Selfless Life is Pure Bliss

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It is time to shift our focus from selfish pursuits to selflessness as our guiding light for inclusive society. When we share our mother earth, the air we breathe, come and leave empty handed, it is clear our pursuits should be above selfishness.

Towards Selflessness

We prove to be our own worst enemy. Individually we feel we are short-changed by others, but how can that be if most feel the same way? Obviously there is lack of appreciation of reality. It is natural to take care of our needs first as charity begins at home. However, I have found in my own way the road to pure bliss is through helping others without expecting rewards. Once that becomes a way of life any aberrations on our part elicit an automatic warning of transgressions on what we believe in.

Pursuit of Wealth

I work in the finance field; that means it is a rather greedy cesspool as the players are never satisfied. They want to outdo others as a matter of business policy. The big players become slave to their wealth and that goal becomes their end in life; even own family leaves them to their devices! Not only them but also those within the inner circle become selfish players stoking each other’s greed and listening to what they want to hear! Though pursuit of wealth cannot be condemned many get into grey areas of law to outwit others in the game. It becomes a selfish pursuit and mostly the players dig own graves when those with good intentions move away.

Having seen wealth attracting the wrong kind, I feel mindless pursuit brings only grief as one easily loses balance in life. I have seen very few among the rich rise above their norm and, thankfully, there are also those who keep monetary rewards at arm’s length; fair return is their guiding light. I too have followed that path and would end up with limited wealth but no liabilities – my goal; an attitude to take life as it dawns each day helps.

Better World within Our Cusp

Can we move towards a selfless world? Certainly, through a simple change in attitude and perception:

Isolate the greedy: I take issue with media for highlighting wealth as the be all and end all. When I look at the super rich from poor countries making it to the world’s rich lists I really feel sorry for them as well as the poor people who are exploited by them. Is it not the latter’s blood and sweat monetized in stark figures? Greed should have no place in a civilized society and, worse, taken as the barometer of success!

Limit wants: The world is our oyster. The majority are poor and some are dying due to lack of basic food and healthcare. Many children succumb to malnutrition. Is it too much to expect the rich to sacrifice their time and some wealth to lift the poorest by their bootstraps even though they may not even have footwear? Waste and misuse of limited resources should come under the scanner.

Pursue those that benefit society: We find the end justifies the means but if the end is greed and profits! The best brain is into financial jugglery and speculation and the rewards for them are obscene! While those who do hard labor under trying circumstances are played out. Society should curb such irrational exuberance and adapt fair rewards and coexistence as the goal.

Highlight selflessness: We should keep an eye on selfish pursuits but do the right by highlighting those who are stark opposites, those who are selfless and they make the world worth living for majority underprivileged. They listen to their inner conscience and find balance between the needs of body and soul. They see and pause to help those in need. May their tribe increase!

Find true leaders, heroes: Are we not getting tired of leaders who just talk without saying much? At least they don’t translate their words into deeds. Is it not time ripe to find leaders among us who are ready to take the cudgels but are side-lined by rhetoric of others? They cannot get their word in amid the noise pollution. We need them, the builders, and not destroyers threatening others all the time, playing to the gallery!

Inclusive Society

We are easily divided and manipulated due to emotions scoring over reason. Most wars have their roots in pursuing revenge and greed as our goal. Let us bury past hurts and look to the future. When selflessness takes hold in our psyche, many artificial borders become history. There is no point in killing million innocents just because their leader seems to be evil. The poor are same – worrying about family and their daily needs. Killing another is far from their priorities. Let the evil fight each other – good riddance!

Selfless life is the ultimate balm to our restless soul. When we bring nothing, why bother to calculate what does not belong to us in the end? Let our children pursue their karma and not be burdened with physical assets that may prove a burden to them. Just because we are amid our family does not make others outcasts! I have moved with those with different beliefs but they are all just the same to me – as loving and want to be loved and heard. Let us fulfill that simple need to make our world so much better for all. Selfless life is pure bliss. Are we not same in every way including our fellow travelers traveling the same path, breathing the same air?

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Steve for your moderation and the star; appreciated - siva

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author avatar M G Singh
24th Aug 2013 (#)

Nice post Siva, but idealism does not lead far. So many other factors are there.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Madan. All religious faiths exhort us towards that noble end of selflessness. Individually we attain bliss through volunteerism for a cause that benefits society especially those at the bottom rung of the ladder. Each can do but little, but each will do that little all will be done. We should have proper priorities for a healthy lifestyle and inclusive society is the only way to survive. If we do not do what is right then we will only perpetuate the system of greed and self-centeredness - siva

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
24th Aug 2013 (#)

Great post!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Phyl for your kind words - siva

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author avatar Rubinstyn
24th Aug 2013 (#)

Good post Siva ... worthy of a star! Each of us are responsible for our own actions and attitudes.

God bless.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Thanks Rubinstyn for your support. We have to do what is right and we know what it is every moment, and when in doubt - do unto others as you would have them do unto you - siva

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author avatar Trillionaire
24th Aug 2013 (#)

Awesome. Thank you!!!!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Thanks Trillionaire for your comment- siva

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
24th Aug 2013 (#)

most enlightening as always siva dear...thank you....

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Thanks dear Carolina - your visit and comments are always welcome - siva

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author avatar kaianni
24th Aug 2013 (#)

Siva, there is a shift happening and money is still a player. What would happen if that was used for good? You work in the field, could someone come in and invest and make a change for the positive from the inside out? Not a someone... a group of like minded individuals using money as a tool for positive change? It is not a burden if you do not yoke yourself to it, instead you invest and perpetuate.... so much can change working with the system they have made. All we need is the tools and the selfless souls to use them.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Kaianni for your valuable input. We have everything going for a new beginning with a rise in consciousness.

I have lived all my life in Asia. I have seen the lifestyle of the rich at close quarters. They forget they owe their success to society at large - where did their wealth come from anyway - and get so addicted to their wealth at the exclusion of everything, everyone, else. It is time indeed they saw the writing on the wall and did what is right like Gates and Buffet have set the ball rolling. Otherwise, the billions hidden will just remain so and end up in hands they never even contemplated.

The real reward in life is helping those in need; now we all know what to do but lack a system to do in a large scale. It need not be handouts but investments in clean, renewable energy and creating the right awareness for peace. Now there is a wrong perception that wars are inevitable and peace is only through killing and maiming the millions of innocents for the supposed sins of their leaders! siva

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author avatar Connie McKinney
25th Aug 2013 (#)

You always have interesting articles and great lessons for us to take away from them, Siva. I agree. We should all live less selfishly. Well done, Siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Connie for your kind words - it is time we translated what we know is the right way into reality to benefit society. Now some feel the only way is to run with the spoils and that perpetuates a self-defeating system of hypocrisy, pessimism and cynicism. Time we got out of this vicious circle - siva

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author avatar Grumpybear
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Siva I applaud you for this chunk of supreme wisdom you have written. If only others would listen to you we might be able to save the race of mankind. congratulations on a page well and truly spoken. Your friend Rose. :)

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Thanks indeed Rose for your kind support. I feel the biggest enemy is our mindset that what is written as the proper way to pursue life in our wisdom-filled holy books is not relevant now. We have also built artificial walls between societies and beliefs though their essence is the same when we separate the rituals. We talk from the same platform. With the help of technology the ways of the evil are brought out to the open increasingly and whistle blowers have started railing against injustices. What a breath of fresh air that China is having an open trial of a former top leader, Bo Xilai; to prove their system and procedures are convincing. We all can coexist but we have to move in the proper direction and switch off the war mongering and that is what everyone, of course with few incorrigible exceptions, wants - siva

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author avatar Terry Trainor
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Great post my dear wise friend in my world competition is about what you have or do not have. Even in polite conversation friends will slip in a piece about a new car maybe a holiday or a new house. It seems they have flagging ego's and have to have them recharged so many times in one day.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Thanks Terry for the comment. I have seen how the rich are pampered, but they little realize others are not interested in them but only what they have! Greed is omnipresent and most cannot live with it but have to put up with it against their conscience. I have lived in close proximity as there are people showing photos of gold holdings supposed to belong to Marcos and Suharto and willing to let go at a fraction of the price! Now it is the turn of Saddam and Qaddafi! The more one has the more one wants - is true. Gandhi said there is everything to meet our needs but not the greed. Sharing what we have in excess benefits all including our family after we are gone - siva

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author avatar Retired
25th Aug 2013 (#)

so true...

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Thanks Ambrine - so happy to read your comments - siva

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author avatar Retired
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Nice thoughts, Siva. Unfortunately, the world we live in is indeed a selfish world. Perhaps, it is a result of the materialism of modern societies. It is interesting to note that most traditional societies, tribal societies for instance, are far more selfless and help each other collectively than modern urban societies. Perhaps, that says something!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Aug 2013 (#)

You are right from my observation too, Shil. City life is a mad scramble with survival of the fittest and nimblest. We had more time for each other; now we are lost in selfish pursuits like downloading latest applications in smartphones and getting hooked on to them. Our family life suffers in the end. The most important ingredient for meaningful life is time for each other especially in times of need. All these technologies are just a means to an end for a fulfilling life. Otherwise, we will live an empty life especially during our final days - siva

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author avatar Yasmin.k
25th Aug 2013 (#)

Very enlightened thoughts Siva jee. Your message is universal.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Yasmin - appreciate your kind words - siva

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author avatar Delicia Powers
25th Aug 2013 (#)

- in depth Siva life's purpose- a "Selfless life is pure bliss."...may we all pray for such divine happiness, beautiful post siva, thank you.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Delicia - we need to get to a higher level through a shared journey where everyone counts and contributes his/her mite - siva

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author avatar johnbee
26th Aug 2013 (#)

Very good post. Keep up the good work Siva. Don't stop now!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Aug 2013 (#)

Your comments give me encouragement to keep going, dear Johnbee - siva

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author avatar Judy Ellen
26th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you so much for this very insightful, wise and encouraging essay/article! Your words always bring us so much joy! I agree 1000& that when we help others we will truly experience what life is all about and the joy that follows!! We are as you say all in this thing called life together!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
27th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Judy for your input, appreciated. We are touched when others help us by going out of their way. Let us do our part to make this world so much better. It is better than marketing techniques to improve the bottom line of business concerns - siva

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author avatar Md Rezaul Karim
27th Aug 2013 (#)

Sometimes I feel like you are the happiest person of all...
You put things in a manner that no one can deny..
all the truths are there...
But while coming to reality...
I myself couldn't do beyond...
Rather most of the time behave selfishly...
Sometimes cognitive- unselfish..

Great work as ever.. long live Sivaji..

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
27th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you dear Karim. When I don't see you for some time I worry as you speak the truth and frank in your bold views. Even in democracy it may not be appreciated! I try my best to apply in my life what I believe in and share what I get in return. I try to be selfless but one has to meet basic needs - siva

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author avatar Subra
27th Aug 2013 (#)

The Dalai Lama says, “Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.” The Bible also says, “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others”.

We all seek happiness and contentment, but unfortunately we hunt in the wrong place and with selfish motives. We may think that we have found happiness when circumstances are favourable or pleasant, but when trials, tribulations and tragedies occur, we lose our sense of peace and gratitude. Then we begin to realise that such happiness is fleeting and that the real source of happiness comes from helping others unconditionally.

When we help others, we forget ourselves and connect with the underlying unity that intertwines us all. Our own inner restlessness becomes still when we focus on making others happy. When we help bring relief to someone who is suffering, a synergy occurs and our own mental tension dissolves and that is when we find true happiness and bliss. So as you have correctly said Siva, one of the best ways to give up selfishness is to practice selflessness: to be of service to others.

As we have seen in literature, in art, in history, in drama and in real life, selfless love and giving is hailed as the pinnacle of human achievement, the height of bliss, and an expression of ecstasy. Such selfless love and giving emanates from the heart. So we can conclude by saying that the only person who can make you truly happy (or unhappy) is yourself. If you truly want bliss, you, and only you, can find it.

Congrats once again, dear Siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
27th Aug 2013 (#)

Thanks again dear Subra for your unstinting support and incisive input. I feel when someone requests for help he or she is doing us a service to elevate ourselves spiritually. I used to wonder why some rich never make eye contact with the poor - that only shows the poverty of their life and attitude! Someone told me they are afraid that people will take advantage of them. That shows lack of understanding and a miserable attitude and existence.

Whenever I miss an opportunity to help others I feel lousy and I try to make up for it before long. If the super rich made their money due to their smartness they should contribute to wider society more. No one can thrive in isolation and the more we succeed the more we have to be beholden to society at large. As we can carry nothing away, why not touch as many as we can than slash money away in hidden trusts to benefit few? But commonsense is not that common and happiness will prove elusive to many despite hankering after it through accumulating assets that prove a liability at the end of the day - siva

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author avatar Carol
27th Aug 2013 (#)

Wise and inspirational words, well done Siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
27th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Carol for your encouragement, appreciated - siva

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author avatar Christine Crowley
27th Aug 2013 (#)

Wise words - I wish we could follow your advice all the time. I wonder ......

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
27th Aug 2013 (#)

Thanks Christine. I try to make it a habit and if I stray from the prompts of my conscience, I become aware of the wrong turn I have taken - siva

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author avatar LOVERME
27th Aug 2013 (#)

We all hanker for Stars
but my Lord you are the shivaa LINGAM
from distinct far

none can equal your starssss here
can I say that our Lord shivaa everyone's dearssss

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
28th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Loverme. I am just one of the stars, maybe, but you are the polestar! siva

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author avatar johnbee
27th Aug 2013 (#)

It is a world that presupposes! the word "that" was left out of my previous comment!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
28th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Johnbee. Mysteriously, your earlier comment just disappeared! We need divine guidance every step of our way - siva

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author avatar vellur
28th Aug 2013 (#)

Being selfless brings true happiness in life, a great write.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
28th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Vellur - our world too will look so different if we all make the effort to move in this direction - siva

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author avatar Mariah
30th Aug 2013 (#)

Siva my dear friend you have the most gifted way of relaying the realities of the most valuable and most rewarding aspects of life.
You are our leader to the path of righteousness here on wikinut, how I wish you were
also prominent in the world of politics.Thank you for such a inspiring article.
Mariah

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Mariah for your kind words that touch me. We seem to get the wrong leaders - at least those who do not do enough for peace or rather who divide us! Don't we, the majority, deserve better? siva

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author avatar Retired
31st Aug 2013 (#)

wonderful work!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
31st Aug 2013 (#)

Thank you Ambrine for your visit and comments - siva

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author avatar sukkran
2nd Sep 2013 (#)

it is really a great and meaningful article, shiva. love the way you have presented it.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
3rd Sep 2013 (#)

Thank you Sukkran, appreciate your visit and comments. Our selfishness is our weakness. It is time we existed for the betterment of society - siva

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author avatar deepa venkitesh
11th Sep 2013 (#)

selfish people are like drops of poison in a glass of milk, thanks for this post sir, it speaks volumes about your kind heart

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
11th Sep 2013 (#)

Thank you Deepa. When we eschew selfish ways we get elevated and the right people move in to our circle while the selfish retreat to their den! siva

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author avatar Retired
13th Sep 2013 (#)

this really is something t think about!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
13th Sep 2013 (#)

Thank you Ambrine. I see many people being selfish for even petty personal gain. They really do not know the rewards of selflessness - siva

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author avatar spirited
13th Oct 2013 (#)

Selflessness leads us back to oneness, selfishness leads us away from oneness.

All is oneness anyway, but we can separate ourselves from oneness in our own minds by maintaining an attitude of selfishness.

Great article, profound stuff!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
13th Oct 2013 (#)

Thanks Spirited for reading and the input. We think being selfish gives us dividends but then we opt to move away from the mainstream and from oneness - opting for a lonelier path. For me sharing with others is bliss. Then I get the right environment and company - siva

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author avatar Retired
12th Feb 2014 (#)

Fantastic article :) Well written!! Keep the awesome articles coming :)

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
12th Feb 2014 (#)

Thank you Mizz Panda. I have written many - hope you can find the time to read and comment - siva

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