To speak or not to speak?

Mary Vlahakis By Mary Vlahakis, 7th Oct 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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I had a rather awkward experience yesterday that I thought that I would share. Perhaps I could get some feedback on how to react in situations like this for the next time.

Evening circus

My daughter (13) had an appointment at the dentist's office yesterday. My son had a hockey practice and so this was just another typical evening of practices, homework or appointments that we are it seems constantly rushing to get to. The traffic on the way home was particularly terrible and so when i arrived home, my husband and children had already eaten so my plate sat at the table all alone, waiting for me to arrive and eat it. I ate it in a hurry, 5 minutes to gobble down the plate, wash my hands and quickly get back in the car to take my daughter to the dentist while my husband darted off to hockey practice.

The dentist's office

So we get to the dentist's office at 6pm, which was the exact time of our appointment but of course, we are stuck in the waiting room, patiently waiting for our turn. 6:15, 6:30, 6:45...the clocks ticks away. I am thinking that I could have eaten like a human being instead of rushing to get over here only to wait 1 hour before my daughter got to see the dentist. Now that I have set up the evening, and you can perhaps get a feel for the exhaustion and irritation that I am already feeling, I can tell you where my dilemna actually lies. The waiting room is full of people and through the sound of people playing on their cell phones and whispers of people speaking to each other, I hear a humming noise. It is a constant moaning sound that seems to get louder and louder. I look to my daughter for some help, " Do you hear that noise?", I ask her. She acknowledges but has no idea where it is coming from either. The moaning turns into a chanting. I soon realize that the gentleman sitting behind me is praying in the waiting room while he waits for his appointment. He is now in a full blown chant and it goes on for about 30 minutes while I was in the waiting room.

Is it bad to be annoyed by this?

Freedom to express oneself and to practice one's religion are both things that I truly believe in. Everyone has the right to follow whatever religion that they feel applies to them and their lifestyles. I didn't ask the gentleman to kindly stop that racket becuase I was afraid that i would be infringing on his rights to express his religion. However, the more that I think about it, the more that I think that he was being very rude. The room was full of people that most probably had a full day and rushed to get to the dentist's office. Surely, there were more people that were just as tired as I was and were annoyed by that humming, moaning sound that was coming from his direction. Frankly, it has nothing to do with religion and more to do with common courtesy. If my child was screaming and singing loudly and disturbing people in the waiting room, people would probably be more inclined to advise me to do something about the noise that I was making. What if I chose a religion that demanded that I don't wear clothes, would that be okay for me to express myself that way? I think that hiding behind the cloaks of religion somehow makes it okay for people to just be plain RUDE. That's not okay with me. Feel free to share your opinions on the matter.


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author avatar Mary Vlahakis
I am a working mother of two. My writing will focus primarily on a variety of life experiences from my work life and my life as a working mom.

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
7th Oct 2014 (#)

As a Christian , I for one love to pray Mary , but I would most certainly consider others and pray quietly if I were in a busy waiting room as you were .
I would suggest you forgive that man for his inconsiderate behaviour ... , and also for the very long wait you had to put up with .
God bless you
Stella ><

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author avatar GV Rama Rao
7th Oct 2014 (#)

His freedom stops where others are sitting. He should have gone outside the room a bit far away from all the people waiting and practiced his religion. Had you told him this you wouldn't have been at fault.

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author avatar Mary Vlahakis
7th Oct 2014 (#)

Thanks. The room was filled with children and the last thing that I wanted to do was get into with the gentleman and cause trouble. I agree, I think that I would have been right but not sure that he would have agreed with me.

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author avatar Deepizzaguy
7th Oct 2014 (#)

The person that was praying in public violated on the teachings of Jesus Christ who said something like doing your prayers in a private place and His Father would reward you. Discretion is the better part of valor. No one likes a showoff unless you are a professional wrestler.

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