The 3 Requisites to be Accepted in the Gay Community

Andres Fragoso Jr By Andres Fragoso Jr, 16th Feb 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL
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There are 3 requisites to be accepted in the gay community. Youth, Body, and Money. Without one of the three you’re The Walking Gay Dead.

Discrimination Among Gays

When writing about gays in the gay community you have to know that there is a big discrimination among the gays. It is not so obvious because we throw big parades full of gay man that look Straight are in Drag, cute Boy Toys and everyone else as well. We fight for equality and marriage rights. We deserve to be equals in everything. That does not exclude discrimination. We fight to marry each other and to discriminate those who are different with our community.

Gays vs Lesbians

In the 70’s and 80’s it was Gay’s against Lesbians. No one wrote about it as dogma. However, if you read some of the stories or articles you will see it. Fem’s hated Butch lesbians because they were not as women as they are or manly as their own. On the other hand, the Lipsticks hated the fems because they were fighting over the same Straight guy. Ahh. It was such a mess. My best friend a Butch Lesbian is the greatest person I have ever known. When we used to hang out together, or lived together we never had a partner. Years after we figured out why, they thought he was my Straight boyfriend.


That discrimination among gay man is obvious when you go to a gay bar, a group meeting, or any event that you have a bunch of gay guys getting together for a community service or otherwise, they will form Clicks. Write how they form clicks and push aside those oldies, uglies, chubbies, and sometimes those breeders. Write your character having to deal with this discrimination. Not only will you help dissolve this hatred among our own, but you will also give him an obstacle that he can maybe overcome. These requisites are hard to come by for some, especially us 45 year olds.

The 3 Requisites

I present to you the 3 Requisites to be accepted in the gay community. Youth – If you are over 21 and you do not have this requisite, you had better have one of the other 2 requisites. This is the most coveted requisite as well as the most fleeting one. Its enemy is Time. I feel bad for the Boy Toys when they get older. Body – If you have youth and you were active you know have the Magical Duo. Straights, Boy Toys, Drag Queens, Twinks, and yes, Bears. The requisite you can work on and achieve it if you are an outsider. I have tried and it is hard to exercise, and I do not have the discipline. As a chubby, I can at least get this one. I will see you at the gym. Money – If you are under 21, have the body of Adonis, and you have money, you are the Coveted Trifectas. You will have men worshiping you at your feet. You can be without the other two, look at Sugar Daddies. Walking Dead - Gays beware, be afraid, and be healthy. If you do not have any of the three requisites, you will be one of the many Walking Dead. You do not want that, it is depressing.


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Andres is an avid reader and writer. As a gay man he works hard when writing to promote non-stereotypical gay personification.

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
16th Feb 2014 (#)

Good morning, Adres; thank you for taking on a challenging topic. I provide a substance abuse recovery support group for HIV positive individuals, and was not aware of the discrimination within the community until this experience. Yet, I should have remembered that not all women are supportive of other women, nor men supportive of other men. Why should I have assumed it would be different within the gay community? I believe I assumed it would be different as there was more commonality than differences, yet that has not proven to be the case. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Andres Fragoso Jr
16th Feb 2014 (#)

Thank you Marilyn for sharing your experience. I hope that one day we are more accepting of ourselves so we can accept others. Its hard when you see it everyday and its part of your life. I am willing to keep changing my believes and hope more gays would do as well.

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