Surviving the Dark Valley's of Life

jjmyles By jjmyles, 28th Apr 2015 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL
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Life comes with many stressor's. How we handle those stresses will effect the quality of our lives. We deal with life and all it's ups and downs either negatively or positively. Our choice will determine the outcome of our situations.

Some Times Life Can Hit You Like a Sledge Hammer

It had been a really tough year. Several family members including my mother and grand parents had passed away for various reasons within a matter of months. It seemed like every other week I was arranging a funeral or preparing to attend one.
To add to the stress, I was the executor of my moms estate. If you ever want to see the worst of people watch them all try to clammer for any money that is left behind when someone dies. It can really get rather ugly. As I watched people I loved become ruthless towards one another because of what to me seemed to be a modest amount of money it broke my heart.
I was sure that I was suffering from PTSD by the time probate completed and the estate was finally distributed according to my moms wishes. To say I was slumping into a depressive state would have been and understatement at the time. It had reached the point that I didn't want to get up out of the bed most day's but I had to because my job required that I show up to work on a regular basis. If it wasn't for that, I probably would have vegetated in bed until someone forced me to get up.

One morning I woke up feeling really miserable and I knew I couldn't do this much longer. I decided to take an inventory of my life to determine if it was worth trying to pick up the shattered peices of my broken spirit.

I got a pen and paper and sat down at the kitchen table and made two lists. One list was all the negative things that were tearing me down and the other was a list of all the positives. of course I was dwelling more on the negatives as I embarked on the task. The negative list was getting long and depressing as I pulled each painful bit out and wrote it down. after I finished that side, I then had to force my self to try to come up with some positives to put in the other list. At first I just went with the obvious stuff like having a decent home to live in and clothes to wear as well as food to eat. Then I added the nice car I drove and the job that paid the bills. soon I found that as was working on listing the good things in my life as opposed to the negatives that my overall mood was starting to improve. as I began to dwell on the positive things I realized that my broken spirit was starting to heal. This was a turning point for me.
I have learned that by counting my blessings I am able to keep a positive attitude. I no longer focus on the negatives but rather on what is good and right in my life. This positive thinking brought me out of what could spiraled into a suicidal state of mind.

By choossing to engage in positive thinking and not dwelling on the unhappy and unprofitable things in life, I was able to quickly overcome a serious case of depression and to live my life with joy and peace within my soul and spirit.
Now when I find myself starting to sink back into the negative mindset I start counting all the good things that I have been blessed with. It is amazing just how quickly I am am able to pull out of a negative slump.

"Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy ~ meditate on these things." Philippians 4:8


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Love to write and am interested in a variety of subjects. l Love my family and friends and my dog Peewee.

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author avatar Retired
28th Apr 2015 (#)

Yes, sometimes life can throw things at us we really don't want or can't deal with. But making a list of negatives and positives is a good idea. I hope you are feeling better. Yes, money can bring out the worst in people I'm afraid. =( I love the Bible verse.

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author avatar Retired
28th Apr 2015 (#)

Hi jjmyles; I am so sorry for the lose in your life. I myself always try to think of the positives when confronted with devastating issues in life. I find the most important thing is your faith, health and happiness. If you have these, you can face anything. Close friends and family will support you in your time of need. Even here in the wikinut family, you can reach out to them. They are always eager to listen and give you support.
Bless you;

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th Apr 2015 (#)

I thank you for this share that is uplifting. Our own may let us down but nature will not. I have had occasions when strangers stepped in to soothe my hurts and later I realized it was the Creator himself who was holding my hands - siva

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author avatar Kingwell
1st May 2015 (#)

Sorry for the rough time you've been having lately and for the losses in your life. Sadly people tend to be at their worst when it comes to money and wills. Counting your blessings is a good way to counter negativity. I like the Bible verse too. Blessings.

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author avatar Carol Roach
2nd May 2015 (#)

I am so sorry you had such a hard time.

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author avatar SaigonDeManila
3rd Jul 2015 (#)

Glad you able to weather the storms in your life!

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