Self-limiting beliefs. Are they restricting us from fully loving?

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Self-limiting beliefs limit us to following those beliefs. They lead to self-fulfilling prophecies. We limit ourselves from living fully from the love that God wants us to live fully from.

And it's not just our beliefs that can limit us. Our way of thinking can also do this.

Here are a few ideas about how to limit the amount of self-limiting beliefs, and thoughts that we have, and so that we can then learn to prevent them all from limiting us in our lives.

Self-limiting beliefs often stem from self-rejection.

Self -rejection could be said to be a fear of being alone. The antidote for all of this is self-acceptance, based on a healthy love for yourself.

"There is only you and your camera. The limitations in your photography are in yourself, for what we see is what we are."

This quote is from the Austrian photographer, and photo-journalist, Ernst Haas, (1921 to 1986).

We could change this to say something more like this for the purposes of this article:

There is only you, and your self-limiting beliefs. The limitations in your life are in yourself, for what we believe, is what we are.

What then are self-limiting beliefs? If they exist what part of us are they existing within?

Any belief that acts to the reverse of a true belief based on faith, trust, and inner knowing, is not being based on real knowing at all. It is being based on the walls of fear, which appear when we fear moving forwards.

When this happens this fear then often becomes a part of our belief system.

It does this by establishing itself in our habitual core of internally processable reactive mind or subconscious mind responses, from where we act without knowing what we are doing any more.

We do not know that it is one of these underlying programmed-in beliefs that restrict the flow of our love more widely in us, because we cannot see the possibility for us to do so without being singled out and persecuted by others for our so doing.

Every self-limiting belief comes from a fear of a certain response from other people, like this, but this response can also be coming from our false self or ego, which will criticise the way that we need to go, against the way that it wants to take us, or to lead us to, or along to, on its own path for us.

Your mind's control over of all of this

Love solves all problems.

This is because love comes from your heart via your soul, via God, whereas bodily problems are often stemming from a fear or a state of non-love existing within your mind still right now.

Your heart controls all, but your state of mind controls the state of your body mostly, except for those influences that are deeper immersed within your flesh as affecting memory residues from past experiences from a past life.

Your present mind usually does not even know of these until they rise up from your body from some such experience as them being released by somebody or yourself knowing the technique or way to do this.

What is this technique or way to clear our mind of these underlying influences and programmings that cause us to hold onto such self-limiting beliefs once formed, or to form them in the first place, for that matter?

These ways of limiting your mind's fullness of scope in its thinking, and in its linking to all that is, comes about through you simply neglecting to accept with love every experience that you go through.

When you reject, or do not fully connect to an experience from love, you often believe that it has been sent to punish you or to hurt you. This then becomes a self-limiting belief because of the protective wall that such a belief constructs around you, and which you think will stop these fears from entering your mind, your life, and your psyche again.

The truth is however that they (the fears) are in you already.

Such walls just keep them in by confining them in you behind the walls, so that they can't escape, because you are not letting them disperse, or be looked at properly in the new light of wisdom that should be being gained from your on-going growth, and from your understanding of the future like experiences that your soul sends to you to try to help you to dismantle these walls, again, and again, and again.

When this does not work, the dismantling has to be arranged in a more creative way, and so a health problem might be experienced that will shatter the walls out of existence for a while, and hopefully you will then see the love that is still there, and change these beliefs to ones that are more self-enhancing ones then instead.

"You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind."

This quote is from the American author, and speaker, Joyce Meyer. She is the founder of Joyce Meyer Ministries.

Can anything limit our thinking, our beliefs, or who we really are?

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition."

The late American businessman, and co-founder of Apple, Steve Jobs, (1955 to 2011) said this very well.

These ideas can be applied to ourselves to, when we allow our own thoughts, dogma, and beliefs to limit us in this way too.

Here is a short poem about limitation, and limitlessness.

Poetry: The paradox of the "unlimitedness" of God being seemingly limited within us

Self-limitations are self-imposed fears, adhering to denial.
They adhere not to love, but to yourself, in your own aisle.
They are built from you holding false beliefs about yourself,
and so love's realer wealth is denied to you by these beliefs.

Restraint's alright, if it doesn't constrain any of your love.
Anything put above love drags you towards imperfection's shove.
Negativity never limits you, unless you limit yourself, you see.
Positivity exists on love's shelf, not denying any truth, in me.

Limitations exist only ever within the limited, limiting themselves.
The state of "unlimitedlessness" exists only within God, and his love.
The two states meet each other together within each part of creation,
but God allows the unlimited to be limited within him unlimitedly so.

Limited thinking, and limitations

We are limited by nothing. Not even our purpose for being here can limit us to only that purpose. Even that is not set in concrete.

We are never limited by a fixed assignment handed out to us at the start of our lives.

This too is a part of limited thinking, fanciful thinking that gives us a false sense of security, in that we think that we then have a purpose. But no purpose like this exists, as soul has always existed past a small lifetime purpose such as this, and our soul has only one real role.

Life is a series of steps forward and goals or assignments are the steps.

The wisdom to move to the next step is contained within the previous step, and so you allow wisdom to come when you accept the wisdom that you have already gotten and understood.

Lifetime purposes are a guide towards the direction of your wisdom accumulation role for this life, but they are never restrictive or limiting as such. You might jump tracks to a new purpose or you might finalise and complete this purpose quicker and move also to a new goal or lifetime assignment.

The theme though usually remains the same. You are acquiring more wisdom and experience about a particular facet of love. All life is about experiencing love and then acquiring its wisdom.

Soul's role is to grow in consciousness and to return to God to assist him in creation and creating. Soul's role is not to get tied up in pursuing minor little purposes that deflect and deter you from reaching into your real growth as soul.

This real growth is never limited to only one purpose, but your soul actually has a hand in every purpose, as we all do, and we are all connected to everything else and everything else is connected to us.

If we feel we have no purpose, or that we don't know our true purpose, a feeling of guilt can descend upon us. Guilt comes from compulsion.

You feel you are being compelled to do what you don't want to do, or can't seem to be able to do, and therefore you feel guilty that you are not doing what is being expected and wanted by others for you to be doing. You can also feel guilty about yourself seemingly not fulfilling your own expected role or goals in life either.

The way to break the hold that guilt has on you is to simply realise that life is bigger than any guilt trip. The life you do have is right for you right now, perfect for you in fact, and you don't have to feel guilty, or explain it to anyone else, including yourself.

"Only you can control your future."

So once said that well-loved American writer of children's books, Dr. Seuss, (1904 to 1991).

I might add to this, for the purposes of my article, that, "only you can control your self-limiting beliefs."

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I have been interested in the spiritual fields for over thirty five years now. My writing is mostly in this area.

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author avatar Retired
28th Apr 2015 (#)

All fear stems from feeling like God couldn't possibly love us, because we are so 'wrong'. It's a self-perpetuating argument which needs a fresh perspective to let the light of truth in: God loves each of us; we are the ones negating His love. Time to be positive...

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author avatar spirited
28th Apr 2015 (#)

Thanks Christopher.

What you say here rings true, but how could we have become flawed like this?

You are saying that it is we ourselves who are responsible for blocking/negating God's love, because we fear it, by our thinking that we do not deserve to be loved, or that we are not worthy of being loved, or some of us might think that we don't need it, (God’s love), because we can manage on our own.

Where does this wrong thinking and belief originate/come from then?

Wrong thinking comes from our not loving fully consciously, I think.

When we love unconsciously fully, we do not think consciously about it.

This is perhaps the way that trees and unconscious objects love, but higher creations such as humans, with a thinking brain that has linked itself to consciousness of a higher nature or vibration level than the trees, allows for mistakes in thinking to occur in the individual, so that the individual might compare his thinking to others, and from these comparisons in different “thinkings”, an individual “thinking person” can have a new and unique way/chance to advance to a better way of thinking, and so to move themselves up the consciousness scale, and to be able to then consciously love with more, or a greater, conscious understanding, and so develop and grow their individual wisdom, at the same time, as the collective wisdom grows then too.

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author avatar Retired
29th Apr 2015 (#)

This might have happened with "The Fall" (so to speak): when we took on physical bodies our connection to the Divine was disrupted and we became 'alone' for the first time; that was scary, and so fear was the result.

This is not dissimilar to a child going for a long walk in the deep woods: the child is very much loved, but cannot feel that love when away from home, because there are no signs of it about them; so they grow afraid of the wild, the dark, and the unknown.

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author avatar Retired
29th Apr 2015 (#)

But there are also children who aren't afraid of the dark, and know that they are loved at home.

They have fun walking through the woods, knowing that whatever they discover on their trek, they will be bringing home to show those that love them.

That's how I feel...

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author avatar spirited
29th Apr 2015 (#)

thanks Christopher, and then there are ones like me, who know that they are loved at home, but still cannot understand why we are not all at home still.

At one level, I am not afraid in this knowing, but at the practical living level, I am terrified of this living, and of having(being seemingly forced) to live.

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author avatar spirited
29th Apr 2015 (#)

Thanks Christopher. I liked your analogy.

Not everyone accepts that there was such a “Fall” though.

Was there really such a fall, and do we all have the “original sin” within us?

Why do we feel afraid of the unknown like this?

I know I do, and that's why I have always searched for answers.

The answer might be of course, that love itself has “no(visibly visible) answers”, but our own.

Perhaps this is why the search from our self is the only way to find answers.

The fall is simply the construction of a mirror to view yourself in separately built from God.

This mirror of consciousness is at first scary as is anything that we are seeing for the first time, that is until the image becomes more friendly, and welcome(ing) for us, and so understood better for what it really is.

The mirror is merely a projection of love on a screen on which love’s truths can be seen and understood more readily by something seemingly separate or other than God, as we think that we are, in the beginning stages, of our journey, anyway.

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author avatar Retired
29th Apr 2015 (#)

"For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known." (1 Corinthians 13:12) (In old English, a mirror was known as a glass.)

The "Fall" is the moment of dropping Divine consciousness upon entering this world, through birth. We felt at fault somehow, forgetting that we chose this portion of life to experience it so God could experience it, too. (I believe the Universe shares our lives vicariously.)

We are servants who was sent into a foreign country disguised as the natives, in order to bring back the Pearl that was lost there. Most of us have forgotten our mission, and become like the Prodigal Son. (I can't wait for the fatted calf to be roasted, on my return...)

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author avatar spirited
29th Apr 2015 (#)

Thanks again for your explanation here Christopher,

I agree with you, but it is frustrating to have the theory but not the faith to put it into practice as Jesus Christ did.

How/why then can someone like Jesus seem to have an advantage over me in that his knowing could be used, mine is/remains just theory?

Jesus could do these things because his right hand was firmly planted within God’s left hand, and he never let it go at any time.

I perhaps have let go of it in order to try to grab onto other things, when the connection is fully grasped again (pardon the pun) maybe then I will be able to do all that Jesus did and even more, as he said so himself.

John 14:12-14 New International Version

Very truly I tell you, whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father.

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author avatar Retired
29th Apr 2015 (#)

Spirited, you've sets your sights very high. I suppose aiming for the stars and just landing on the Moon is enough for you. How long have you been perfecting yourself? Just this lifetime? There is a school of thought that Jesus was the reincarnation of Adam: he'd been perfecting himself for a very long time.

Think about it this way: you have an older brother who is very adept at certain skills; you've grown up in his shadow, your whole life. You will never match him, no matter what you do, but you can forge your own path and become the best at what you do. Shouldn't that be enough for now?

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author avatar Retired
29th Apr 2015 (#)

(Let's do that first part again, without the typos...)

Spirited, you've set your sights very high. I suppose aiming for the stars and just landing on the Moon isn't enough for you.

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author avatar spirited
29th Apr 2015 (#)

Thanks Christopher,

You are patient in answering my replies.

Do we have to love the moon or the earth where we are, or can we also say like Jesus Christ said that, “my real home/kingdom is not of the earth?”

The earth is like a training school for all souls who have never displayed the total love that God requires of them.

This means that God requires his creation, all parts of it, to turn on the love in their heart, but the switch for them to do this is the freedom of choice placed in their minds.

Jesus could live from love as God does because God created him more directly as his representatively perfect soul so as to show others the results that can be obtained when they switch on their own switch like he did/or had done for him.

That’s my explanation why Jesus could do more than I can.

My search has always been to gain the awareness/consciousness level/or help, for me to know how to turn on this love switch permanently too.

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author avatar Retired
29th Apr 2015 (#)

I know it's frustrating, spirited, but you also don't have the added 'luxury' of being trained in the "secret ways" of an esoteric school. You are trying to be self-taught, which involves the very real self-limiting that you have been questioning.

Allow yourself time, keep working at your craft and keep positive: you are not alone.

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author avatar spirited
29th Apr 2015 (#)

true, true, thanks for your encouragement, Christopher.

My Dad was the same as me though, and he died, still without these answers.

I do not want to do that, if I can help it....

Actually, we both had the answers in our hearts.

The problem is more knowing how to have the continuous courage/wisdom/strength to live them at all times, from a weaker flesh/mind/body etc, etc.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th Apr 2015 (#)

Good post Spirited. We tend to believe that if we question, think differently from what is handed down in our scriptures we may offend our Gods. But I take a view there is a basis to all beliefs and they are based on love, compassion and coexistence. However, the interpretations of few have distorted the beauty of beliefs and have made us go around in circles. Most are even afraid to understand other beliefs than their own - siva

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author avatar spirited
29th Apr 2015 (#)

thanks siva,

yes, the cattle driver drives on the cattle, and so they are too afraid of his whip to leave the road and to find their own way home.

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author avatar Carol Roach
2nd May 2015 (#)

Yes only we can control our own thinking

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author avatar spirited
2nd May 2015 (#)

That's very true, thanks Carol

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