That Moment We Close Our Eyes Forever

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Though we are seen to leave this world at the blink of an eye what passes through our minds in those final moments matter. It is said the sum and substance of life replays in those moments - what we did between birth and death. That imprint will remain.

Facts of Life and Death

That we close our eyes every day and open them after due rest is taken as par for the course. When I do that at the end of each day I have a sense of fulfilment that I did what I could for the day – a well-earned rest of few hours. What was possible for the day was achieved leaving out some that are better carried forward. Such feelings ensure peace of mind. Do what we can within our limitations. Let others benefit more; what more do we want other than being useful to society? Then we have our final moment here when we close our eyes for the last time never to open them again! Maybe, we do in another realm with a different outfit – that eternal moment of truth for everyone. We were welcomed here with love and expectations, but what about hereafter? Even those who have utmost faith that they did whatever they could have nagging doubts – even Mother Teresa had it, it seems! What if we rise where our exterior and interior are unable to cope with a hostile environment – to put it politely as things could turn out worse! What if what we carried forward were wiped clean like a computer hard disk – totally blank like when we came here, to pick up the pieces again. So are we leaving this heaven for something quite different?

Obstacles are Opportunities

Life is not easy for anyone even for those who try to ride on others’ efforts. They have to take the jibes though they might get used to it. Some are born in hostile environments. We can take it that we are being tested of our caliber and past karma. There are many explanations and beliefs. For me, our blessings far outweigh the negatives. In fact, people who suffer when young get a head-start in life. They become independent thinking and better survivors than those who depend on others to hold their hands for too long. Life is what is given to us, the circumstances we face and our ability to overcome the odds. We have to swim against the tide but what respite when nearing the shore! The basic idea seems to be to test our moral fiber – so may be, the obstacles are there for a reason for the ride beyond! Is there no escape then when we close our eyes for good here?

Way towards Fulfilment in Life

I have observed many having everything they need but on a moaning mode and then also, thankfully, those with nothing – do not know where their next meal is coming from but lead happy lives, even spreading cheer around them. There is no guessing here who we want to associate with! I have tried to take a path that I am comfortable with and also put others at ease. My presence should enhance the whole. Whatever I do should leave better moments, vibes, in the whole scheme of things and there are times when the better option is to keep quite! I would like to share few pointers that I have learned towards a life of fulfillment:

Live on own terms: We are part of family and society. We have a work place and before that school. And then time for retirement and contemplation. We are always amid people. We have to make effort to fit in and not spoil the party. Even when we depend on others we can spread some cheer by accepting some against our grain – wait for the storms to cross and then get our message across! However, we should live on our terms – take responsibility for our actions and even inaction. Why allow to be dictated to and blame others later? We have a mind of our own and we should be comfortable with the consequences of our actions. I have seen few blaming others for their predicament and that is less than fair as they refused to take own path when it mattered.

Aware of others’ needs: We come across few who are in a world of their own. They do not fit in to society or even family, and others around them have to put up with them! Everyone is entitled to own space and we have to be aware of this simple fact. I know few who want me to cast away everything to attend to their needs that are always overdue. The sad fact is they have been getting away all their lives with such an attitude with others too. That borders on plain selfishness. I politely tell them I am busy with other pressing work and if it was urgent they should have told me earlier. Of course, I prioritize and evaluate the sense of urgency.

Nothing belongs to us: It is natural to become possessive but that trait should not become obsessive. I have seen some living their life in a reverse Robin Hood mode! They rob from the poor and pass on to the undeserving. They succeed to a large extent mainly due to the largesse of the minds of the majority who close their eyes to injustice, are accommodating. So it emboldens the former to overdo their passion – wealth for own sake. They keep accumulating by unfair means only to succumb to a swindler! It is bad karma – plain and simple. When we live our lives with a clear feel that nothing belongs to us – okay, we have temporary legal possession here – then our lifestyles change. If only we translate such thinking to a larger canvas that country borders are imaginary – man-made! Are not wars waged over these – does it really matter, these imaginary borders?

Help those in need: I try to devote all my time for those in need. The rich can take care of themselves or rather they avoid the poor! No need to look for easy life as their hoardings are mostly tainted – only the degree varies! Either they have not earned it themselves by dint of hard work or they got a bigger slice than they were entitled to! We know what is rightfully earned. Not all criminals are in jail and many manage to stay outside the porous arms of law – enough said! Maybe, one last hurrah – behind every fortune there is at least one crime!

Get ready for the call anytime

What we have is the time between birth and death. Even that is a stretch as we are dependent on others for half our lives. Childhood takes almost a quarter of our lives while old age an equal measure! I have seen few losing control over their reins despite holding on to a fortune. They become afraid to offend those they depend on and justice and fair play goes out the window when doubts about survival kick in! These happen in politics too when expedient actions are taken with hardly a thought for the country, world or the future. Anything is justified by pulling the wool over the eyes of the citizens. But when we are seized of the ultimate truth that we are on call anytime and that does not deny even those who hardly feel their time is up – most of these gimmicks to fool others will become meaningless. One has to leave in a hurry without even a hurried goodbye! So let us be ever prepared for that moment and our actions and thoughts be ever attuned to the way we want to live those precious times – it may be amount to few seconds but could well prove eternity in our timeless journey. We need to evolve into higher consciousness and not continue to live in a dog-eat-dog world – though that saying is an affront to our fellow traveler!



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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Steve for your unstinting support - grateful - siva

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author avatar Steve Kinsman
24th May 2013 (#)

Great advice, timeless wisdom, Siva. Thank you.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Steve for your kind words and support - siva

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author avatar C.D. Moore
24th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Siva,Thinking of one's death puts everything in perspective. Wise words to reflect on.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th May 2013 (#)

Thank you C D Moore. Let us live our lives on our terms but also never forget that there is a larger purpose - that we are a part of the whole - siva

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author avatar Retired
24th May 2013 (#)

Siva -- Some interesting observations, to be sure. Provocative.

Mr. Rick

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Mr. Rick. These are my observations and experiences from life - siva

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author avatar LOVERME
24th May 2013 (#)

INSPIRED BY
OUR ONE AND ONLY wikis lord siva..
PLEASE READ THE REST AT MY PLACE ERE YOU TOO REST..

You talk here of routine mundane death
I have expe......

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Loverme. I know your views like you know mine. Sharing will bring knowledge and invigorate contemplation. After all, it is a shared journey that started for us here at Wikinut - siva

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author avatar LOVERME
28th May 2013 (#)

i only share
with all and leave it to all
to share
not necessarly follow me tc siva lord

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th May 2013 (#)

Thank you, Loverme. We have different life experiences and cultural backgrounds. Let us have independence of thought and share what we feel for the benefit of others too - siva

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author avatar Mariah
24th May 2013 (#)

There is no greater wealth than the fruits of the giving and receiving of love,sincerity, friendship and respect.
You are so right in saying materialistic possessions are without worth in terms of true fulfillment. Such wisdom and insight when you refer to
extending our thinking to a larger canvas, to see that in reality, borders are no more man made restrictions, The earth, the world, belongs to all.
Wonderful article as always my dear Siva.
Thank you for all that you teach us through your words.
Mariah.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Mariah, you are a jewel here lending your support to many. We are crossing borders in split seconds through IT, and we know the majority everywhere yearns for peace. But a small minority sets the agenda of war and whip up negative emotions. It is time we fought for the what the majority wants - peace - and to be left alone. Then our world will be what it was meant to be! siva

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
24th May 2013 (#)

Dear Siva . I for one am not afraid when my time of departure comes form this world to the next , as you most probably realize by now m faith is in my Saviour , who I know will welcome me home and into His heavenly realm . My desire and prayer is that all my dear friends here at Wikinut will be with me as well .
God bless you my friend with His love and peace and saving grace .
Stella ><

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Stella. You are always a well wisher with kind and encouraging words of support. You spread cheer and hope all around. Though my words can be construed as idealistic and naive, are we not paying the price for the selfish acts of few with little regard to the welfare of the majority, our future, our planet? And they manage to hoodwink the majority. Greed should have limits. As Gandhi said - we have everything for our needs but not for one man's greed! siva

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
24th May 2013 (#)

truly Siva you bring forth wisdoms of the heart in such profound ways...thank you...as i have said before we are walking together into the heart of God

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Carolina. When our thoughts and actions are inspired by the divine within, and we listen and act on them, why do we fear? When the call comes, we should leave without a second thought leaving others to fulfill and pursue their karma. Some guidance from us could prove useful but for that we have to earn the right! siva

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author avatar Shirley Shuler
25th May 2013 (#)

What words of wisdom, Siva... we never know how short may be the road that lies ahead, I try not to take anything for granted.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Shirley. I do hope that we see a turn in our consciousness - a side that we see that exudes inclusiveness. From each as per ability and to each per need. Where there is a will, there is a way and we all know what is the right thing to do. Hatred gives only fleeting moments of triumph like 9/11 - siva

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author avatar Vartika
25th May 2013 (#)

Profound words, Mr. Siva. You are a very enlightened soul.

We should be able to re-live our life journey with a smile on our face when we say our good-byes to this world. It would be a wonderful life if we kept in mind what we will take with us on the journey afterlife.
Loved this. Thanks

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Vartika for your generous words. Though no one has seen God, we can feel his presence in many ways. Likewise, we can feel the presence of loved one's departed in various ways. The spark of the creative force is within us and guides us, but the world as a whole refuses to listen as we are on a herd mentality. Greed overpowers even the sane in no time when we move up a notch. But the moment of truth will come when we are stripped of every
thing accumulated here when the door here forces shut, not a moment more and that means not a moment to lose to find bliss through our thoughts and actions. Let us spend our days holding hands with the Creator as he nourishes everyone and also once in a while in creative destruction. Do what is right and the prompt is from within. Then we are are on a seamless journey forever - siva

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author avatar Terry Trainor
25th May 2013 (#)

Even when we format our hard discs ghosts of our internet journeys can still be found. Great piece my wise friend.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th May 2013 (#)

Thanks for your comment Terry. When we are physically no more, we can still transform into ghosts to make our presence felt, but a big maybe! siva

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author avatar Ricdelapaz
26th May 2013 (#)

Take responsibility with our action ...and yes, even our inaction... Very true! I am guilty sometimes. And I need the remainders from wise people from time to time. Thanks Siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th May 2013 (#)

Thank you, Greenleaf - happy to see your comments - siva

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author avatar Subra
26th May 2013 (#)

An interesting subject for discussion, dear Siva.

What is my purpose in life is a question asked by many people as they ponder the reasons for their existence. I always tell myself that I have taken my body to play my role in this world and that this body gives my soul a form, a content and a personality. When I took my first breath of life, I became a living being.

My purpose in life is to be happy and increase the amount of happiness and blessings in my life and in so doing increase the amount of happiness and blessings in others’ lives. This is achieved by helping others.

In this context I like to follow Dalai Lama’s teachings, in particular his words, “Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.” He goes on to say, “This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.”

He explains as follows: “I believe that the very purpose of life is to be happy. From the very core of our being, we desire contentment. In my own limited experience I have found that the more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being. Cultivating a close, warm-hearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease. It helps remove whatever fears or insecurities we may have and gives us the strength to cope with any obstacles we encounter. It is the principal source of success in life. Since we are not solely material creatures, it is a mistake to place all our hopes for happiness on external development alone. The key is to develop inner peace.”

Once again a stellar 'star' piece dear Siva!

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author avatar LOVERME
28th May 2013 (#)

purpose of life what!
good
there is absolutely no purpose to life
BUT
we have to make our lives purposeful
in order to fill up the vast void
between birth and death

some die very young and priests say
god loved then so took them away

some suffer all lifelong and wish to die
the priesty guy now says
god is punishing them that's why
they don't die


some have skipped the death queue
and crossed to over 100
then priests say god wanted them to stay
so that for the sake of ailing humanity
they longer do pray

but
I only say
‘’’live today
as tomorrow you will die anyway
extend or stretch that tomorrow
by medical help
you may

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th May 2013 (#)

Stretching our lives do not serve much purpose. If we have too much money, we will test the patience of others. If we have too little, we become a burden. We are foot soldiers and do our part and perish, disappear into thin air like all others before us. When we spread happiness, we also get it back by good karma! siva

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th May 2013 (#)

Thank you for your invaluable input dear Subra. In a way, we are imprisoned within our body. After we breathe our last, we are set free from gravitational forces that pin us down (and also from earthly possessions!). I also live by this tenet of Dalai Lama though I have not heard of it earlier. Only a happy person can make others comfortable. I also believe the hands that serve are holier than the lips that pray. We should follow the essence of religion in our daily lives than blindly follow the rituals. We need to have balance between mind and body. We should embrace completely creation as we are from the same source, and live with genuine feelings. I try to help those in need, those who feel lost, and we should ever be observant as many go unnoticed even by their own close relatives and friends. Many are hurt but they don't realize they are blessed more than they think. A slight turn in their consciousness with our help is all that is needed - siva

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author avatar akaeaves
27th May 2013 (#)

Very well said! I agree about the born in a hostile invironments.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
27th May 2013 (#)

Thank you, Akaeaves. We are all blessed in many ways. When we face hostile environments while young, we can turn that into an advantage too as have to be independent earlier than others - siva

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author avatar vpaulose
27th May 2013 (#)

Deep thoughts. Thank you dear Siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
28th May 2013 (#)

Thank you dear VP for your visit and encouragement- siva

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author avatar Md Rezaul Karim
28th May 2013 (#)

I am afraid of that day that would eventually come and I will have to face! So true, but unbelievable! You have got the guts to write about it Siva ji. One by one we will leave from these pages too!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
28th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Karim. I love to understand the different beliefs on life and death. After all, they are the wisdom that we have acquired over the years. I always ask, why kill others in the name of religion? Our Gods do not want us to do so and none has seen God too. Anyway, they can take care of themselves! However, creation is inspired by a force that we cannot even fathom. The juggling of so many things with almost zero accidents and over a distance we also cannot imagine. When this door closes another should open. But no worries as before we came here, we were doing fine! Endless possibilities;had our parents had married others, would we be born? siva

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author avatar Delicia Powers
28th May 2013 (#)

Very deep insights...thank you Siva.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
28th May 2013 (#)

Thanks Delicia for your comments - siva

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author avatar Ms. Ann
28th May 2013 (#)

Siva, this article addressed some very weighty questions of life and how to live it. Since all of us bring our personal perception of life to our writing-here is mine. In the Bible, I Peter 5:10 expresses it like this: "And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.",,,, I walk by faith in Jesus Christ. Good wrting and thought provoking.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th May 2013 (#)

Thanks Ms. Ann. So happy to read your perception of life. I have studied years in Christian and few in Muslim institutions. I also follow the path of religion I am born into - Hinduism - the basics, not much the rituals. I believe also in the law of karma - mainly think and do good without borders. Mine are derived from the experiences that I have undergone and also from what I have observed. Being in the finance field, I have seen the super rich at close quarters and their "court jesters" and also the poorest who are almost unseen and unfelt by especially the rich. We are all same - from the same source - but may have different beliefs mostly handed down to us. My simple take is we know what to do every time and when in doubt I do unto others as I would have them do unto me. When we shed ego and hubris we are holding hands with Creation itself in true essence - siva

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author avatar Songbird B
29th May 2013 (#)

An amazing and thought provoking article dear friend, that you write from the heart and your remarkable insight and wisdom. Such a great read..\0/x

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th May 2013 (#)

Such kind words of support are really an inspiration for me. Thank you, Songbird - siva

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author avatar wonder
29th May 2013 (#)

Those who get a whack at every step are the ones who have seen and felt much more. A profound, touching write up.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
29th May 2013 (#)

Thank you for your support, Wonder. I look forward to reading yours again soon - siva

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author avatar madugundurukmini
29th May 2013 (#)

no greater wealth than the fruits -yes

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th May 2013 (#)

Thanks Rukmini. We leave everything here when we depart but carry only the essence of the goodness of our hearts - siva

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author avatar Christine Crowley
30th May 2013 (#)

Very thought provoking. A great post with a gold star.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th May 2013 (#)

Thank you Christine - so happy to read your kind words of encouragement - siva

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author avatar Rubinstyn
31st May 2013 (#)

Hi Sivaramakrishnan A,

I enjoyed reading your article and found it to be enlightening to some extent.

I thank you for joining my following and I in turn have joined yours.

It took me over a half a century of seeking answers to the questions I had concerning the purpose for our life and existence here. I too have received revelation concerning those questions and now I have the perfect peace of our God within me.

If our LORD and Savior Christ Jesus had returned for His saints 20 years ago, I would have been in big, big trouble as many people were then and many more are now. The fact is that the LORD knew my heart and through His grace and mercy, He chose to reveal Himself and His purpose to me and I accepted all He imparted to me with faith.

I do not profess to be a Bible scholar nor have I received any theological training. What I have received is instruction on how to read and understand the Holy Bible with the guidance of the Holy Spirit giving me wisdom and discernment on the scriptures that I read. This was given to me when the LORD knew that I was sincere about seeking Him. I wish this for every person who is seeking truth on this side of Heaven.

I have no fear about closing my eyes for the last time here and entering eternity because now I know what the real truth is. Everyday I wake up here is a plus for me and a blessing for those that I come in contact with. If I do not wake up here again, I am positive where I will be. I have obtained the long sought after win-win situation and God's perfect peace within my heart to validate His WORD to me.

I am moved to share what I have found to be true through my inspirational articles. I would appreciate you reviewing what I have posted here on Wikinut and give me your comments / input.

May our God continue to bless, protect and prosper you, your family and all of your laudable undertakings. ~Selah.

Please let me hear from you when time permits.

Sincerely,


Rubinstyn Bluthenthal, PhD., 32°
Rubinb1944@yahoo.com

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Rubinstyn. I have read and commented on some of your posts. The beauty of a site like Wikinut is we can share our thoughts, beliefs and experiences, and be enriched by them. I appreciate your deep faith and the solace it gives you to face the vicissitudes of daily life and even hereafter. I have understood the basics of all beliefs and try to make sense of them. They are influenced by the times they originated and also the place. For me, I observe what goes through daily lives and the changing lifestyles. I have seen some live for others' benefit while also those who are plain selfish. Generally, they are not differentiated by beliefs. And also some who are plain hypocrites and use religion to profess a lifestyle that they do not even follow. I think that is the ultimate issue that creates mistrust. My posts are based on my life experiences and the basics that I live by. I abhor hypocrisy, greed and hubris - they are the evil seeds we sow and we are reaping - they grow faster than love and compassion! And I cannot imagine killing each other for our beliefs - the anathema of creation itself! The young are told to behave well, but do they see them practiced even by own parents? Of course, there are the exceptions.

I am so thankful that you chose to share your thoughts and the blessings - siva

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author avatar Mike Robbers
31st May 2013 (#)

A thoughtful article about life and how one should live and make the most out of it while it lasts. I enjoyed your positive view and feeling throughout your article. An excellent read that certainly gives some food for thought.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jun 2013 (#)

Thanks Mike for your uplifting comments. These make my day - siva

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author avatar Kingwell
1st Jun 2013 (#)

Although we all have our thoughts about what happens at death, it is really the great unknown. It is best to think that life continues and that we but change buildings.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Kingwell for your thoughts. It might be as in life; when one door closes another opens - we are too used to it! Life is the greatest miracle as we know it, but could death prove a bigger one? Hope burns eternal! siva

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author avatar vellur
1st Jun 2013 (#)

Great write. Being ready for the call is the toughest thing to do. We do not even have time to say goodbye and I think it is so unfair.Your writings always make me think and I get to learn a lot.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
1st Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Vellur. We share what we know and it is such a pleasure - siva

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author avatar Retired
6th Jun 2013 (#)

Pure wisdom delivered with articulate compassion,d ear Sivaji, as ever, laced with both wisdom and love. NAMASTE and blessings, rd

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
7th Jun 2013 (#)

Thank you Rama-ji for your never failing support and encouragement. I am touched that my thoughts strike the right chord in many. We all yearn for love, compassion, sharing of good tidings and they come free except for the time - that is wasted on selfish pursuits. Namaste - siva

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author avatar Richard Field
11th Oct 2013 (#)

Very wise inspirational words Siva. As we must prepare for Life, so we must prepare for Death.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
11th Oct 2013 (#)

Thanks Richard for your visit and support. This also gave me an opportunity to revisit one of my earlier posts - siva

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