The Grandeur Of Punjabi Weddings

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The Grandeur Of Punjabi Weddings

Indian Weddings as we all know are cheerful and lavish with traditional decorations and ceremonies and of course, the exquisite food. Every region of the Indian Sub-continent thrives with various colorful cultures with different ceremonies and traditions they follow at the weddings but they all share one common factor, i.e. the grandeur of their weddings.

Every Indian Wedding Ceremony is a huge event which runs for three to four days involving the relatives from both sides of the families which are soon to be bonded. Sparkling clothes and elaborate bridal wear are worn which distinct embroideries and stone work done on them which are specialty of the culture in which the bride is getting married.

Out of all the cultures, one of the oldest and the richest cultures in India is the Punjabi culture which believes in the ideology of 'Nohaar' which means living life king size and without worries. So, as the word suggests the Punjabi culture lives king size and celebrates in a Kingly manner. Their weddings especially are no short of a spectacle with woman wearing authentic jewelery and the bride and the groom dressed in the traditional gems embedded cloths. The feasts that follow the wedding ceremony are the best part of a Punjabi wedding as the Punjabis are know for their rich variety of food all over the world.

Lets have a look at the wedding procedures which happen at a Punjabi weddings:

Rokka: This is the first ceremony which is held before the wedding and is conducted at the bride's soon to be home. The family of the groom get together and conduct a pooja where they pray to their chosen god to bless the couple with happiness and engage them until the time they are married.

After the Rokka ceremonies is over, the couple is allowed to talk to each other as they were not before the ceremony because of an old custom that the girl and the boy should not talk to each other until they are married so as to show a gesture of respect to the family elders.

Shagan And Chunni: The Chunni ceremony is often known as the official engagement which is conducted at the brides house or the venue which the bride's family has booked. The family of the groom bring lots of gifts, sweets, Fruits and dry fruits and lots of other gifts and clothes which are necessary for the bride.

The friends and acquaintances of the bride dress her in the clothes which have been brought by her in-laws. Then both the bride and the groom are seated together and the mother of the boy places a red scarf 'chunni' on the girls head and the mother -in law of the bride gives the bride various gifts like bangles, Vermilion and Henna.

The father of the boy puts lots of dry fruits in her Jholi and everyone from the boy's family feeds her a full dry date which is a considered to be prosperous. The boy is also fed sweets so as to make a gesture that the family has accepted the bride whole heartidly.

Sangeet: This is a get together where all the family members from both the sides of the family sing and dance at their home on the bhangra music where drums are beaten in rhythm. At older time women of the house used to sing along with one women beating a Dholak in rhythm, singing folk songs. The ceremony is held the at night and the families dance for the whole night.

Mehndi and Batna: the ceremony is held a couple of days before the wedding day. The bride is made to sit on a wooden stool and is applied on with a paste which is a mixture of turmeric and mustard oil by her family. The paste is called Batna which is meant to enhance the complexion of her skin. The same ceremony is carried out by the family of the groom.

The significance of this ceremony is solely regarding the enhancement of the couple's complexion. A priest is also called who performs the prayer for the happiness of the bride and the well being of her family and her husband.

She is then made to take bath after which the mehndi ceremony is conduct where the bride is applied with henna which is sent to her by her mother-in-law on her feet and hands. The family members of the bride get together and sing songs while she is being applied mehndi.

Chooda Ceremony: This is a ceremony where the bride is given a set of cream and red bangles with which gold trinkets and precious metals and shells are tied. The chooda is bought by the friends or other maternal aunt and uncle of the bride and is not meant to be seen by the bride until the end of the chooda ceremony.

After this the bride runs her hands over the unmarried members present at the occasion in order to drop a trinket or any tied up piece with the bangles on a person. This is an old custom as it is meant that anyone on whom the trinket drops he/she may be the next one to get married. This is a very entertaining ceremony as it considered is like a game and hence is fun filled.

Buying The Wedding Attire: this is a very important ceremony as it involves buying the clothes for the bride to wear on the wedding day. The attire of the bride is mostly a red lehenga which is a very heavy dress with jewel and complex embroidery on it. The groom mostly wears a sherwani and a turban which is touched by the family elders as a gesture of giving blessings.

Sherabandhi: After the groom dons the attire, he is meant to sit in a pooja where the family members of the groom appear and he is made to wear a headdress made of flowers or gold trinkets. The priest put the tikka on the fore head of the groom and puts a garland in his neck with money threaded through it.

Ghodi Chadna: This is a ceremony where the groom's sister-in-law puts kajal in the groom's eyes and the other relatives adorn the mare with offering her pulses to eat and putting garlands in her neck. After the groom sits on the mare, he then move towards the temple or the Gurudwara to take the blessings of the almighty and from there the groom and his family proceed towards the wedding venue.

Milni: As they reach the wedding venue, the bride's family is already waiting for them to welcome them. The tilak is done on the groom and then the milini is done where relatives from both the sides meet by hugging each other one by one, according to the relation they have with the family. For example, the maternal uncle of the bride would meet the maternal uncle of the groom. Similarly others would meet their respective relatives.

Varmala: After everyone has entered the venue the bride is brought inside the venue to sit along with the groom where they first don each other with garlands symbolizing that they have accepted each other. After the Varmala the relatives and invites enjoy the feast.

Phere: This is a ceremony which includes long rituals to be done involving the parents and the couple. The ceremony is carried out at an auspicious time which is figured out by the priest. During this ceremony the priest reads out the mantras and the couple revolve around the fire which is been lit in a iron pot.

They take these phere to pledge for undying love and loyalty among each other. While taking the phere the bride's chunni is tied with the turban of the groom meaning that they both would tread the thick and thins of life together. They take around four to seven phere with each phera meaning one promise. After the phere are complete the couple takes the blessings of the people present at the ceremony.

Vidaai: In this ceremony the bride has to depart from her parental family to go with his groom and his family. While moving out of the venue or the house, she throws back puffed rice which means that prosperity and happiness is always maintained there in the house and among her family which she is leaving behind. She then is escorted by her cousin brothers and maternal uncles to the car.

Paani Vartana: When the couple reaches the house they are welcomed by the mother-in-law of the bride and she performs and arti with a pitcher filled with water from which she has to drink a small amount of water. After this ceremony she is made to enter the house after the mother-in-law pours small amount of mustard oil on both the sides of the entrance.

Phera Dalna: This is a ceremony where the bride and the groom both have to come and visit the maternal house of the bride and stay there for a day. They are given gifts and feasts are arranged for them.

After they spend a day at the maternal house of the bride, they go back to the maternal house of the groom culminating the wedding ceremonies.


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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
22nd Aug 2013 (#)

How interesting this piece, keep your traditions and culture alive to the new generations.

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author avatar Crazzy Paul
22nd Aug 2013 (#)


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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
22nd Aug 2013 (#)

At the contrary, thank you! Its well worth it to follow this tradition when you marry a beautiful and charming Indian lady!


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author avatar Randhir Bechoo
22nd Aug 2013 (#)

Interesting article.I notice that most of the procedures you have written here are followed in South Africa.The hindu weddings ceremonies are performed by vedic pundits according to the vedic scriptures.Close in resemblance to the punjabi style...

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author avatar kaianni
23rd Aug 2013 (#)

Wow sounds elaborate. I would never marry someone I had never talked to... I guess I should be glad I live in America.

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