Stop Emulating Me!!

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"Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery", no, not true at all. I'm sick and tired of having others emulate and imitate me for their own personal gain!! Time for these people to realize their own individualism and uniqueness and stop trying to be like me!!!

Agitated!!

Today happens to be one of those "I'm irritated" days. After a week of only falling asleep between 4 and 5 am and being awoken before 8am to my boys screaming and fighting, I'm exhausted and just plain, agitated. And not just at the small incidences that go on within my house, but with everything in my life.
As per my personality, I have a tendency to spend a great deal of time thinking and going over certain events, or people within my life. This is just a normal thing for me to do. Sometimes I really overthink things, and others I don't seem to think enough. On a normal day, these thoughts would ramble through my head and have very little effect on my overall mood or on anything else I am doing. Today....is a different story.

Mountains Out of Mole Hills?

Perhaps it is just the lack of sleep, perhaps it is merely sexual frustration. There are a great many things it could be that add to my agitated state. Nevertheless, I'm irritated, and let's be honest, a bit angry. I have a few pet peeves that normally I keep a tight lid on. Today, they are entirely out in the open and are causing me to run red with an irritation that I can't seem to control. And my pet peeves, when agitated, cause me to feel like I myself am not good enough for anyone. That severely angers me considering I spend so much of my time trying to help others out.
As my best friend has told me in the past; I make mountains out of mole hills, and mole hills out of mountains. Small things, such as my pet peeves become issues I can not seem to handle well, while other things, problems that are usually a big deal for anyone else, are easy for me to break down and handle in a calm and rational way. And on an irritable day like today, those small mole hills seem far too big for me to climb and conquer.

Imitation Is Not A Sincere Form of Flattery

I am not without flaws. This I have always known. No one is without flaws, no one is perfect. I never strive for perfection either. To be perfect would be boring in my eyes. But for some reason, my views on life, the way I live, and everything I do to bring help and joy to myself and to others is constantly being copied. My biggest pet peeve, and the one I have the worst time handling, is copy cats. Everyone has their own personal skills, personalities, their own individualism. So why is it necessary for people to turn around and try to take what is me, what I have spent a lifetime achieving, my skills that I was born with and try to emulate them? I have heard say, that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. And I disagree entirely with the premise.
If imitation was indeed a form of flattery, I would not feel as if I'm not only being copied but that now, I am no longer good enough, or perhaps that I am too good. Take my writing for example. I was born with the gift of being able to express my thoughts, my feelings, my deepest emotions in a fluent flow of words and descriptions. I may not be able to speak my mind much but put a pad of paper and a pen in front of me, or a laptop and everything within my heart, soul and mind flow through my arms, down my hands, into my fingertips and straight into words. My writing not only helps me communicate to the people around me, but it is also meant to help others, inspire others to be themselves, to find themselves. But I find, more often than not, that when people read my writing, some people that have never written before, they suddenly feel they have the talent to emulate what I have done. They not only do so, they become more arrogant towards the skill itself. Creating more attention because people look and say, oh, that person is trying to express themselves...I feel for them. Meanwhile, my words, my soul gets left behind because it is too good. It is not worthwhile because I do it so often.

My Perception of Emulation

My writing skills are not the only thing that gets emulated on a regular basis either. My submissiveness towards my lifestyle, my clothing choices, my appearance, even my love of dancing and music. Nothing is safe from the copy cats anymore. I once asked my friend if it was wrong for me to be so agitated by this copying, this emulation. I felt guilty, almost like a green eyed monster had taken me over. She stated "No".
How she put it, made a great deal of sense to me. She told me that every person is unique. Everyone is different, even if two people have the same skills or looks, the way they express themselves is entirely unique to the individual. But, when someone emulates you, copies your skills, or looks, it it trying to copy that which is you. What makes you an individual and unique is suddenly being compromised. It's not the fact that a person starts writing that irritates me, or that suddenly they become slightly more submissive in their lifestyle, its how they try to achieve these skills. It's the perception I take when I read their writing or I see them that makes all the difference. If I feel that they are desperately trying to copy the emotion, or the ideals I have in my writing, or suddenly start sounding and looking like me, it becomes a huge offense.

Tired Of This

This is what has caused me the most irritation today. The copy cats cause me to feel as if I, as myself, are not good enough. And that is something I have a hard time swallowing. I already, on a regular basis wonder if I am ever going to be good enough for anyone, and when I'm emulated and notice that I have suddenly dropped in worth to someone because of this emulation....well, it sends me in a down spiral. Why should I bother with my efforts if in the end someone else can just use them for themselves?
I help others in need as much as I can. Is it too much to ask for, that people not try to achieve my skill sets, and that they accept themselves for who they are instead of trying to steal who I am? For pete's sake, I just want to be me, I just want to be unique and loved and cared for for who I am. I'm tired of seeing people take my uniqueness and use it to steal from me what I believe I deserve.

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Copycat, Copying, Emulate, Imitators, Irritants, Irritating People, Irritation, Pet Peeves

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I write and have published poetry and was editor of the school newspaper all through highschool. I can write a variety of different genres from articles to novels

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author avatar n.c.radomes
27th Jul 2013 (#)

I am one of those who derived inspiration from your writings. You've to thank your star for bring copied.

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author avatar Empress
27th Jul 2013 (#)

My dear, I wish to inspire with my writing. Copying in that way does not upset me. I don't consider it copying when I inspire. I consider it copying when someone I know decides they can be me....it's different. I am sorry for the misconception.

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author avatar Empress
27th Jul 2013 (#)

And with inspiring with my writing, I know that everyone uses their talents in their own unique way. It's different when someone pretty much takes exactly how I do something and copies it word for word or image for image.

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author avatar Empress
27th Jul 2013 (#)

And I'm writing about one person in particular.....

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
27th Jul 2013 (#)

good on you Empress...say it as it is...I had someone really be vicious when I wrote about copycats...so be ware...

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author avatar Mariah
27th Jul 2013 (#)

I think you are failing to reveal that you made nasty accusations that were 'publicly proven' to be false, and of which you personally apologised to me for Carolan..as my article 'Tools Of The Trade on Wikinut' will prove to this writer, if she chooses to be wisely selective of whom she takes advice from.
Mariah

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
27th Jul 2013 (#)

You have a lot of temper in you, never ever show the world the hatedness within as they may imitate but can never ever be the real thing. The real thing is always going to be you and you alone. I never copy but make my own path but many imitate showing you are worthy to be replicated but not when it is destroying life and livelihood as a whole.

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author avatar Empress
15th Mar 2014 (#)

I think it is you with much repressed anger

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
27th Jul 2013 (#)

Justine Beaver as I call him is one such character.

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author avatar Mariah
27th Jul 2013 (#)

Ditto on the Justin B Lady A
Mariah

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
28th Oct 2013 (#)

I would be most honoured if anyone cared to copy me Empress ....just so long as they copied the nice bits ..
God bless you
Stella ><

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author avatar Empress
29th Oct 2013 (#)

They say the sincerest form of flattery is copying. I am not one for flattery. I would prefer to inspire than just to create copies. We have all been made unique and original.

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