There Is Nothing Wrong With Opening Doors For People

Janey1966 By Janey1966, 13th Dec 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/p_4t0ano/
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I Find It Incredible That Some People Don't Like Doors Being Left Open For Them..Mainly The Older Generation!

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I cannot understand why some people don't like doors being left open for them. A guy I worked with, called Phil, would always leave doors open for others and some women would snap at him and say, "I'm not an invalid you know, I'm quite capable of opening the door all by myself!"

I mean, how rude is that? It would upset Phil that (mainly) women could behave in this way and he's only being polite. "It's the way I was brought up" he would often say to me and I would make him feel better by telling him that it's far nicer for him to leave a door open for people, rather than let it swing back towards their faces.

Which would you prefer?

I have been brought up to be polite too. Having said that, though, I am slowly losing patience with some older people that frequent Marks & Spencer. Now, you would think they'd love having the door left open for them but, no, I get a scowl with no eye contact. It's like I'm letting them know how old they are by doing this kind act. Some of them don't like being reminded. Well, I'm sorry, I'm going to carry on leaving doors open for them, whether they like it or not.

It makes no difference to me how old a person is. If they are near the doorway, I hold the door open for them. I would like to point out that the younger generation are the most polite, it's people older than me I have problems with.

Mum once told me to "let the door slam in their face" but I can't do it, it's not in my nature.

Oh, and don't get me started on those who can't be bothered saying "please" or "thank you!"

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Doors Slamming In Face, Ignorant People, Opening Doors, Pensioners, Teenagers

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Currently I am unemployed so I have a lot of time on my hands. However, I feel I need to be on the internet, communicating with others, giving advice, making people laugh and, hopefully become well-respected on wikinut.

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author avatar Denise O
14th Dec 2010 (#)

Janey, it sounds like you are going to have a great Christmas with your parents.
Heck, I can not stand it either. We open doors for the person either with their hands full and coming out, as you're entering.
Also if they are behind you, as you're entering, we keep the door open for you.
Our kids have been taught this from day one, by example and by being told.
They also say nothing more than thank you, when someone does that nice deed for them.
I guess what I am saying is, it is not just my family here in Alabama, that is how our kids are raised and we also act ourselves.
It is also, yes ma'am and yes sir from the time our children are old enough to say those words. tyvm.:)
So I hear ya!
Why not allow a person to do a good deed for you and then just acknowledge their kindness.
Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar Janey1966
14th Dec 2010 (#)

Hiya Denise, I must say, when me and hubby were in Las Vegas the locals were lovely..far more polite than in England. In fact, in one bar (the first time I went with John) a barman at the Luxor remembered him from the previous time he'd been with his mates! I know he's got red hair but it was like he'd never been away!

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author avatar D in The Darling
14th Dec 2010 (#)

Hey, those are kind of thanks that we all get sometimes for trying to act civil. Great stuff, thanks for sharing!

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author avatar Janey1966
14th Dec 2010 (#)

Thank you! The thing is, it doesn't cost anything to be nice to other people does it?

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author avatar joeldgreat
14th Dec 2010 (#)

I see is as a sign of courtesy to other people. Maybe some see it as the other way around but still I prefer to open the door for them. Thanks for your sharing.

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author avatar Janey1966
14th Dec 2010 (#)

I open doors too, even though I'm a girl lol.

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author avatar TheMovieScene
14th Dec 2010 (#)

I'm old fashioned and always open doors for people whether they like it or not and I appreciate it when someone does it for me. Maybe it's a sign that society has changed, become more insular and so a kind gesture as opening a door can be seen as an attack on someone's own self worth.

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author avatar Janey1966
14th Dec 2010 (#)

That's exactly what I was thinking but you've expressed it for me lol. You are right though, some people (usually women) can't stand this opening doors lark as they "can do it themselves." Well, maybe one day they won't be able to so what will happen then? Will they still ignore those that do kind deeds? Oh, dear, I'm rambling!!

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