My Super-ego Mind

Shirra By Shirra, 24th Mar 2013 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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In this changing society, liberty becomes a trend. Everybody does what they think and thinks what they want. Liberty is in the hands of every people including the young ones. But, is it the good thing? Or is it too much? Most westerners think that freedom is our privelege so we must enjoy it, while most easterners think that freedom is our choice. It is in your hands how you handle it.


When I was studying in university, I had learned about Sigmund Freud’s structural model of the psyche. I learned that our minds have the structures id, ego and super-ego. According to Freud “The id is the set of uncoordinated instinctual trends; the super-ego plays the critical and moralizing role; and the ego is the organized, realistic part that mediates between the desires of the id and the super-ego.” For most of my life, I have been governed by the structure “super-ego”. And it had a big impact in my life in the present.

My Experiences

Since I was young, I have been acting like a mature person. They said, it is because of the natural structure of a girl’s brain—easy to mature. And because of that acting out, I had also carried with me the morals I have learned in life. I carried with me the conscience. I couldn't quite imagine what I was doing but every time I did some tiny mistakes, my conscience never changed—they were all heavy. And because my morals were too high, I couldn't afford doing some mistakes. I would pray every night—crying over every prayers I didn't do quite right. I would always think before I talk because I didn't want to say anything bad to people. I would never hit an insect because it would hurt them so at times, it’s better to run away. Every little thing I would do when I was young were all governed by my morals and conscience.

The Influences

Now that I am an adult, I sometimes reminisce about my childhood. And in that times, I realized I have never totally enjoyed it. I was already mentally matured and didn’t have the enthusiasm to play games children did though I played some of these games. I can say, my childhood behaviors were highly influenced by my parents, family and environment.

My Parents
My parents have always been strict to us. They would spank us and scold us whenever we did something wrong—yet I think it was right. But they gave long sermons all the time and these sermons were all about—the future. They kept on reminding us to do good all the time and to think good all the time. Every time I made a decision, they would react then talk about their past experiences and compared it with mine. The result, they were always followed.
This behavior of parents is not a surprising story in most countires in the east. When I was young, I rarely heard about this but now, I am acquainted with these behaviors.

My Family
In our country, family is as important as our life. It is a bond that can never be broken. And until now, it has never changed, even though technologies and media have influenced our way of living. My family has influenced my behavior and my mind. My moral views about life kept me reminding about my family every now and then.

The Environment
I had lived in a compound where all my neighbors were my relatives. Since they kept on watching over me, I had always been conscious with my actions. I was always watchful with my actions—if I did something bad or immoral. At a very young age, I have opened my mind to criticisms and opinions of others. And it resulted to my super egoistic mind today.


In the present, a lot of things may have changed but an adult tree will never be reshaped again. I have been influenced with many things that brought up a super egoistic mind in me. I can never changed my present behaviors and personalities now but I can always improve my self from now on. I can say that my superegoistic mind had a lot of negative impact on me but it also has some positive effects. I am quite different, I can say.
Here are some things that I have learned from my past experiences—to keep the balance of structures:
1. A child should act as one. – if you have a child, let your child enjoy his/her childhood. Though we all have a child heart, it’s always different to have enjoyed your childhood. Let them play. Let them follow the stages of development.

2. Strictness should be balance—If parents are too strict, their children would possibly become a rebel or they would be guilty all the time. When we are strict to our children, they would tend to let go because they are already suffocated.

3. Stop being conscious with the people around you—You have the liberty to do what you want but don’t abuse it. Learn from that freedom and enjoy it but don’t overuse it.


Liberty, Life Experience, Life Lessons, Mind

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I love writing. It's my passion. I love to write poems and stories. It's my way of connecting to nature and people around me.

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author avatar angel
25th Mar 2013 (#)

great, shi! nice to see you here again!

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author avatar Shirra
25th Mar 2013 (#)

Hello Gel! I'm glad I'm back too.:D Thanks

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