You Can Do It!

Memba Ben By Memba Ben, 27th Jan 2017 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Folks, you don't need motivational speakers as you are your best motivator.

Young man/lady; there's no need to feel down!

We all go through bad spells in life folks, and sometimes we just need to hear some words of encouragement to lift our spirits.

I myself was having one of those days and needed to hear some kind words. However, you’d find that you can’t speak to people who are close to you about such issues.

So, I decided to light up the tube and catch one of those shows that usually have a guest motivational speaker giving out pearls of wisdom but while I was watching the guy in action, I noticed that what he said wasn’t really motivational.

And it’s not just him, from most videos of motivational speakers that I've seen; these guys have a variation of saying one of the following:

• Stop making excuses!
• Try harder!
• Stop doing that!
• Start doing this!
• Start today!

The way some of those bastards go on, they unintentionally make a person feel like they are at fault for things not working out.

I personally find some of the things these guys saying are as insensitive as a person can get. Saying any of those four things would be akin to asking an unemployed person to go get a job. You aren’t taking into account just what exactly is going on in the person’s life.

They are basically asking people who have serious problems to “STOP MAKING EXCUSES! / TRY HARDER! / STOP DOING THAT! / START TODAY!” and that isn’t solving the problem. These people don’t even know their audience on a personal level but yet, they seemingly have the answers to life’s greatest problems.

Another issue I have with motivational speakers is what a person is supposed to do after they hear that inspirational speech.

For example:

You hear a motivational talk, and you get all fired up, but what happens next? What do you start with on that day? What will you try harder on? What must you stop doing?

JUST WHAT THE HELL IS IT I’M SUPPOSED TO BE DOING?!?

They usually leave me with more questions than answers, and that uncertainty leads me to self-doubt, which takes me back to how I felt in the beginning.

Truth be told, I think it’s just a matter of denial as I want to believe that if it could work for them, it could work for me. If I could find a motivational speaker who I could relate to, then perhaps I could stay motivated long enough to start making positive changes.

• Someone who knew me well enough to understand what I want in life.
• Someone who knows what I’ve been through.

Someone… like myself.

Folks, motivational speakers are cool and all, but ultimately, the change must come from you.

• You are the one person who knows yourself best.
• You are the one person who knows what you want out of life.
• You are the one person who knows what you’ve been through and ultimately;
• You are the person who will have to go through the change.

Everything that other people say about how they conquered their demons and all that won’t mean a thing as they aren’t you and don't react to things the same way you do.

With that said, here’s MY motivational speech to you:

Find a specific goal which you can work to, break it down to more manageable levels and take baby steps towards achieving it.

Don’t try and put time frames on things that are beyond your control and try your best to avoid comparisons to other people.

They are living their own lives, as you are living yours.

With patience, diligence and keeping your expectations realistic, you will find that you exceed what you initially set out to do.

Just do you.

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Motivation, Motivation Within, Motivational

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