Various Reactions

Ellen By Ellen, 13th Oct 2013 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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It is interesting the different types of reactions that people do when they encounter a disabled person. To the disabled person the reaction can be either amusing or annoying.

Various Reactions

Since becoming disabled I have noticed the various reactions that I get from people who do not know me. People who have known me for many years just treat me the same, however people who have not known me the reactions can be amusing, annoying, or irritating.

As my daughter and I pull up into a disabled parking spot and I put the disabled sign in the vehicle I see people watching to make sure we are not using the disabled spot illegally. I can understand this because it really irritates me when people use the disabled parking spot when the disabled person is not with them or not getting out of the vehicle.

Since I do not look disabled many people will show anger and hostility towards me until they see my walker. Once my walker comes into view their whole attitude changes completely. People have to remember that many disabilities cannot be seen and people do not always need some sort of disability apparatus to prove they are disabled.
Although I am unable to walk without a walker my hearing is just fine and my eyesight is fine as long as I wear my glasses. It is interesting how people will talk very loudly or move their mouth really slow thinking that just because I cannot walk that my hearing has suddenly gone too.

There are other people who will not talk with a disabled person at all thinking that just because they are riding in a wheelchair or whatever that they are unable to have an intelligent conversation. People with that type of attitude would be very surprised at how inspiring a conversation can be with someone using a disabled apparatus because they see life from a totally different view point.

As my daughter and I do the grocery shopping I will watch people start down a certain aisle and when they see me in the scooter they will frantically move out of that aisle and head to another one. I have been in situations before when people with grocery carts have me blocked in and they stand there waiting for me to get out of their way. I am not sure what it is they expect me to do since they are the ones who have blocked me in. Maybe by some miracle I will be able to get out of my scooter and pick it up with super human strength and set it out of the way so they can move again. Usually what I do in this case is just turn my scooter off and sit there and look at them.

These people have perfectly good legs and arms and will just stand there and look at me while I sit there and look at them. Finally it suddenly dawns on them that they can move their cart and go around me, but it takes a few moments to come to this reality and it makes a person wonder who is really the disabled person.

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Annoyed, Avoid, Disabled, Leave, People, Scared, Stay

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I write children's stories. Have one book published, Working on another children's book. It is a series.

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author avatar vpaulose
13th Oct 2013 (#)

Thanks for this post, dear sister Ellen.

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author avatar Ellen
13th Oct 2013 (#)

You are welcome
Ellen

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
13th Oct 2013 (#)

Good Evening, Ellen; thank you for educating us with this article. After I returned from substance abuse treatment, I met some of my former students in their dorm. They spoke very slowly to me and articulated each word louder than usual.

I had to explain to them that I was in treatment for drugs and alcohol not a hearing problem. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Ellen
13th Oct 2013 (#)

Hi Marilyn,

I am glad the article helped you out & it is too bad that people act that way. I pray that your recovery continues.

Ellen

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
14th Oct 2013 (#)

Good Evening, again, Ellen; that was 25 years ago, however, I still remember the incident. Thank you for continuing prayers though. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
14th Oct 2013 (#)

Interesting post!

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
14th Oct 2013 (#)

dear Ellen, what is a disability to some is a blessing to others and your are a blessing to all of us here....

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author avatar Ellen
14th Oct 2013 (#)

Thank you so much for those wonderful words. I know I have not been writing as much as I did. I am just finding it hard to focus on anything and when something comes up that is close to me, I go ahead & write about it. Thank you again for those kind words.
Ellen

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