushed ahead in the name of the views of the majority. For e.g- Among the people, I have been interacting almost 90%+ wear seat belts when in the front seat of cars because it is a law, and not because it provides safety! Similar views by majority and the need for consensus (as in the land Bill and some other bills in India recently) hamper activity, and instead provide tool for a few cunning and selfish folks to create anarchy.

Yes, we need to first introspect ourselves, then at a family and then community level- both nationally and internationally and we also should desist from falling prey to the cunning few who do not want to leave power at any cost.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th May 2015 (#)

Thank you Ptrikha, I appreciate your input. I get a feeling democracy does not necessarily benefit the common citizens except it gives them a vote, but the choice before them is limited - those who can only talk, but cannot deliver on their promises.Then they treat the voters as vote banks, playing one group against another. What they wanted while in power they oppose while out of it and then it is the turn of those in power when voted out!

The mention of China touches a raw nerve, but have they not made tremendous progress? As Nike says - Just do it - is their way! Others may feel they will trip at the pace they are going, but that looks wishful thinking - at most there will be chaos like in democracies!

We should stop few being more than equal, above law, and I hope technology and the younger generation can find the way out - forget those who are set in their ways - siva

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author avatar Ptrikha
26th May 2015 (#)

Very much true Siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th May 2015 (#)

Thanks again Ptrikha, let us press on, lend our shoulders to the wheel of positive change, towards genuine awareness of our potential - siva

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author avatar vellur
26th May 2015 (#)

You have said it so well, it is just like the Emperor's clothes just a mere created illusion that is not actually there, We should not deceive ourselves and open our eyes and realize what is actually going on instead of living in a world of make believe, great write.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th May 2015 (#)

Thank you Vellur, democracy and freedom make no sense when the lot of the poor does not improve. I have been hearing people in India lamenting that few years of military rule will do us a lot of good if it leads to purging of few who are so entrenched in the power circle. It is like "heads I win, tails you lose" for them after every election - siva

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author avatar Retired
26th May 2015 (#)

Mind blowing work, Siva! I'm speechless.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
27th May 2015 (#)

Thanks Joyesh for your generous appreciation, feel motivated - siva

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author avatar brendamarie
28th May 2015 (#)

Great article article, i love reading your writing. It always blows me away and makes be think more deeply about the world.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th May 2015 (#)

Thank you for your kind words Brendamarie. That my writings strike a chord with many means we are from the same source with similar feelings, hopes and dreams - siva

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author avatar Subra
29th May 2015 (#)

Dear Siva, when there is no harmony between thoughts, words and actions in men, there is no character. To achieve perfection and therefore character these three attributes must act in unison. But then humans, being what they are, are not infallible and therefore words, thoughts and actions are often in disarray. God has created men as imperfect and therefore while ideally these three values must unite, God has made sure they don't among men!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th May 2015 (#)

Thank you dear Subra for your take. It is indeed a blessing to be with few who show by example how our Creator wanted us to live by reaching harmony between thoughts, words and actions. In fact, that is one of the main ingredients for bliss.

Yes, I agree our Creator as thrown the gauntlet at us - "it is your call to live in the world you want. I have a hands-off approach towards all species; but don't forget, I have a delete button when I have had enough"!

You have highlighted "men" only - I don't know whether you include our better half too within this term too! This doubt is due to my reading a quote attributed to Robin Williams: "God gave men both a penis and a brain, but unfortunately not enough blood supply to run both at the same time"! siva

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author avatar Subra
8th Jun 2015 (#)

Thanks dear Siva. Yes the generic term 'men' is equally applicable to women who like their male counterparts are in the same boat!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
8th Jun 2015 (#)

Thanks dear Subra, I know you are a very fair minded person and not out for brownie points from our fairer (certainly not weaker) sex!

Now that comments are truly done, I can take some liberty! Lucky you highlighted "men" only - had it been "women" only, you had it boy! siva

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author avatar Helen Thomas
12th Jun 2015 (#)

WOW ~ Siva ~ Thanks for another thought-provoking and inspiring article. This statement from your article is humorous but so fitting: Talk is cheap - comes to my mind when I hear people at all levels indulge in verbal diarrhea!

Not sure I've ever heard or seen written the two words ~ verbal diarrhea together I certainly agree with the point you are making in that regard.

Thank you for sharing! Blessings to you.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
12th Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you Helen for your encouragement. I think aloud what democracy and freedom mean to the vast majority - Whoever is elected to power, the boss remains the same! And we find the rich getting richer everywhere at the cost of the power.

When leaders speak, I get a feeling they are just acting. For them their party and special interest groups are more important than their countries represented by the vast majority.

I am touched that my words have struck a chord with you - siva

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