Why is it Hard to Say I Love You??

alfiebon By alfiebon, 31st Mar 2013 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Why is it Hard to Say "I Love You

Why is saying I love you so hard to say and what are the implications in saying them? There is little doubt that even saying “I love you” out loud to yourself in the mirror can give you a strange sensation. They are powerful words and saying them can either make or break a relationship.

I love you because I usually get a great boost to my self-esteem from your positive reaction and we have a lovely time together until things start to cool off and it gets really awkward for a while and we call it quits and that hurts - and I better shouldn't have said I love you in the first place.

I love you but then you might want to get married and all of a sudden my money goes out the door for all kinds of clothing and furniture which we don't need if we don't move in together leave alone having kids and I work my butt off and have no more fun...let me just say - I really like you!

I love you but what if I'm not good enough for you and when we get closer you'll find out about all my bad habits and weaknesses and I'm sure your mother will have something to say about me that will influence you negatively towards me and I couldn't possibly survive a rejection of my feelings - why can't we just be friends for a while?

When you add the word “I” to the equation it suddenly presents a whole different scenario. The report at studiocity.patch.com says saying I Love You can suddenly mean:
- commitment
- financial
- responsibility
- marriage
- babies
- accountability
- acknowledgement
- admitting

But remember that not declaring your love to someone might make you regret forever. She/He may not love you back but atleast you tried and
you will stop thinking that "does he/she loves me too?

Here are some way to confess your love to someone:

Make eye contact. Making eye contact not only shows sincerity and communicates trust, it's a delight to look into your partner's eyes when you first say "I love you." It will be a moment you will both always remember. Even though there are probably a few inches between your faces, it should feel like there is nothing between yourselves, not even air.

Say it at an appropriate time. Time the statement in a way that will make both you and the recipient most comfortable.
If you're in a private place and there's not much background noise, keep your volume low; don't whisper unless you bring your lips to his or her ear, which can also be a very intimate way to express your love.
If you want to tell your partner how you feel when you're in a public place, it's up to you whether you want to pull the person aside, or say it in front of friends or even strangers. It depends on your loved one's personality, and your own personality. Some will find it terribly romantic to be told they're loved across a room full of people; others may find it mortifying.

Be creative. Say "I love you" in another language. Write it into a poem or even a haiku. If you want to be romantic, spell it out with rose petals on the bedroom floor. Write it in code, like a Vigènere cipher. Say it in little ways, like post-it notes in unexpected places, and express it in every way you can.

Say "I love you, man." Sure, it's a goofy beer commercial tagline, but the idea is right. For some, saying this is a cultural taboo that is hard to overcome—especially for guys. But the fact is, good friends are like the family we choose, and every now and then, it's a good thing to tell the people that matter to you that you love them.. Just keep in mind that this is not about romance, this is about friendship.


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I am a Veterinary Medicine student and currently residing here at Baguio City, Philippines. I am a local model of small companies.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
31st Mar 2013 (#)

Well written. Covered from every angle a topic that transcends all borders. It is the commitment that follows that matter in the end and accepting the other with warts and all for life - siva

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author avatar Md Rezaul Karim
1st Apr 2013 (#)

Very easy and very hard... depending on the cup of tea we are choosing...
Having a decade of married life.. love is not there... and again love at first sight...
Very strange love things..

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