Personal Responsibility For The Sick

Karman's Kreations By Karman's Kreations, 3rd May 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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If you have lived your life in a way that you have contracted a disease you have a personal responsibility to inform those you live with and supposedly love that they are potentially in danger.

What is Personal Responsibility?

I would like to start by defining each word individually. Using Google define:
Responsibility :

The state or fact of having a duty to deal with something.
The state or fact of being accountable or to blame for something.


Of, affecting, or belonging to a particular person rather than to anyone else.

It is important to understand that our decisions in life affect others in ways that we may possibly never see.

Why does this matter?

This matters to me because of an occurrence that happened in my life and could have and might still affect the remainder of my life.
We, my husband and I, offered shelter to an old friend who was facing dire straits with being homeless.
She and her boyfriend we living with her mother in a home where drug usage are an everyday event and she as a recovering addict. As a friend and substance abuse counselor who has seen set backs and relapses on a regular basis could not in good conscience leave her to struggle with that battle each day.
Also, I sure mention that finding new lodgings was near impossible due to lack of employment and income as well as no transportation to gain employment.
So I did what I considered the friendly thing to do and offered them our upstairs. We are not able to utilize it because of health reasons and it is just setting there, empty.
We brought them into our home and included them in our lives.

How to return our kindness?

This was simple, we needed help around the farm.
Because of my husbands health I was working the farm, working a job, keeping the house, and losing my mind.
This seemed like a perfect solution to both problems
We requested/required the following things:
1. Organize and Maintain the home.
2. Work outside on the farm; doing whatever my husband needed done.
3. Gain employment
4. Assist with cooking
5. Do not use drugs in any form (except for medication prescribed by doctor)
6. Let us know if you were not going to be home so that extra food was not cooked at dinner and would not go to waste.
7. Be honest about all health issues.
We did not feel this was too much to ask....or was it??

Angered Departure

They agreed and moved into our home. They planted a garden that was to become a source of income for all concerned. We provide the ground and seeds, they provide the work in the garden.
When they decided that too much was expected they went to town one day and have never returned.
So many things in life make us go hmmmmmmmmmmm


Illness, Personal Responsibility, Responsibility

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I am a widow, writer, artist, photographer, inspirationalist, sarcastically sweet beauty who hopes to find something she is successful at.

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author avatar shallimarRose
27th May 2012 (#)

hmmm indeed Karman... The fact that she was already a friend makes me sad.. Why do friends take advantage?? That being said did they leave their belongings at your home? Are you relitivly sure no harm came to them? Im a worrier by nature... interesting post and situation.. xo

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author avatar Karman's Kreations
29th May 2012 (#)

No, we have spoken since. Her boyfriend came to our home and got the belongings....she just will not face me. She has since made many statements that were meant to be cruel. ~ Those statements backfired because of a lifetime of reputation I have built.

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author avatar Pradeep Kumar B
28th May 2012 (#)

Gratitude is not something one can expect from all others. This must be a lesson for you. I feel sorry about this incident.

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author avatar Shaunak
31st May 2012 (#)

It actually very sad to see a friend behave like that. But that's life i guess

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