The Tiger VS. The Jaguar

Empress By Empress, 15th Mar 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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I am rebutting and counter attacking on some harsh and negative comments made against me.

The First Stone Has Been Cast

It is with great emotion that today I write. It has been brought to my attention that I had a peculiar amount of comments on most of my writing by a very certain woman who was continually calling me out, putting me down and all in all being rude, contemptuous and "holier than thou". Of course, being of the curious nature I did in fact go back and take a look for myself. The newest barrage of hurtful comments coming just recently on my newly posted article about negativity. Way to drive my point across. A good solid hit right down center field helping me cross home base and win the game. At first I was angry, even hurt by the negative comments. Accused of thinking myself saintly, and without sin. Told that I am basically casting the first stone. My first response was "those in glass houses should not throw stones".
I was beside myself with a futile hostility as I began to really dig into the comments left on each article. And couldn't help but wonder why she chose to write her own poetry and works with a wonderful copyright symbol on so many of my pieces. As I began to really research her deeper I found that I am not the only one she has been verbally attacking. In fact, she does it quite often and with great resentment, anger and hostility towards others who are in fact hurting within. Again, I noticed that her original pieces were being cleverly slipped in on a great deal of other people's pieces. Hmmmmm.....strange.

Crosses To Bear

Now, while I do agree that everyone has an opinion, and in fact is entitled to speak it freely without fear of oppression or judgement, it is beyond clear that other's opinions should not in fact be the oppressor or the call of judgement on another person. Do unto other's as you would have them do unto you. Words of encouragement and love do far more for a person that shutting them down and trying to stick the knife in their wounded and scarred heart. I will be the first person to admit that I am flawed. I have been hurt badly in my life, I have made many mistakes in my life, there of course are negatives to me. I am an open book to all who wish to read it, but....I always ask that it be done with kindness and a non judgmental attitude. We all have crosses that we must bear on this journey of life. What is more helpful? If each of us were to reach us and help the person beside us lighten their load? Or to stand there and mock and ridicule those that struggle to carry the weight? I commend and applaud all those that feel they can carry their own weight without struggle, though I am inclined to be more harsh towards those that are bitter and scornful.

My Research Reveals.....

As a writer, I do a great deal of inner searching within my soul. I also tend to do a great deal of outer research. I read a fair amount on just about as many topics as I can get my hands on and am well skilled in reading people and their actions. Yes, I am being extremely vain and confident right now, because I am proud of my gifts and achievements as is my right and privilege to do so. Nobody can take that away from me, anymore than I can take it away from anybody else. Pride may be a sin, but again, I never said I was perfect, without flaw, or without sin. Erego, I am NOT a saint.
So, with being called out, put down and looked down upon with stern judgement I decided it was hightime to do a bit of research. That's the lovely thing about technology these days, with the right means you can find anything so desire to find. Although, I'm well aware that she is very boastful and tries her hardest to get everyone's attention and find her on the internet, I am quite positive that she herself, does not believe that any would be able to find any pertinent and hidden information about her that she has not already disclosed to the present public. But.....I am not everybody. I am me, and she may be the jaguar in this story, silently and calculatingly stalking and attacking her prey but I am the rare tiger ever watching, ever mindful, always ready to defend what is mine. And this more than silent jaguar has encroached upon my territory, my inner sactum, and has raised a foul stench upon it.

The Difference

I am angry yes, even hostile at this precise moment in time. Threatened? No. Will I act upon these aggressive and furious feelings welling up deep within me? Aside from this article, no, I will not. As the graceful and beautiful tiger I am extremely patient. This does not mean that I will sit back and not do anything as my demeanor and way of life is shot down and soiled. I will just calmly and patiently watch and learn from the acts, the words, the attacks that come from the fierce claws of this agile and sneaky jaguar.
But aside from this, I will not attack back. It is with love and forgiveness that I will watch the sad and heartbreaking acts of futile harm she is causing. With watchful, and ever seeing eyes I have seen the pain, the struggle, the inner turmoil that she has, and continually goes through. I do not pity, sympathize, or empathize at this point any part of what she has gone through. Not because I am cold hearted, but because I, knowing far too well the damage that can be done by divorce, separation, and domestic violence, also know that the path she has gone down will do nothing but harm her and cause her to self destruct. It is this heartbreak that she has endured, and her healing process that has caused her to become so heartless, and so vain. Being torn down so harshly by someone she has loved, and she has built herself back up, too high, to far above herself. She has created an inflated ego and can no longer see the forest for the trees. And it is within this knowledge that I graciously step back into the sun and will not follow her into shadow. For it is this inflated ego, and the deep lying hurt and resentment inside that cause this once magnificent jaguar to hunt, attack, and lure her unsuspecting prey into the shadows of her deep lying hatred.

The Tiger and The Jaguar

I will end this rebuttal article against my negative oppressor with a small and sad story from my own life in hopes that the jaguar will see it and understand that we all have crosses, burdens, scars, and baggage that we must carry. I too, come from a harmful background. In fact, my whole life can be summed up as harmful and damaging should I choose to be negative. But, I am an uplifting and positive person for the most part, and I choose to look at all bad situations as a way for me to grow and become a better person. I spent ten years in a very harmful marriage with a very vile and disgusting man. He beat me down physically, emotionally and mentally. On a regular basis I was put through shame for being who I am, for what I was, and told that I was never, and never will be loved. He broke my bones, he broke blood vessels, he broke my skin, and he broke my heart and soul. It was with an inner strength pulled from the deepest part of my bosom that I was able to finally remove him from my life. And it was a greater feat of strength and perseverance that I had to face the inner demons of his ill gotten means and pull myself from the very pit of hell he placed me in. But I survived. As we all must when faced with such pain and anguish.
It is our given choice as to how we survive such trials. The way we perceive ourselves, how we heal from it all, and if we even allow ourselves to properly heal is of our own doing. I have chosen to heal and perceive myself in a positive way. To some this may seem untrue, based on who I am as a person. I have in the past, been accused of not allowing myself to heal based on the fact that I am a submissive, and I'm sure the jaguar will call me out on this as well. Before I say anything more, I will say this. My choice to be submissive is no more a choice than choosing to breathe the air around me. Who I am was merely an excuse for a "man" to beat me down in an abusive manner. I love far greater and far stronger the man I have than this jaguar could ever understand so if she chooses to call me out upon yet another facet of who I am and try to place it in a negative light this patient tiger may have to pull out her claws. And as I was saying, we all choose how we heal from great pain, as I, the patient tiger have chosen to heal and move forward with a healing hand and love for others, the jaguar has chosen to move into shadow and darkness. To let the hate, the bitterness, the resentment and the pure disgust mirrored in her abusers eyes take over the very heart and soul that is her. She speaks with mock succor and reaches out her hand to pull and draw unsuspecting people in. And once they step foot within her shadowy lair, the claws sink in and her vile and putrid words of hatred and disgust spew forward as the spit from her dirty vile mouth. She lives only to hurt others as she has been hurt, to cause suffering among others as she has felt herself. Unfortunately, she is not the only one out there that has turned to this way of coping and healing, and she will not be the last either. We will all, from time to time come across one of these lurking, dangerous jaguars. And we must be vigilant and watchful, always being wary of the whereabouts of such creatures.
For me, I will face the jaguar head on if need be. I do not fear such wreckless and harmful behaviour from anyone. Though I am quite docile and peaceful and enjoy basking in the warm rays of the sun. When provoked, prodded and even scratched it will incite and arouse a deep anger and rage within me. And I will not pity, nor sympathize with the wounded party when I am done. If the jaguar, or any other dark shadowy, devious, evil and deceitful creature has the gall and audacity to provoke a sleeping tiger than they must receive the great punishment that will befall them. So dear beautiful and once majestic jaguar, I beseech you, do not go treading on my territory with leaden paw. Without prejudice to the hurt within you, I will be forced to use my mighty strength to force you down upon the ground. And if need be, I will push until you must crawl away, tail between legs, sulking and worshiping the ground that your victims walk upon. And as for all of you that have been hurt, and victimized by her cruelty, please remember that she is nothing more than a shadow demon. Empty inside, lost to her own hatred and wants nothing more than to see others beat down and hurt. A bully, and nothing more than that.

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Negative Attitude, Negative Feedback, Rebuttal

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I write and have published poetry and was editor of the school newspaper all through highschool. I can write a variety of different genres from articles to novels

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
16th Mar 2014 (#)

Sadly it takes two to fight. Bullies and victims. The bully gets pleasure in seeing a victim get upset. The people who are not bullied are the ones who do not react.

In real life I suspect people would not be so bold or so mean as they are online but really it is just sad that people fight like this rather than getting on with their own lives and being happy.

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author avatar Mariah
17th Mar 2014 (#)

There's a big difference between having a dispute with someone or 'fight' as you refer to it Mark, than a would be bully..sadly.. some don't recognise the difference.

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
16th Mar 2014 (#)

a good page indeed...thank you..

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author avatar Empress
16th Mar 2014 (#)

This is true. But sometimes it is better to rise up and speak against the oppressor/bully. Continually sitting back and allowing it to happen to not only yourself but to others only feeds the need to bully more. A bully does not stop merely because they are ignored. They get louder and more contemptuous until they are heard and they get a response. Sometimes it is best to turn the other cheek, and at other times it is best to stand up and fight back. This was my moment to say something back. But I am done now.

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author avatar Mariah
17th Mar 2014 (#)

You've absolutely done the right thing Empress, ignoring them doesn't work because they do it for the attention, jealousy is a big factor too, what they lack in themselves, they try to achieve by attacking others.
I've been the target of this myself recently, and not for the first time, by the same writer, so I took a stand against it.
Well done to you on bringing this out into the open, that takes more stamina than any bully will ever know in their lifetime..stay strong my friend xx

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author avatar Dercius
16th Mar 2014 (#)

I'm afraid empress is correct, you do not make a bully stop by meek behaviour, a bully needs must be thrashed I'm afraid.

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author avatar Dercius
16th Mar 2014 (#)

And yet lady aiyanna... You have, in fact deliberately gone after empress and others in the past with absolutely no provocation.. Well now it is you who are being called out, you've thrown your last insult with impunity it seems.... And seriously.. Jaguar!?!? I'm sure you THINK it makes you "romantic" and cool? But actually, in the vernacular of the UK.. It makes you look "a bit of a sad lonely Loser" grow up... Get a life.

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author avatar Empress
16th Mar 2014 (#)

Isn't lady Aiyanna putting her writing on others articles to promote herself a breech in advertising policies on this site? Because she has none if her own on the site. Just this drivel if on the spot poetry she uses to direct people to her work

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author avatar Empress
16th Mar 2014 (#)

The poem has been removed as her comments have as well. That's good, though...I did not delete any. No complaints though. Here is to peace and love for all <3

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
19th Mar 2014 (#)

Nice and Interesting post!

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