Therapy That Hurts

Rachel R Garcia By Rachel R Garcia, 29th Sep 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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After many conversations with her mother and hearing too many lies, a daughter decides to stand up to her mother. She gives her just enough rope to hang herself. She calmly stated her point and each time received a yelling response. Not only that, her mother showed her true feelings just as she had expected she would.
Her mother and sister had already made a scene on two occasions at her brothers funeral and tried to control her brothers widow by pressuring her into making the wrong decisions.

Messenger Conversation

8:06pm
Daughter
I had a talk with Chris today again about what happened with Mari's mother. Like I told you before, he told me that she yelled some bad words and shooed him out of the kitchen and this time he said that she hit him on the leg but it didn't hurt. He said that he never told you that they had a camera in the house and that there is no video and she never hit him in the stomach. I truly don't understand where you got all of those details from. Also, Collin just had a birthday and Mari said they didn't hear from you at all. He has nothing to do with this war that you and Nessy have created. As usually everything got blown out of proportion. She could of talked to Mari's mother sensibly instead of yelling and threatening not to pay her. It's always about losing her temper and her being right. She has never once apologized for all of the mean and hateful things she has said. I had to explain to Chris that I don't hate his mother but I have to stay away from her because she causes me too much stress and I had to go to the hospital already with chest pain. He says that she tells him that he can't stay with us because I hate her. Please don't put stuff on facebook about people and their attitudes. I don't want to be part of the drama. I use this site to communicate with the friends and family that I can't see all of the time. It's up to you whether or not you want to be a part of that. I gave Nessy a chance and as usual she took the opportunity to tell me off once again because she assumed that I was attacking her when I was just talking. She thinks that no one knows anymore than she does about life. I'm not competing with her for her children's affection, and I don't want to hear people tell me that she claims to be the most successful and educated one in our family. She can believe that all she wants, but we all know that she is miserable and has more than she can handle. She claims to be mother of the year and in reality her home is a disaster zone. I don't think Robby, Mari, and her mother are all liars about that. She needs help, but not the kind where you two get together and say nasty things about people. It's time to show her something more positive. I know that you were raised in a good christian home and you are capable of being a good person like your mother. Matt thought that you hated him especially after you told him as a kid that he looked like and reminded you of his father, and took Stephens side when he and I both saw him with a knife. You need to stop taking sides and playing us against each other. I know when you are making things up, like about Matt not wanting to press charges against Arthur and the others. He told me when it happened that he couldn't do that because they were Mari's family not because Mari didn't want him to. I remember talking to him about it and he sent me pictures of his chest where he got hit. So please don't try to change the story. I know better than that. There's no reason to make things up. Matt said that when you came into his house in June that you wouldn't even look at him and he still felt like you hated him. He was a good person and wanted all of us to be together. Me asking that we get together that day indoors had nothing to do with Nessy. Matt and Mari didn't want to invite her and I just wanted you to meet Rose and for Ben to stay out of the heat. Matt and Nessy got into a big fight over it and she told him to go to hell. He had a good heart and never tried to interfere with her plans. For once he just wanted you to spend some time when him at his home. It's really sad that it was the last time you saw him and he felt that way. Remember that he was always the first one to go to pick you up when we planned a trip to Georgia. The pictures that I have of our trip last year are priceless to me. Even Kevin got mad at me for taking them of him, but thanked me after Matt was gone because he could see how much fun he had spending that time with him.
8:24pm
Mother
I THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH FOR POINTING OUT ALL MY FAULTS!! YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN SOOOO GOOD AT THAT AND SOO GOOD AT MAKING ME FEEL LIKE A USELESS PIECE OF SHIT!! PEOPLE TRY TO AVOID THE YELLING AND MAKING FUN O OTHERS AND NO ONE NEEDS TO HEAR YOUR PAIN!! YOU ACT LIKE YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO EVER DID ANYTHING FOR MATT AND YOU WERE THE MOST HATEFUL PERSON TO ME AND TO ESTHER AT MARI'S HOUSE BEFORE WE BURIED MATT!! I DIDNT EVEN WANT TO SEE YOU THAT NEXT DAY! WHY DON'T YOU DRINK A FEW MORE AND PICK ON SOMEONE ELSE FOR AWHILE!! I HAVE ABOUT HAD ENOUGH ON YOUR BULLSHIT AND TELLING EVERYONE WHAT THEY ARE AND THEY ARENT!! YOU DON'T KNOW ANYONES HEART AND YOU NEED TO KNOW THAT I TRIED TO CALL COLLIN AND SHE NEVER ANSWERED THE PHONE!! YOU NEED TO TEND TO YOU AND ALL YOUR FRIENDS THAT YOU DRINK WITH I AM SURE THEY WILL KEEP YOU HAPPY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE BECAUSE IT SEEMS THAT IS ALL YOU NEED!! IF PEOPLE DONT BOW DOWN TO YOUR WAY ITS TIME FOR YOU TO TALK SHIT SO PLEASE JUST SHUT UP AND GO BACK TO THE NEXT BEER!! OR CRAWL IN IT!!
8:35pm
Daughter
I don't know what beer has to do with anything or why you have always hated me. I was hoping that you wouldn't over react and take my words the wrong way. I give up. I thought I could get through to you. Saying these things to you made me cry because I don't know how to talk some sense into you or Nessy. There were things that happened to me as a little girl that shouldn't happen to anyone but I don't blame you. I have wanted to end my life many times but Robby needs me to be there for him. I guess they are all I need to feel like I have a family. I'm sorry for even trying to get you to understand, and wasn't trying to attack you.
8:39pm
Mother
REALLY SO HOW DO YOU THINK I SHOULD FEEL ABOUT YOU TELLING ME ALL THIS BULL NOW AFTER MY SON IS DEAD ? HOW SHOULD I REACT TO THAT? YOU KNEW HE WAS VERY SICK BUT NEVER SAID ANYTHING!
I NEVER HATED YOU I JUST I JUST HATED YOUR FANCY PANTS ATTITUDE AND ALWAYS HATING ME CAUSE I COULDN'T GET MORE FOR YOU!
IF YOU DONT LIKE WHAT I SAY ON FB JUST UNFRIEND ME BECAUSE YOU SURE ACT YOU DONT NEED ANY OF US ANYWAY!! I FEEL VERY SORRY FOR YOU!!
8:45pm
Daughter
Mari said she told Nessy about what the doctor had told him. She didn't tell me until after it was too late. He told me that you wouldn't stay with them that you always stayed with Nessy when you came to visit. Maybe he wanted time to talk to you. Just like me, he thought you would over react if he told you how he felt. I didn't expext you to call me a drunk and all of that. I don't even know why you assume that I party all the time. I drive Ben everywhere. I have to be the responsible one. I never asked you for anything growing up. I was happy with the clothes my cousins would give me. 8:47pm
Mother
NESSY NEVER KNEW MATT WAS SICK UNTIL AFTER HE DIED! THAT IS A BIG LIE!!
8:49pm
Daughter
Mari said that Matt told her about all of the pills he was taking and I heard her talking about it. I didn't know anything. He would stay hidden in the bedroom every time I stopped by.
8:50pm
Mother
NESSY NEVER KNEW HE HAD INFECTION IN HIS BLOOD WHY DID I NOT KNOW THAT?
8:51pm
Daughter
I didn't know anything about it either. He kept it from everyone. He told Mari that he wanted to die and had done the best he could to be there for Collin for as long as he could.
8:53pm
Mother
IS SHE RETARDED/ SHE SHOULD KNOW THAT SHE NEEDED TO TELL SOMEONE THAT!!
8:56pm
Daughter
I wanted to blame her for everything, but he kept telling her to leave him alone and he wasn't going to the hospital like the doctor wanted him to. Even if I had know what was going on, I don't think that he would of listened to me either. He was more afraid of being in the hospital than death.
8:58pm
Mother
I FEEL VERY SORRY FOR COLLIN BEING WITH A MOTHER ALWAYS DRINKING AND I HAVE NOTHING TO SAY TO HER SHE NEEDS TO GET SOBER AND STOP DROWNING HERSELF IN BEER AND FACE HER SORROWS HEAD ON!!
AND YOU CAN TELL HER THAT!!
8:59pm
Daughter
So now we are both alcoholics, where do you get this information from?
9:01pm
Mother
FROM YOU AND WATCHING YOU TWO!! SHE HAS BEEN DRINKING FROM DAY ONE MATT WAS ALWAYS TALKING ABOUT HER BEING DRUNK AROUND HIS SON!
9:03pm
Daughter
She would drink when they went to her sisters house and pretty heavily, but they stayed the night. I don't think that's a reason to say that she drowns herself in it and you still haven't explained why you think that I'm a drunk. I seriously don't think that you know anything about me.
9:06pm
Mother
I DONT BUT EVERYTIME I SEE YOU HAVE BEER AND EVEN AT MY SISTERS HOUSE YOU BROUGHT BEER INTO HER HOUSE!! I DONT WANT IT AROUND ME!!
DONT BULLSHIT A BULLSHITER!! I HAVE WATCHED YOU DRINK EVEN WHEN YOU KNEW YOU WERE SICK FROM YOUR HEART!!
9:12pm
Daughter
I don't think that I've ever had a problem with alcohol and I've never tried drugs. Thank you for the vote of confidence and for throwing it in my face for having a few drinks as a responsible adult should. I don't drink and drive and I can go months without even thinking about drinking. I don't need to bullshit anyone. I did a lot of things when I was sick. The reason my heart got to the point that itdid was because of the stress in my life and being overweight and even drinking a few beers. We all do things we're not supposed to.
9:14pm
Daughter
Aunt Marny didn't have a problem with us having beer there. Kevin even had a few. She wants us to come back.
9:15pm
Mother
THATS RIGHT! AND IM GLAD SHE DOES BUT YOU SHOULD HAVE RESPECT FOR HER HOME AS A CHRISTIAN HOME AND AT LEAST HIDE IT FROM PEOPLE!
9:18pm
Daughter
I asked her if it was ok to use her fridge. She said it was ok. Then we put everything in our ice chest. Really what do you know about being a Christian? You grew up in the same home as she did and you're here telling me off calling me a drunk and all kinds of hateful things. I really expected better from you.
9:22pm
Mother
I AM TELLING YOU THE TRUTH!! IM SORRY IF YOU DONT LIKE IT! WHO BROUGHT MY CHRISTIANITY INTO THIS ANYWAY? I DONT CLAIM TO BE PERFECT AND DONT WANT TOBE!! BUT NEITHER ARE YOU!!
9:28pm
Daughter
So am I. You've been telling me lies about things that don't make sense. You don't have to overreact and say mean and hurtful things to me. Now I guess I know how you really feel about me. You just showed me your true colors in the way the things you've said. I've given you every opportunity to say you are sorry, but at this point you are oblivious as to what to be sorry for. I'm sorry for thinking that you could understand me at all. Being quiet hasn't been a very good quality of mine. People seem to think that I'm ungrateful and stuck up, but actually I don't know how to ask for help or am afraid of rejection. Getting slapped by my mother as a child for saying the wrong thing taught me to keep quiet.
9:34pm
Mother
YOU SHOULD SHUT UP RIGHT NOW WHILE YOU HAVE A CHANCE BECAUSE YOU ARE DIGGING YOUR OWN SHITTY LIFE -DONT BLAME YOU LIFE ON OTHERS!! YOU SOUND LIKE A DEPRESSED INDIVIDUAL THAT NEEDS SOME HELP!! IF YOU HAVE THE NERVE TO SAY TO ME MY SON HATED ME AND EXPECT ME NOT TO REACT TO THAT! THATS Unreal!!
9:35pm
Daughter
I don't know who I was afraid of more, my father or you. I tried to stay away from you both because I didn't know what would happen next. I wanted to live somewhere else with anyone else just not to be around it anymore. Not because I thought I was better than anyone else, but because I was scared to sleep at night. Why do you think I would sleep walk. You don't think back and realize that we were alone all of the time? I know that you did what you could to work and support us, but there wasn't anyone taking care of us, feeding us. Six children were running around the neighborhood like wild animals. The last time I remember you hugging me or even spending time with me was in KInder at my graduation ceremony.
9:36pm
Daughter
I didn't say Matt hated you, I said he felt like you hated him. You told him that when you left him at the rest area when we were kids.
9:39pm
Mother
YOU ARE FULL OF SHIT I NEVER LEFT HIM ANYWHERE WE LEFT THE RADIO THERE NOT MATT!!
9:40pm
Daughter
He wouldn't get in the car and then you went back for him and tried to put him on a bus. You left him at that store and then went back because you were trying to scare him. Well he was scared all right.
We left his cap there not a radio. That's why he was upset
9:42pm
Mother
SO WHY DONT YOU TELL ME ABOUT YOUR PARENTING SKILLS SINCE YOU ARE PERFECT AT IT!
9:42pm
Daughter
I don't know why you can't admit it, he said you grabbed him and he asked why you hated him so much and you said that he reminded you of his father.
9:44pm
Mother
REALLY I AM SO HAPPY THAT YOU HAVE NEVER DONE ANY THING WRONG TO YOURE KID!!
9:44pm
Daughter
Here we go, just like Nessy. your gonna tell me that my son is retarded and smokes pot.
9:44pm
Mother
I NEVER SAID THAT!
HE IS FAR FROM RETARDED!
9:45pm
Daughter
Well why not because you've said everything else
9:47pm
Mother
NO ONE EVERY SAID THERE WAS ANYTHING WRONG WITH ROBBY ITS YOU THAT HAS TTHE PROBLEM NOT ROBBY!
9:49pm
Daughter
I'm telling you that Matt didn't hate you eventhough he could of. He was too good of a person to be like that. But you needed to know that he felt like you didn't love him. You need to find a way to make peace with that. I'm sorry now that I told you because of how you are treating me now. I told you because he never would of found the words to make peace with you, but you can find a way to do better with Collin. I don't care if you don't like Mari. There are things that I don't like about her either, but Collin is all we have left of Matt and now I go there to see him.
9:50pm
Mother
YOU NEED TO TEND TO YOUR HOUSE AND LEAVE ALL OF THE REST OF US ALONE!! I NEVER CALLED YOU SO IDONT NEED TO SAY IM SORRY FOR ANY OF THIS YOU ATTACKED ME NOT ME TO YOU I JUST ANSWERED THE BULL YOU THREW AT ME!!
9:51pm
Daughter
That's the thing, I'm not attacking you. You Just took it wrong.
9:52pm
Mother
THATS WRONG I TOOK IT THE WAY YOU MEANT IT!!
9:54pm
Daughter
Nevermind, I can't get you to understand. I'm sorry.
9:54pm
Mother
YOU NEED HELP GO TO THE DR WITH COLLIN AND GET HIM A \DIET AND YOU CAN HELP HIM BEFORE HE DIES OF FAT LIKE HIS DAD
9:55pm
Daughter
Thanks again for being understanding
9:55pm
Mother
NO YOU CANT GO TO BED! I WORKED FOR THE LAST 8 DAYS STRAIGHT AND IM TIRED I DONT STAY AT HOME!YOU BET I AM AS UNDERSTANDING AS YOU ARE!
The next time you decide to confront your mother about senseless lies, you might want to think twice about it or you just may find out what she is really like and that she never cared for you in the first place. Sometimes it's better to let people live in their own sick worlds. A mother with six children never has enough love and understanding to go around. There will always be a couple that will fall short of her affection.

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