Racism Towards Interracial Couples

Claudia J. RodriguezStarred Page By Claudia J. Rodriguez, 28th Jan 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Interracial couples face racism from society. You never know where hateful acts may come from.

A little About Us

Over the thirty-nine years of our marriage my husband, and I have been subjected to a lot of stupid, racist behavior. Jose is Mexican, short with light brown hair and hazel eyes, he was and remains handsome. His grandfather was very Spanish, blond hair and light eyes while his grandmother was Indian. She fit the stereotype of a Mexican. I am African-American, medium complexion and in those days, 1970-72, I had a trim, athletic figure. I wore my hair in a large Afro. I was very cute, Jose tells me I still am.

Eating Out Can Be Hazardous

There have been many unpleasant incidents. A few were particularly ugly and remain with me still.

Early on In our relationship we went out on a date to a nice club. Afterwards we went for a bite to eat at a soul food restaurant. It was late on a Saturday night. The restaurant was packed with diners enjoying a meal after being out in the clubs.

When Jose and I came in everyone in the dining room stopped eating and stared at us. They continued to stare as we walked to our table and sat down. The tables were very close together and nearly all the tables were occupied.

We Are Still Standing

My husband is strong and hard working. He is also very handsome. He is a devoted husband and father. He has not forgotten or forsaken the teachings of his parents and remains a faithful Christian and devoted son, brother, uncle and cousin. I cannot imagine my life without him. We will celebrate our 42nd anniversary this year.

Unexpected Reaction


As we looked over the menu people started making comments. "I know he's gonna have him some dark meat tonight." This remark got a good laugh causing other commenters to pitch in with their attempts at humor. "She likes them pretty boys, a real man must be too much for her." The comments and jokes became more insulting, more crash.

Then someone said, "she got a lot of nerve bringing that White boy up in here with us." There was a general grumbling of agreement. The mood in the room suddenly became tense. I felt fear. I was sitting in a restaurant in the middle of a northern city and I suddenly felt scared for my safety and that of my date.

We left before our order came.

Is It Any Different Today

The short answer is no. This incident happened more than thirty years ago. During those years we faced many incidents of hatred from both blacks and Hispanics.

We also encountered acceptance and love. We are together still. We still love and respect one another. Ours is a successful marriage in all aspects. We did not allow the prejudices and bigotry of others interfere with our lives.

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Couples, Hateful Acts, Interracial In America, Interracial Marriage, Marriage, Marriage In America, Racism, Racism In America

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author avatar Claudia J. Rodriguez
I am a paralegal certified in litigation. I have many interest. I will write on several subjects as I find an interest.

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
24th Feb 2014 (#)

dont take any bloody nuisance of those who do this...their judgements will return to them..
You can just enjoy the loving of each other for each person no matter who is divine..

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author avatar Claudia J. Rodriguez
24th Feb 2014 (#)

Thank you for your comments and good thoughts.

As I wrote in my piece, we are still together.

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
24th Feb 2014 (#)

Ignorant poeple as well stupid, still love has won and look at both of you Black and Brown very proud, dont let that stupidity deter you or stop any of you, thats still happening in this day and age.

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author avatar Claudia J. Rodriguez
24th Feb 2014 (#)

Thank you Fern. I appreciate your comment. We are happily still together.

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
24th Feb 2014 (#)

good on you too dear Fern...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
5th Dec 2014 (#)

I feel others are insecure. Prejudice is everywhere but it is slowly disappearing in Asian societies. I take it it their problem, not mine! siva

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author avatar Claudia J. Rodriguez
7th Dec 2014 (#)

Thank you for your thoughts dear Siva. My husband and I continue together and we are happy with our lives.

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author avatar Nancy Czerwinski
12th Jan 2015 (#)

Claudia, my heart goes out to you and your husband. I just don't understand what is wrong with people. Unless you are who they think you should be they can be rude and very distasteful. I wouldn't worry about what, when or where they say whatever. You do whatever you want. I'm sending blessing to you. God Bless!

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author avatar Claudia J. Rodriguez
13th Jan 2015 (#)

Thank you very much. Sometimes its difficult but I remain happy with my choice. I appreciate your comments. God Bless you.

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